Hi, im 21 and have had this friend, she and i have been friends since i was a freshman and shes 2 and a half years younger than me. Since I was 16 ive told myself that someday this girl and I are gonna tie the knot but problem is I have always been shy.
I am close to her though, to the point where things such as her getting injured and me riding to the hospital with her makein her laugh etc to make it less uncomfortable and such. Problem is i believe i gave a little too much attention and she now has more of a bro sis attachment to me instead and i dont know how to fix it.
I would do anything to fix it but it seems like whenever i try to bring up relation type topics she gets a lil nervous and sometimes even is hazy about talkin etc for periods of time. Overall i think im being too nice and done really understand what girls want.
So im hopeing to get some input on what a girl might be lookin for in this position and if theres any chance for me to fix this?
2006-12-31 08:10:16 · 13 answers · asked by Jeremiah C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she starts getting hesitant whenever you mention relationships you might want to just try dropping more subtle hints. If you've known her for 5 years, you guys should be pretty comfortable around her. maybe she gets hazy cause she's afraid if you guys did get together and then something happened and you two broke up that you'd lose the friendship and maybe she doesn't want that. but sometimes you have to be willing to take a chance. take her out to dinner and movie or buy her flowers and leave them on her doorstep or something with a little note. just start leaving doing little things that will get her mind thinking about it, and understanding that it might be time to go further than just friendship.
2006-12-31 08:14:45 · answer #1 · answered by epop08 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she gets hazy about talking about this topic is because she might like you too but shes ignoring it because she doesn't want to ruin the friendship just incase anything went wrong when you guys go out. Besides there is no such thing as being to nice. I think thats is one thing that would make her like you. Sometimes we girls pick the wrong guys that are jerks but once we get our hearts broken we figure out the nice guys are what we actually want. And maybe by telling her how you feel would break the whole bro sis attachment because she might be thinking about what it would be like to go out with you. So maybe just telling her how you feel and how long you have been wanting to go out with her will help you. It seems like you have only been like dropping hints to her but maybe when she realizes how much you love her she will look at you as more than just a brother.
2006-12-31 08:21:10 · answer #2 · answered by luvfades 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is possible that she has an interest in someone else. i have actually been in similar situations, and maybe if you spend a lot of time together that could be where you are gettting the brother/sister type relationship. if that is the case, the element of mystery is gone. if you know so much about a person, that seems more friendly or sibling like. a relationship is a slow moving thing, or at least they should be. the best thing you can do right now is not force anything on her. go with the flow. if it is meant to be, then eventually it will happen. good luck :)
2006-12-31 08:18:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jeremiah, your situation is common. Many couples begin as simply Friends and sometimes the friendship changes into romance. Can yours? Of course. But remember, you can't control her anymore than she can control you. You have two choices, talk to her or don't. Sounds like you're afraid of how she might reply if you bring it up. Perhaps best not to. If you don't talk, then keep on being there for her...but realize that as long as you are tied to an outcome you may be disappointed. Give, and if your love is returned, so much the better. It not, at least you have the satisfaction of having given her your love. I know this sounds empty, but many times offered love is returned when the other is ready, not sooner.
2006-12-31 08:17:40 · answer #4 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I say go for it! If she didn't like you, she would have turned you down for dancing. At least you got her to dance, which means she at least doesn't mind being around you. And the fact that you two are talking alot is great. Her starting conversations is also good, just make sure that you are two. If she doesn't see you showing interest, she will not want to make an effort. The fact that she has only liked two guys isn't that big of a deal. "Phyllis" only knows of those two guys. For all that we know, the girl could have liked ten guys, but those two were predominant, so she talked about them. And your friend, well, eh whatever. She will pick one of you. I wish you luck =]
2016-05-23 00:59:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is best to let her know how you feel. Maybe not right away. At first you could flirt with her a little. Put a bit of a sexual twist on your humor with her. Be sweet to her and loving in a non-threatening way and then tell her you have more than a friend feeling towwards her.... hopefully the flirting will make her more open to the idea.
2006-12-31 08:17:04 · answer #6 · answered by turtle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me compare this to a situation I was in. I know this guy for 11yrs, during many of the beginning years, I wanted to start a relationship with him, but never told him. I figured he never saw me that way, so I kept it on a friendship level, and started seeing him as a big brother instead. Apparently, he always wanted to start a relationship with me, as well, but never said anything about it.
Tell her how you feel.
2006-12-31 08:17:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe shes uncomfortable about talking about relationships with you because shes shy too? and she doesn't want you think that she wants to be with someone else?
if you really really honestly believe, and have been telling yourself for five years, that you are going to marry that girl, then you will. She probably knows it too.
Give it time. and hey! tonights new years eve! why not kiss her at midnight!?
happy holidays.
hope all works out.
2006-12-31 08:17:45 · answer #8 · answered by gigglegirl46 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a saying you dont know what you have until youve lost it . well maybe thats what it takes to wake her up. spend less time with her . date another girl. and hopefully when she sees another side of you other than a friend with this other girl. she will see what she has been missing the whole time.
2006-12-31 08:27:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look at other girls.....and make sure she sees it......she might see ur a dating machine ;) and try flirting with her just a bit....just steadily do the sort of things girls always like from guys. and tell her things like shes beautiful and say it in a way she knows u sorta like her, but dont flat out say it. just flirt and make her see u as more than a bro. make her see, wow ur a man with a heart, and that u care about her as a woman. show her more than brotherly love. and remember FLIRT. and kick any guys *** who treats her bad ;) lol
2006-12-31 08:16:23 · answer #10 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋