He is notorious for changing his plans at the very last minute, Just recently, I took 2 weeks off work for a vacation in South Padre and he changed his mind about going, so I had 2 weeks of vacation scheduled and no where to go. We live in Illinois. I
dont know if he is deliberately doing these things, or what ? I need a time for dinner tonite because I have to go look at a car with my son. He claims his nite shift job makes it hard for him to plan things. He works 12 hour nites 6 days a week. What would you do, just forget dinner? Would you ask him for a time, or just blow it off?
2006-12-31 07:27:39 · 14 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why don't you just call him and ask, "What time is dinner?"
Then he'll give you a time.
and you'll say," Oh, okay."
isn't that what common sense would make you do? Instead of asking people who don't know what's going on?
2006-12-31 07:30:59 · answer #1 · answered by Sgt. Pepper 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would ask him for a time. If he does not give it to me right when I am talking to him, I would say "ok". Then I would forget about the plans, forget about dinner, and then when he calls me to tell me what time, if it was atleast an hour after the time he called, I would go to dinner at that time. If the time is less than an hour afer the time he called, I would say "Sorry, I wont be ready by then". If he never gives you a time at all, I would forget totally about the dinner and spend the night with my son.
2006-12-31 15:31:49 · answer #2 · answered by XoSuGaRbAbiiXo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you need a exact time. If he can't produce one, than plan something else.
You need to express to this man, that you have a very busy schedule and that his lack of planning shows he's not really a man.
Real men are decisive and know when and where something is going to happen.
Personally I never ask a woman to dinner, I tell her a time to be there.
i.e. We are having dinner tonight at 7 p.m. at House of Kobe restaurant.
2006-12-31 15:35:35 · answer #3 · answered by Guess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him a time to be there. If he doesn't show up, then tell him he needs to figure out whats important for him. Its really disrespectful to leave you hanging all of the time. Its called compromise. If he does show up, then take it as a sign on affection and consideration, otherwise you've got some talking to do. I would find someone that wants to be with you, the way that you want to be with them. Maybe you two are looking for different things in this relationship, I would take them out.
2006-12-31 15:30:38 · answer #4 · answered by Hannah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Son comes first. BF is unaccountable. Tell him he did not tell you the time and if you are so important to him, he needs to get with the plan and let you know. He should have your interest at heart before himself. He sounds like you are a second thought to him. He should have set the time, been there, or called to reschedule, not leave you hanging.
2006-12-31 15:33:27 · answer #5 · answered by northville 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd just blow it off because what if he decides not to go? your boyfriend should have everything scheduled ahead of time and put aside his work for that day...i mean, he's already done it once, can't he do it again? i don't think his job is such a good excuse considering if he wants your heart...and he could always spend his 7th day with you, right?
2006-12-31 15:37:40 · answer #6 · answered by 1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call and ask for a time. If he stands you up again, he's not worth your time.
Edit: I changed my mind. still call for a time, but don't go. If he calls and asks where you were, explain that you feel that he was doing the same thing to you, and tell him that it bothers you. If he doesn't call do nothing and find someone else.
2006-12-31 15:40:59 · answer #7 · answered by go2bermuda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to give you a time, or you can't go. Easy enough. Now, about that vacation, I would have dumped him. Don't let him take you for granted. Don't always be available when he wants to be with you.
2006-12-31 15:31:48 · answer #8 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suggest you read the book 'the rules' and start playing by them.I'd ask him for a time -it is New Years after all and from tomorrow start being firmer with arrangements.Sometimes people mess us around because we let them.Have a good night and all the best.
2006-12-31 15:32:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him up and ask for a time, if he does not give you a straight answer, tell him your busy. when he starts to realize that your life does not revolve around his schedule if his worth it, will do everything possible to spend time with you. so just give him some time to miss spending time with you for him to come around
2006-12-31 15:32:59 · answer #10 · answered by gigi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋