We were kinda hitting a rocky patch and alot of it had to do with lack of a sex life. She is overall a good girlfriend, but the lack of sex in the last 5 months we've been together was starting to get to me. We've had sex and we both had a good time. But it has been a hassle to get her on birth control so we can do it safely. She is scared she is going to get used but I have been there for her and not making a big deal over it. We had a fight the other night and broke up until she called 8 hours later saying she wants to work things out..well in that 8 hours a girl i knew came over to watch a movie with me and we had sex for 3 hours. It was some of the best and dirtiest sex i have ever had. I feel like alot of tension is gone and i am more willing to work with her on this. I know she woud have hated it, but technically we weren't together. Is this really a big deal?
2006-12-31 07:56:29 · 12 answers · asked by dave v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How do you know she didn't do the same exact thing to you in those eight hours? Hopefully you didn't get your "friend" pregnant or worse, contract something.
2006-12-31 08:13:25 · answer #1 · answered by Summer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically you weren't together? I would call three hours of dirty sex being together. I can understand having sex with someone if you and your g/f aren't that active. Especially when you do it for three hours. However, if your girl friend breaks up with you after an argument, you would first have to remember what the argument was about. If you find yourself in bed with another girl in less than 8 hours, you should question how serious your relationship with your girlfriend really is.
I know that sex is important, and your g/f should realize that after 5 months, you aren't just using her. Maybe you should look at what your relatinship is based on.
Yeah, its a big deal. You have some explaining to do and considering the sex you had, maybe you were just using her. Gotta think about that.
2006-12-31 16:03:57 · answer #2 · answered by David L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are a very big deal--especially to women mostly. Technically or not "together" really doesn't matter. You are not ready to be in a relationship any longer. Since you slept with someone else....it's only going downhill from here. Do yourself a favor and just don't try to make it work. You're only going to end up hurting her more and more. Be single and have all the wild sex you want. You can't have your cake and eat it too. Being in a SERIOUS relationship is hard and takes a lot of communication and loyalty. You obviously don't have that right now. Be single until you are truly ready.
2006-12-31 16:04:50 · answer #3 · answered by Pretti Poodle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically its not a big deal you were single at the time so it shouldn't matter. But of course it would really effect your girlfriend. But as long as your faithful while you are together I personally don't think there should be much to feel sorry for. If now you are more willing to work things out then it was a needed release. But personally I might feel at least a little guilty in that situation.
2006-12-31 16:01:10 · answer #4 · answered by 45 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Technically not together doesn't really fly when you were only broken up for eight hours. If you could have sex with someone else so quickly you aren't really committed to your other relationship. Coupled with the other problems it would appear your relationship is over. Would you be okay if your girlfriend had sex with another guy in that eight hours?
2006-12-31 16:01:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When sex is gone in a relationship, you do not have sex with another woman, and then try to work things out! Your a loser.
2006-12-31 16:01:53 · answer #6 · answered by persnicady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no just don't tell her she will flip out but don't make her go on birth control that stuuf can really **** some girls up because it can make her fat wen she s on it r wen she gets off it can make her fat not just that it cam change her mood towards things and it will mess up her monthly cycle and in the ewnd she may never be able to have kids this doesn't happen toi all girls but are u sure u want to do that !
2006-12-31 16:04:09 · answer #7 · answered by brittany bear! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should first off tell your girlfriend. If you're only in it for the sex then she should know that but if you really like your girlfriend, don't hide things from her.
2006-12-31 16:00:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes, it is an big deal. because if u knew your girlfriend you'd of known she come back to u, and u wouldn't of cheated on her,so just tell her what happened, i know she'll be mad.
2006-12-31 16:00:57 · answer #9 · answered by aria19_lovely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat with this. Yea she would be heartbroken, but you were both single. It would be hard to pass up some good booty when you just break up with someone. I wouldn't worry about it and don't listen to the bitches that say otherwise. they are whores and would do the same
2006-12-31 15:58:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋