We live about 45 min.from her house. I always suspected that since my husband is the only boy in the family, he has always been treated like a baby. I've made my feelings known to my husband. She is also in her 80's, I try to understand the mother side of things. It annoys me though that she keeps calling here just about everyday,talking about anything if possible as my husband tried to keep the conversation short. But she is also very nosy and we have kept things from her because it's likely she'll tell everybody about it. Most of the time we have the phone recording on and one time she called like 5x because we did not pick up the phone immediately and she got really nasty on the phone recording saying that we should throw the answering machine. I was going to confront her about it but decided to let my husband deal with it. She really doesn't like me because she feels I have taken her son away.
2006-12-31 07:53:11 · 5 answers · asked by deltakisses 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Try to be patient with her. She is in her 80's you stated, and probably has a very boring life. She just wants to feel connected to her son. You have him, let her enjoy her phone calls. (She probably does not have that many years left) Good luck!
2006-12-31 07:57:14 · answer #1 · answered by NAN G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure her daily phone call drives you nuts, but I think you should just bite your tongue and put up with it. In fact, maybe if you actually showed an interest in HER life instead of worrying so much about telling her what's going on or not going on in your life, she might actually come around a bit, and like you some more. You and your husband need to take control of the conversations, ask leading questions, specific questions, and when she starts the "interrogation" give her very brief answers and then steer the conversation towards something mundane. If you have any kids, then talk about the kids. Surely you can come up with mundane stuff about the kids. Watch the clock, and fifteen minutes into the call, come up with a reason that you must hang up, and say goodbye politely. Have some compassion!
2006-12-31 09:05:33 · answer #2 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of the main suitable path of action is to sit down down with your husband, whilst the two are comfortable (and when you switched off the cellular telephones, for sure) and communicate this. clarify you experience such as you and he ought to tell MIL approximately the place you're, what you do, each and every 2d of the day. A telephone call, ok, yet call all 3 telephones ? And for what? to boot, you reported you already pass to them 2/three times a week? Ask him to ask his mom to loosen the leesh somewhat. he's supposedly older than 18, so in concept could be responsible for his movements And confident, this lots administration or attemtp to regulate your lives by employing the MIL can negatively result your relation - so which you ought to make the effort to have this communicate, and have it quickly. (you additionally can pass with changing cellular numbers, and not tell them.... it extremely is a much less diffused hint - yet ìt`s a plan B)
2016-10-06 06:34:03 · answer #3 · answered by cosco 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When was the last time she had herself checked? She's probably got Alzheimer's and thinks you're the baby sitter who won't give her son back. That has happened here in my kingdom and got to the place where I told my husband to go pack up and live with his 'mommy'. Of course he did not and wouldn't. I betcha she hates you because you'll stand up to the in-laws huh? LOL you go girl.
2006-12-31 08:08:35 · answer #4 · answered by yummybubbles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are unbelievable. The woman is going to die soon and you get mad because she call everyday. What nerve! Your husband is no better. How often does he see her? I hope God punishes you both.
2006-12-31 07:59:47 · answer #5 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋