My boyfriend and i just met three weeks ago,after breaking up with my ex,i finally felt that i was in love with the right guy.After x-mas eve,my boyfriend and i haven't seen each other,he doesn't call me,he doesn't answer my calls,he keeps on giving me excuses that his working all the time.It being new years eve,i thought that he was gonna call me and ask me for dinner or go out clubing,he didn't even dare call me.My cousins think his a total joke and my sister thinks his a frik {bastard}.it really hurts my feeling to think that each guy that comes my way just wants to hurt my feelings and it is so sad.Should i damp him and start my new year with a free mind or should i keep going maybe he will change his mind?
2006-12-31 08:06:24 · 38 answers · asked by tipsy katwalker 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dump him.
Never let a guy mess you around. There is no valid reason for his behaviour, and you shouldn't put up with it.
Move on, and find someone right for you.
2006-12-31 08:08:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he doesn't think you guys are boyfriend and girlfriend. I mean come on it's only been a few weeks. And you dumped someone right before you two went out? You're kinda scary. This reminds me of one of those obsession movies. I think you need to just go out and date and not limit yourself to one person. It sounds like you date one and another comes along and you get all serious. You probably scared the guy off by coming on to strong. Start the New Year without getting involved with anyone. Just go out on dates and have fun, nothing serious. Best of luck.
2006-12-31 08:22:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
...... maybe your urgency for a close relationship, is actually scaring guy's away..... Maybe if when you meet a new guy,... intimate/or not intimate.... or whatever,.. you should just regard him as a good friend,... rather than an immediate instant boyfriend.... In the early stage's of friendship,. it take's time to work out each other's suitability,. and can leave one looking silly, if one of the 2 was not really looking for something long term.... If both party's start out, as purely good friend's,. then no one's dissapointed, if it does'nt go the distance.... Resist the temptation to turn a guy into an instant boyfriend,.. and this will work out much much better in the long run!...
2006-12-31 08:57:31 · answer #3 · answered by peanut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it sweetie, but it sounds like he's just not that into you. If a guy is really interested in a girl, he will call, guaranteed. Or more than that, he will do anything he can to see you. Guys are pretty simple creatures. If he's interested, you will know it. Dump him and find someone worth your time. I understand your feelings are hurt, but why would you want to be with someone who makes you feel that way? Don't waste your beauty and intelligence on a loser. Find someone who is worthy of you! Hope you feel better soon!
2006-12-31 08:49:01 · answer #4 · answered by spyhopper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is obviously not a right guy for you since you say he's making lots of excuses that sounds like he's not interested on you. if he cares then he should treat you best this new year eve, give a dinner at least...if i were leave him and start new year with free mind and wait for Mr Right Guy to come along your way...don't worry if it makes you wait as everything has a right time and right place in this world...good luck and happy new year!!
2006-12-31 08:12:02 · answer #5 · answered by Simply_Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is not behaving like a boyfriend, therefore I doubt he IS your boyfriend, other than you thinking or wanting to believe he is.
The reason you feel each guy that comes your way just wants to hurt your feelings is because you are rushing in too quick. You can't consider yourself in love after 3 weeks - 3 months, MAYBE.
Slow down and smell the roses - and watch for the thorns.
2006-12-31 08:10:56 · answer #6 · answered by Gillian 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, you deserve better. Next time, don't put urself in the position of being ignored, look for a guy that really wants 2 b with u. Life is 2 short.
2006-12-31 12:42:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's clearly already over with him- or rather, since you only met 3 weeks ago- I would say it never began in the first place. You sound delusional and desperate.
Let him go.
Raise your standards and accept being single for a while. It's not the worst thing in the world.
2006-12-31 08:12:34 · answer #8 · answered by randomstupidhandle 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he has not contacted you since X-Mas Eve, he's not going to. He's already gotten what he wants from you and you should learn from this experience and move on. Dump him...it sounds like he has already dumped and possibly already replaced you. You are always going to get hurt if you don't start changing your choices. Best wishes to you.
2006-12-31 08:12:25 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmmm sounds like he was a re-bound guy.
I would ask why you have called him so many times, and asked so many questions.
why not just call once and leave a voice mail or a simple txt.
and wait until he calls you back.
3 weeks is not long enough to start calling 24/7
time and space.
leave him alone and start stay on your own feet for 2 minutes before jumping in with someone else.
2006-12-31 08:10:49 · answer #10 · answered by DAVID B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would dump him and then give yourself some time. Maybe it was too soon for you between relationships. Just take your time in picking out the right guy for you. You and your friend could even make a list of desirable traits (for fun my friend and I did this) that you want in your next boyfriend, then look for a guy that has them. Good Luck and Happy New Year!
2006-12-31 08:10:37 · answer #11 · answered by Tracy G 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋