I never know what to say at funerals.
Is a hug and an 'I'm so sorry' really enough?
2006-12-31 07:33:38 · 15 answers · asked by MaryBeth 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I have one thing I say, that says it all.
"There's nothing adequate I can say, but I am here for you."
When a mate was killed on his motorcycle, I was already with his mother. When his dad came home, I hugged me like he was my own, and I a small child, comforting and being comforted.
--That Cheeky Lad
2006-12-31 07:42:26 · answer #1 · answered by Charles-CeeJay_UK_ USA/CheekyLad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dunno about "Im so sorry" really. I always try and put myself in the situation of the person who's lost someone.
I'd to go to a funeral a few weeks ago for the mother of one of my good friends. And he's this big, strong lad ya know? And it was so hard to stand there and watch him so upset because his Mam had passed away. I went up to him in the graveyard after she was buried and I just hugged him and asked how he was, that I was thinkin of him, and I told him to take care.
See the thing ya have to remember is, the person who's in mourning, especially in the immediate moment of the service isn't even thinking about what people are saying ya know?
It's all about you just being there.
2006-12-31 08:07:37 · answer #2 · answered by IrishladPotter 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes just giving that person a hug, without saying anything is enough. But if you feel you have to say something just tell them you love them and mean, don't offer "to be there" for them if you really don't mean it.
2006-12-31 09:17:56 · answer #3 · answered by juniorramos1974 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you can do or say will be "enough". Just be there for her. Yes, give her a hug and tell her how sorry you are. Maybe tell her that she will be in your thoughts and prayers.
2006-12-31 07:37:14 · answer #4 · answered by vik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends how close you are to your husband. Although what im about to say is cheesy but here it goes; what would you want someone to say to you if your the one whose husband or wife died? Whenever thinking about someone close to me who passed on, its good to hear someone talk about how that person had a wonderful and happy life. Maybe you could say "I'm sorry for your loss, (enter name of deceased) had a wonderful life filled with love, adventure, and joy"
2006-12-31 09:52:33 · answer #5 · answered by Lady C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a hug, tell her that you feel for her with all your heart and that you will always be there for her should she feel lonely and upset. Nothing more you can say or do. :)
2006-12-31 07:38:34 · answer #6 · answered by Duisend-poot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't stress over it too much....do what you're comfortable doing...a hug and "i'm sorry" are fine....there's nothing wrong with even saying "i don't know what to say" or "i wish i knew what to say"....
a hug might even be enough
2006-12-31 11:53:32 · answer #7 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's from the heart. You might want to offer if there's anything you can do as well. She'd take it that you care very much.
2006-12-31 08:32:29 · answer #8 · answered by princess91515 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is with his heavenly Father now! And a hug helps!
2006-12-31 07:36:31 · answer #9 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that sounds completely appropriate me. It'll be the thought that she remembers, and the fact that you were there, not the words you say.
2006-12-31 07:36:56 · answer #10 · answered by Funky Little Spacegirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋