If you're single looking for a mate, doesn't advertising yourself and sexy and smart pretty much say that you aren't? Think about it. If you are smart, wouldn't you be smart enough to know that your intelligence will come through in your communication and if you are sexy, you would know that would be obvious to people? Just curious...
2006-12-31 07:55:46 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This would be in situations like "myspace" or personal ads etc. to clarify. :)
2006-12-31 08:04:25 · update #1
I agree with you. People tend to claim to be many things that they are not. Things like Sexy and Smart are not easily looked over...If someone has to tell you that they are sexy and smart, pretty much they are trying to convince you to believe something they themselves have little to no faith in.
2006-12-31 08:02:29 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Advertising is something that corporations do to get you to buy junk you don't need. Seems to me that Advertising yourself would be the exact same thing. There are entire divisions devoted to advertising products. All of them lie. Using the word "best" for example. There can be many "best" but when you start using the word "better" your on shaky ground. Now you have to prove it. People who advertise do the same thing.
eg: Smart, Sexy single looking for same. I M fit and trim. Love to party and have a good time. I love sex...bla bla bla.
Advertising at it's best. See any flaws listed?
eg: M also an alcoholic, and a serial cheater. Have past baggage from 2 divorces and 1 illegitimate child. No longer talk with mom and dad.
What? Never seen one like that??!! Me neither. Advertising is bull shlok no matter what venue you stick it in. If you buy it you just lost. So don't. It takes time to truly get to know someone. Time, communication and trust. The latter is earned over much time.
So no. You should never need to advertise. If you do then you have something to hide.
2006-12-31 16:19:51 · answer #2 · answered by Evolving 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well... yes and no. It depends on how you sound and how aggressive you are at advertising. If you are trying too hard, and make yourself too available, that may mean you are desperate. Nothing wrong with that, but it sounds like you are needy.
However, on the other hand, there are tons of intelligent, attractive women out there on online dating sites. It's because it's getting harder to find quality mates. Most men who answer these ads will not qualify. Probability of success may be 1% to 5%, but it also depends on how picky you are. Nothing wrong with being picky, but you will have less to choose from.
By the way, the more agressively you advertise yourself, the more chances of you getting the attention of a larger audience, and a larger pool of mates to choose from. Statistically speaking. Dating, unfortunately (or fortunately for some) is also a numbers game.
2006-12-31 16:18:09 · answer #3 · answered by Think Richly™ 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No, you do not need to advertise yourself. Men who appreciate a sexy, smart woman will notice you. Just be yourself, the rest will all fall into place, hopefully it will be men at your feet. lol Have a great day.
2006-12-31 16:03:32 · answer #4 · answered by It's been awhile 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The sexy people sometimes lean heavily on looks when they realize it's their only selling point.
The smart people sometimes lean heavily on smarts because they don't feel sexy enough. This is a looks-oriented world.
I'm not sexy, but I'm willing to lie for comedic effect :)
Bill
2006-12-31 15:59:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
you not have to advertise it. sometimes the less obvious you are the sexier you are. figure out what is it you are trying to attract. if you want a slim bucket, go for over the top sexy. if you want something real & geniune, be subtle. always leave them wanting more. there is nothing sexier than someone who isn't trying to be sexy, but it just comes natural, inside & out.
2006-12-31 16:07:06 · answer #6 · answered by spuffgirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are correct. Typically when one has positive characteristics they don't need to toot their own horn about them...others will find out on their own...
Things like "sexy" especially are subjective so what one may find sexy, another may not find appealing at all...
Best to just state the facts about oneself, if filling out a profile, and allow others to form their own opinions when they get to know you...anything else begins to sound either desperate or egocentric.
2006-12-31 15:59:38 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to be sexy and smart to be loved. If someone wants you, he/she will accept you with all your flaws. "Advertisers" might be smart and sexy, but also insecure at a core.
2006-12-31 16:00:56 · answer #8 · answered by OC 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, sort of. What comes across is how you view yourself. Look at a persons friends, what they do with their life, how they act...and you can tell what they think about themselves. Learn to love yourself, to honor yourself and to accept yourself without judgment. Acknowledge yourself as the wonderful and great person you are...and others will realize that you are comfortable with yourself and envy you that quality. You advertise yourself simply by being...others will see whatever they see according to how clearly they see. You can't control others as to how they see, you can only control yourself as to how you react. "Advertising" takes care of itself with regard to people.
2006-12-31 16:00:50 · answer #9 · answered by judgebill 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it comes through in the way you present and carry yourself. You want that inner beauty to come through. No matter how beautiful a person is without grace it is useless and makes a person ugly.
2006-12-31 22:00:30 · answer #10 · answered by Firefighters Wife 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋