hi there, my older brother has recently left to join university (leicester for those who are interested) and im by myself..and im 16 years old..my parents are usually home, they work the same hours as my school, so i always see them..but im getting really bored and dont know what to do now that my brother has gone...has any had similar experiences and what did you do to overcome the loneliness?how did you feel ?thanks in advance
2006-12-31 07:06:12 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
btw guys i have a tight group of friends...about 10 of us...and if i have a girlfriend then i think my parents would get angry because even though they dont talk about a girlfriend..i know that if i tell them i do..they would get angrya....so do u think its advisable to have one now behind their back? thanks
2006-12-31 07:23:32 · update #1
Oooooo, I think that I would kind of have the same problem if my brother or I left the house. I have always been real close with my family members in terms of doing things. For that reason, I don't have any good friends outside my family, and am not good at making them. If you can make friends, do it. If not, just put yourself out there and wait for something to happen. I kinda did that by going to work over Christmas break, and Viola! A girl gave me her number and now I have my first girlfriend.
2006-12-31 07:10:19 · answer #1 · answered by Wocka wocka 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same predicament. My brother left for college this fall. Definitely spend time with your friends as much as possible, because that will take your mind off things and keep you from feeling lonely. Let your parents know that you need your space, because you're probably noticing that they pay you a lot more attention now that you're the only kid in the house. If your parents haven't told you you can't have a girlfriend, then I don't see what the problem is. But don't go behind their back with it, because when they find out (which they will) they will be much more mad than if you had just told them upfront. It may be awkward telling them about it, but you'll need to do it if you want to have a girlfriend. That said, don't get a girlfriend to get a girlfriend. If you really like a girl, then go ahead and ask her out, but don't just ask a random girl out just as something to do, because that's not fair to her.
2006-12-31 07:40:32 · answer #2 · answered by I run... 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the exact same situation as you, i've been at uni now for almost three weeks. I also feel lonely and sad alot of the time, as I am six hours by plane away from my family and boyfriend. I have made a few friends but have basically no desire to go out and drink all the time like a lot of people here are doing. Do not feel like you have to go out and get drunk all the time in order to make friends. Living with people kind of forces you to make friends, as you are going to be around these flatmates alot, you guys will eventually grow to be friends or friendly acquaintances. I know because I am living in a dorm and thought I wouldnt make any friends with the people living around me, but found that I have. You have to remember that seriously EVERYONE is in the same situation as you, and they are just as scared and nervous as you are. Once you start going to classes you will be introduced to sooooo many more people who have different interests than your flatmates, and you will find a lot of people similar to you. Trust me, not everyone in uni is keen to party all the time. Honestly, I was terrified when I first got here, but i guarantee you it DOES get better. Also, one thing you should think about, is that if things don't get better, always know that you are not trapped there. That university is not a prison. You can always leave and transfer to a different university, or take a year off and travel or work. I do not suggest dropping out in the middle of the year or anything, but after this first year if you arent liking it, you can always go home. One thing I have learned is that university and education will always be there, and you have so many options as to what you can do with your life in the meantime. I really hope this helps you.
2016-03-29 02:11:41 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happiness doesn't come from other people..Its comes from within yourself.. Get involved in positive groups and get out and meet new people. Your olde enough to volunteer so try that..even at a human society...giving attention to animals..walking the dogs and playing with the cats.. Give your attention to someone or something less fortunate than you.
2006-12-31 07:09:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's really sweet! I think this is a good time for you to start looking for a girlfriend, or a good group of friends to run around with. Just stay busy doing things you enjoy. Spend time with your parents, as I'm sure they are feeling a little lonely as well.
You sweet boy, you!
2006-12-31 07:08:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could get involved in school sports, clubs or you can get a part time job, just get out and meet some new people. Chat with your brother online if or when he has time.
2006-12-31 07:16:22 · answer #6 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try getting a Pet.
2006-12-31 07:08:29 · answer #7 · answered by yhrw6itejrs4444444 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
by time it would be much easier , i know exactly what you are talking about felt the same when my sister got married . believe me all it needs to get better is time !
wish you the best of luck
2006-12-31 07:09:27 · answer #8 · answered by memo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my 6 children have grown up and left home so i know how you feel, you just have to try and get on with life i sopose
2007-01-03 21:51:18 · answer #9 · answered by woodall44@btinternet.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you try joining a local group to help you make friends
2006-12-31 07:12:25 · answer #10 · answered by paulette7618 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋