So, you truly love someone with all your heart. You live your life, move on, but that person still holds dear to your heart. Is it better to go through your life in love with that person, and be alone?
Or, find someone else.......Im sure most will say move on, and find someone else. But what if you love that person, but not anywhere near as much the first person?
2006-12-31 07:58:42 · 11 answers · asked by confusedbrowngirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why can't you do both? Many people experience both, people marrying young, losing their loved ones to health or unexpected deaths i life. They live alone for awhile until they can find it in their heart to love again, but never forgetting their first love as each day passes. The heart (or emotions) are capable of loving many people in their life. Does loving someone you can't be with bad? No, some people have to love someone in order to be happy. If forgetting them makes them happy then they will do that. But no...if someone experienced a deep and true love they won't be able to stop loving the person...and if the love is big enough..they may not be able to love again...and if they do..it won't be anywhere near as close as their first love.
2006-12-31 08:03:49 · answer #1 · answered by * Kittles * 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its amazing that the ONE person for us just happens along, isn't it. Isn't it funny that most "TRUE AND ONLY" loves are usually living within a couple of miles of where you live or work? Quite strange. Actually it ridiculous. We, almost all of us, have many possible "soul mates" out there. Of course some of us get caught up in a fantasy about how there can be only one. I'm old enough to be able to tell you with absolute certainty that feelings change with time. But not if you don't let them. If you keep telling yourself what you're missing and comparing each new love to your standard, you have a problem. Your brain isn't working right.
Do you compare your friends to each other? Not healthy. Treat each of us as unique. Sure you can't help but compare. But if you do it routinely, then you'll always be disappointed because you will be comparing your memories to a real person. We all forget the past, and almost always the bad faster than the good. The past always looks better than it really was, pain is forgotten (thank goodness!). So spending much time comparing the two just isn't healthy, unless it provides you the the motivation to get out there and make changes to improve you life. Many people with your fixation problem are in love with "being in love", and the other person is just a prop in the fantasy play. Loving someone isn't about "more" or "less" its about "enough".
Don't settle, your heart will tell you when you've found enough love. And don't confuse infatuation with true love. Good Luck (which happens the most to people who work at it!)
2006-12-31 08:34:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Neither. Forget about the person you "can't" be with. Friends are okay, but focus on you.
Just say to your self, "Am I so weak that I have to relay on someone else to be happy?"
Do your self a favor, work on you. Work alot, get tons of money, go shopping, or better yet, get a gym membership, and work out 5 days a week until July, then ask that same question again and I gaurantee you'll say, "Hell no!"
And at that point you'll find someone better than the other two people you were refering to.
2006-12-31 08:03:16 · answer #3 · answered by matthaumschild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about this: Find a love for urself, spend time making that person better. Sad to say, we were born complete, we don't need a member of the opposite sex to fulfill us in any way. Find a way to let go of the past(It's a part of living life) If u hit ur thumb w/ a hammer, why tell urself "I just need a different better hammer" Why not put the hammer down for a minute and tell urself "I need to get a little better at using that or I will just hurt myself"
2006-12-31 08:06:53 · answer #4 · answered by NIGHTSHADE 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's better to move on alone, than being with someone you do not really love... But always have in mind that you can never be sure for what is hidden in the future! Time can bring great changes!
I wish the new year brings you the happiness you dream!!
2006-12-31 08:11:45 · answer #5 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the type of person you are. I would rather walk through life alone and in love with that person than to be with someone who is only second best. Not only is it unfair to me but it would be totally unfair to that person, especially since you wouldn't be giving your all. A relationship is to give your best and if you were with someone but in love with another, then you wouldn't be giving your best love to the one you were with.
2006-12-31 08:02:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is better to have loved and lost then to have never loved! If you truly can't be with the person you are in Love with, for whatever reason...then you should move on! If it was meant to be, then you would be with the one you love, move on!
2006-12-31 08:05:19 · answer #7 · answered by Ŗεŋεε 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-06 06:34:14 · answer #8 · answered by cosco 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find the person u truly luv and make sure they luv u bak. make a good relationhsip; honesty communicatio etc. and spend ur life wit that person
2006-12-31 08:01:40 · answer #9 · answered by redefined x27 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
FInd someone else
2006-12-31 08:02:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋