i live with my mom, im 15 almost 16. we dont get along we never have. she drinks and then starts fights with everyone but me more then others. and she has the power in this town to lock me up if she gets to mad at me. she has in the past. should i try and get amancapated when i turn sixteen.
2006-12-31 07:46:09 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Some family situations never work out, sad but true (speak from experience). And if your mother has an alcohol addiction it just throws gas onto the fire. It sounds like she needs help but you make no mention of whether she's enrolled in some treatment program/ facility. Either way, if she's abusing you then you need to do what's best for you and find a way out of your situation so you can retain some semblance of what's left of your childhood.
I went to school with a kid who went through something similar. For him to get emancipated, he had to go to court and prove he had transportation, a job he could live off of, and a permanent residence. In his case, his friend's parents were willing to rent out the basement to him for like, $200.- mo. while he completed nightschool and a daytime school-approved vocational program. It worked out fine for him.
I don't know what you mean by locking you up, but I know for a fact no one can be committed in a psychiatric ward without the person's written consent. She could just be bullying you.
I would advise you to get to know your rights as a minor and the word 'minor' varies from state-to-state so explore your rights. Also, you can retain the services of a lawyer's counsel for free in some instances, the state pays their salary and sometimes they work pro-bono (meaning they get paid if you win). Try and score some free legal advice if you can, I did in New Jersey against a landlord dispute. You'd be amazed how many rights you have as a teen nowadays. BTW, where is your dad and why isn't he helping?
2006-12-31 08:20:25 · answer #1 · answered by SloBoMo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!!!
Listen even if she's hitting you, as long as you can take what she's dishing out without permanent physical damage, and she is giving you food and a roof, stay home with her until you graduate school, and have a job already for a little bit that will give you a way to pay for your needs.
In a perfect world this wouldn't happen. It sucks really bad. I feel bad for you, and will pray for you, but you have to deal with reality the best way reality will allow itself to be dealt with.
As bad as your situation is, and it's awful, you do not want to be on the street; because more people than your mom will hurt you there, and they won't give you a bed and food.
Also, you can't be emancipated unless you can demostrate self sufficiency to the court. Trying before then will just get the emancipation order turned down, and make your mom angrier.
Take your time, absorb your blows, and plan an escape that will give you a real chance at a real life.
Sorry, pumpkin.
2006-12-31 20:57:02 · answer #2 · answered by jim w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being emancipated means more than just not living with your mom. You have to show that you have the means to support yourself while in school. A lot of things factor into a judges decision to emancipate someone.
You don't mention your father. Any chance of living with him? What about other relatives. At 15, you do have the right to choose who you live with. But back to the issue with your mother, is there a counseler at school you can talk to? Friends? other family members? Get some help because it doesn't sound like your home is a great place to be.
2006-12-31 15:50:30 · answer #3 · answered by David L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I feel sorry for you, no 16 year old should have to go through this. You can try the emancipation but I don`t think it will work. Where is your father, is it an option to talk to and maybe live with him? If not have you tried to talk to your Mom. If you have, then try talking to a priest or a counselor at school. GOOD LUCK & GOD BLESS YOU
2006-12-31 15:59:15 · answer #4 · answered by mammafran77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sure if she has the power to get you locked up... she may also have the power in interfer with you getting the amancapation to go through... I would just grit my teeth and bare it... you'll be 18yo soon and you can get the hell out... from not til them prepare for your escape... save as much as you can... I hate to say this but even try to see how much you can sneak off her when she not looking... I wish you luck and I have been there done that!!!
2006-12-31 15:53:26 · answer #5 · answered by Sandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough situation. I know things seem bad right now for you, but they will get better. If you have to live there, try to stay out of her way. You need to also try to avoid upsetting her in order not to go to jail. I would seek other living arrangements if possible. Set goals for yourself as to what you need to do, write it down. In fact write down all your feelings. I would talk to someone ou can trust about this, for support. Take care and hang in there.
2006-12-31 15:54:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
fat chance in getting amancipated, if shes this strict on you then she wont go for it, guarenteed. and she cant lock you up if your not 18, its a law, try living with a friend until it calms down or she realizes what she is doing.
2006-12-31 15:48:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask someone for help. Is there anyone else you can live with. A family member?
2006-12-31 15:54:24 · answer #8 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mom keeps doing what she does and you don't like it then you should.
2006-12-31 16:56:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just try to stay away from her as much as u can well
good luck :)
2006-12-31 15:53:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋