My ex bf is a senior in college and i'm a 2nd-year grad student.(we are long distance). Objectively speaking, everyone says he should feel lucky to have me. Although this is the 1st relationship for both of us but i always had many admirers i just decided to stay single until i met him. He's kinda geeky,shy,not smooth at all with girls. But i thought he's unique, at least i would never have to worry he'd cheat on me. So we went out.We were once very in love, in the 1st 6 months of our relationship. I persuaded myself that although he's not everything i wanted, u know, being outstanding and all, at least he's very nice to me and that's what matters. So i became attached to him more and more and told him i just wanna be with him. As long as he knows that now i love him more than he loves me, he changed and broke up with me probably b/c i'm not a challenge anymore. And maybe he feels stressful being with me b/c he's not very capable of handling everything in life so he cut me out.
2006-12-31 07:51:53 · 5 answers · asked by little asian gal in cresent city 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know schoolwork is kinda killing him since he's not that smart with books(i hate to say this though b/c i always do well at school) but i didnt know it could this bad for him. It's his final year in college and i just found out he may have to be dismissed or on probation(i checked him email without him knowing it b/c i'm worried about him he seems so stressed out.) So now i dont know what to do. I still want him back. I was born and raised in a way not to give up my feelings easily. But i feel like he needs his time and space especially after the dismiss/probation thing. But i so wanna help him b/c i know how to do well in school.i can give him good advice but he doesnt want my help. I feel so bad and i wonder under such tough circumstances would he miss me or wanna push me further away. Would he ever wanna me back?
2006-12-31 07:57:17 · update #1
You're probably right about you not being a challenge any longer... I assume you want him back... move on and when he sees that you have... you will become a challenge to him again... never let a man know he has you hook, line and sinker... always leave a little mystery to it... it's sad that we can't be 100% open with our feeling but thats how it is... next time turn the tables on him... if he comes back around play hard to get... you did say you had ither admires... go for it... good luck
2006-12-31 07:59:39 · answer #1 · answered by Sandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel really bad for you. I can see that you are torn. I would like to point out that you mentioned you were both very in love, the first six months. It might be important for you to know that that is a period of time in every relationship that is about romance and euphoria. I like to call it the rose colored glasses phase. You see everything about that person through a bit of a haze. You think you can change that person or they think the same thing. Once the glasses come off, your perspective changes.
Maybe you found authentic love, but he saw something different after the glasses came off. Remember a successful relationship is about mutual attraction - intellectually, spiritually physically.
I hope you can find a way to heal and move forward. Sometimes all we can walk away with is our dignity and the weight of experience. You will have other opportunities in your future!
2006-12-31 16:02:39 · answer #2 · answered by Beth B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
enjoy but safe
2006-12-31 15:55:06 · answer #3 · answered by Mk 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
stay in contact maybe hell come back
othwise dont kill urself over this.....date around....see wat u could be missing
2006-12-31 15:57:07 · answer #4 · answered by as 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ru gay??
2006-12-31 15:56:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋