My little sister is going through her teenage rebellion stage. She's 16 and smoking pot, drinking alcohol, lying and stealing. The hardest part of it all for my dad and myself is the pot. She's already had two pipes confiscated and recently started making bongs. She stole the car last week and threatened to kill herself when she got caught. She actually went into her room, locked the door, and dismantled a razor. My father had to break down the door to stop her. She's completely out of control, failing all her classes, and not afraid of anything. I'm looking for genuine advice....she's already in therapy, and the mention of random urine analysis made her threaten suicide again. I feel like I'm in quicksand, since it seems I'm the one she confides in. Please, anyone that's able to help, I don't know what to do anymore.
2006-12-31 07:13:08 · 5 answers · asked by forsaken_nephylim 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You can't give her enough love and affection right now. be there for her and try hard to point her in the right direction. take her places with you even you don't want to and you want to be with your friends--take her anyway and keep her busy doing things to keep her away from drugs. If all else fails--tell your father to contact social services and get her into a teenage bootcamp--it'll straighten her up.
2006-12-31 07:17:54 · answer #1 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through something very similar with my sister when she was 15. She's now 26 and very much in control of her life.
Your sister needs INPATIENT treatment in a psychiatric unit. If she's as destructive as you say and threatening suicide, then theres little that your family can do to protect her from herself. She needs 24 hr surveillance and intensive therapy, the rest is up to her.
Its hard to stand by and watch someone you love suffer. Just be there for her. Give her love, support and forgiveness. Sometimes when people are confused and suffering they say and do some really stupid things.
It sounds like your family is really supportive and thats good, but be careful not to allow her to abuse you. Its a fine line, but you must'nt let yourself get so absorbed in her suffering that you lose yourself.
Stand your ground, protect yourself and love your sister.
Good luck.
2006-12-31 16:29:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
she needs inpatient therapy, and since she is a danger to herself and others she needs to be admitted against her will. That would be #1. #2. find a support group. #3. stay on your knees and pray for her. Give her the book, The Purpose Driven Life.#4. tell her over and over that you love her and that her life has meaning. #5 have her evaluated to see if she is bipolar.
2006-12-31 15:18:24 · answer #3 · answered by northville 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she's doing all that she doesn't respect her familiy or herself. That's a dangerous combination at her age. You need to call a family meeting with your parents, and I suggest you guys exercise some tough love and put her o-u-t either into professional facilities, or on the street.
2006-12-31 15:20:00 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Pleo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two words: detox and treatment.
2006-12-31 15:25:59 · answer #5 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋