I found out that my girl friend of 6 years cheated on me. It was really hard for me at first. but its been about a month and a half now and I feel like im started to heal. I have decided not to take her back even though she is really trying to get back with me. She asked if we could at least be friends. I don't want to lead her on and I think she is thinking that maybe in the future we will get back together. I told her that I don't have any plans right now of taking her back. What she did was really bad and I don't think she has realized it yet. Do you think I should still be her friend? Should I keep taking her phone calls and having conversations with her? When we talk now we litteraly talk like we were just friends for 6 years. Should I still see her as a friend and hang out with her? I still have feeling for her but I think I can control my self and I promised my self I would not take her back.
2006-12-31 07:17:01 · 20 answers · asked by JV 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should punch her in the taint for cheating on you, move on, she sounds like a real loser
2006-12-31 07:18:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing right now..is you...not her. Yes, you may have intense feelings for her and you still..in a way..dont want to hurt her even though she hurt you. But..i would recommend..for your own protection..don't go back to the old habits! What she is doing is no different from what you two had..the only difference is what your calling it aka "relationship" and "friends". If you don't feel comfortable and KNOW that things could end up going back to how they were then you need to take 5 steps back and tell her you need some space and for her to quit calling you so much. When your ready to be her "friend" you will know and feel comfortable being around her.
As of know...your second questioning her intentions and yours. That is an obvious scream from inside..you need to follow you gut and do what is best for you. Don't worry about her..if she has the heart to cheat on you after six years some space will not hurt her!
2006-12-31 07:22:27 · answer #2 · answered by * Kittles * 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you two are comfortable with being friends, that you should be. I would only if I knew that I could deal with it and even though she cheated, it has nothing to do with the friendship part of your relationship. Maybe you guys were better of being friends that together as a couple. But I would be aware of her actions. You said that she has tried to get you back. Now if she is willing to be friends like she said, she may think that eventually you will be willing to get things back on track.
2006-12-31 07:30:38 · answer #3 · answered by pumpkinpie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I walked away from my ex (wife) for the same reason as you said. I would advise against even being a "friend" (how many guys are "friends" with women because they want to enter a physical relationship and think it might be easy to just be there when she needs somebody). 15 years after walking away from her, and hearing nothing from her at all, I got an email from her. After 15 years, we can be friends - there is no way it could have happened back then. I say stay away.
2006-12-31 07:21:51 · answer #4 · answered by ab2li 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah! Sure! You might as well hand over your entire fortune, even the money you haven't earned yet. That way, when she decides to bonk bubba over at YOUR place, she will have complete control over your assetts so she can make damn sure that SHE is in total control over you and even make sure that YOU get tossed in jail when SHE calls 911 and complains about YOU abusing her... That way, she can clean you out without ANY interference from YOU! Wake up Skippy! Dump the whore before YOU end up paying child support for 18 years to a child that is NOT YOURS! See http://paternityfraud.com, http://ACFC.org and http://TulsaFathers.org All you men had better WAKE UP! Put your joysticks BACK INTO YOUR PANTS and take a cold hard look around you! MEN are being incarcerrated at alarming rates. Men are being stripped AWAY from their children, their entire estates being taken from them and handed to the little whores, just like in this guys case! WAKE UP! Tyranny is HERE!
2006-12-31 07:44:10 · answer #5 · answered by gromeo747 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater, always a cheater, and if you remain her friend (her doormat) she will always think she has the upper hand and you will take whatever she dishes out and continue to take her back. I say move on and find someone who is mature enough not to cheat. I would not waste another day being her friend. It takes years to heal after someone has cheated on you and it will only lead to heart ache if you continue to be her friend.
2006-12-31 07:21:19 · answer #6 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
If the relationship ended because your g/f was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. You deserve better than that. Good luck!
2006-12-31 07:28:12 · answer #7 · answered by shygal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't read your post (sorry) but just the subject line. Being her friend is entirely up to you. If you can be friends with someone who would treat you that way, that's your business and your choice. I've known people that were able to do it, and others that couldn't stand the sight of the cheater.
S'up to you.
2006-12-31 07:20:33 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a jerk, why bother being friends with someone as dishonest as her? She is a selfish person and did not think about you when she was cheating on you... people don't stop to think that not only are they exposing themselves to STD's/HIV but their partners as well. She had no regard for your health or your life why bother being her friend.. tell her to F-off!~I'm Smart~
2006-12-31 07:21:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should be friends but u should tell her that u can't handle her to believe that u have a future. if u guys have been friends that long don't though it away. i know she hurt u but u should give her one more chance. if u forget y u became friends u could loose a real true friend.
2006-12-31 07:26:53 · answer #10 · answered by Yemiko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No donot be friends with her.
If you want to be vindictive, sleep with her one more time.
After you get through (I mean right after) kick her out.
She will get the message.
I know it will be hard to ignore someone that you care for, but it's in your best interest.
2006-12-31 07:21:57 · answer #11 · answered by Guess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋