Should I continue to be friends with this person?

Question

She is always late and gives no real excuse, as long as her bf is present that is the only person she talks to, never invites us over after shes been invited to our houses numerous times, never asks us to hang out or even calls us back, shes a big cheapskate (always orders cheapest thing on menu -with no drinks or anything else, kind of brags about her job, won't admit shes wrong, and shes never open to something different ..things always have to be her way. Would you still be friends with this person

Answer 1

You're asking Y!A if you should still be friends with someone....

lame ~ yeah sure!

Answer 2

Sounds like my ex-wife..lol. Have you ever considered this person may have a mental problem? If it bothers you this much to come to a website about this person truly you don't need this person in your life. Look at what the definition of friend means to you and take it from there. If the person fits your definition of friend then keep her around if not loose her. My ex wife was and to this day has a problem with being on time. She was recently diagnosed with A.D.D. on the way to anywhere something distracts her and she looses track of time. Sometimes she wouldn't make it out the door and she would get distracted by a T.V. show or the telephone. She has lost numerous jobs because of this. Sounds like she is deliberately trying to get you upset. in some ways from what you have said. Who brags about a job? That's my least concern when I'm with friends.

Answer 3

In situations like this it is important to think about what is in your power and control to do. You cannot change this girl – who she is or what she does – the most you can do is to tell her how you feel, and to stress that if she is unable to make certain changes in the relationship that it will jeopardize your friendship with one another. You have then stood up for yourself in terms of being clear about what you want and expect in your friendships – and it is up to her to decide what she wants to do. The hard thing in these situations is that it runs the risk that the person may, for whatever reason, not want to change – and then the friendship unfortunately must end. It sounds like this is where you are feeling now, and the “relief” you mentioned seems to suggest that she has not really taken in what you have said to her and that the bad is starting to outweigh the good in this friendship.



In terms of your question of how to end a friendship in a respectful way, I recommend that you let this person know that the way the friendship is going right now is not working for you – that it seems like there are more strains and tensions right now than good times which makes you feel that it might be time for you both to distance yourself from one another. You could let her know that it does feel sad for you, but that you need to respect that the two of you may just be in different places in your lives right now that are not conducive to your currently being friends. You can even let her know how much it has meant to you to have her in your life and that you will always take that with you no matter where the two of you go from here.

Answer 4

Think about why you became her friend in the first place? She must have some good qualities or why would you be her friend in the first place? Although most of her characteristics that you mention are annoying to say the least, she sounds young. In time, when she grows out of those habits that some high school girls do, she may become a better friend. Only you can decide if she's worth the wait.

Answer 5

IF they are truly your friends then what does it matter, if they annoy you and you don't enjoy spending time with them are they really your friend anyway, or just an acquaintence? I don't think there is a reason to confront her about anything, just go about your business...if you don't like hanging out with her then just stop inviting her over to your house and if she never invites you over then it will just fade away. If you truly value her as a friend though and would miss her then just keep doing what your doing and treasure her as a friend, no matter what her quirks are.

Answer 6

nicely, i actual imagine she meant to say desirable or exciting, inspirational really does not make experience (not even basically in a judgment of correct and incorrect, basically mainly). some actual locate serial killers exciting, desirable even, basically to work out how their minds artwork and how sensible they are. some human beings imagine about how exciting it should be for them, and are curious as to what it ought to experience opt for to take human beings's lives, and slide less than authority and circumvent getting stuck. basically because someone is in contact through serial killers, would not cause them to a serial killer. If each and every man or woman who became inquisitive about way of serial killers went off on a killing spree, nicely, the international does not have almost as a lot of human beings alive at present. they are basically curious and intrigued i'm particular, of route proceed being friends with them except their displaying actual indications that they are legitimately planning to kill someone.

Answer 7

well i wouldn't get too upset over the invite thing. i hate inviting people to my house. i never will. i feel like its a mess and i hate people talking about my things. but if she never calls you to hang out or tries to contact you. let it chill for awhile and see if she asks to go out. if not then just let it be. obviously she isn't interested in being friends.

Answer 8

I'd tell them that I don't like them, that they're total jerks, and that they should try to be nicer. That would totally screw up the friendship because she would probably get really angry that you said that and you guys would never be friends again but it's better that you are honest and find friends that make you happy, not piss you off.

Answer 9

No. But she doesn't seem to be a 'friend'.
Also if someone is true you never question whether or not you should be friends. That should give you the answer right there. I'm not sure if you really like her.

Answer 10

yes, you should continue your friendship with this person, and you should also do her a favor and tell her about herself. If this upset her and she choose not to be friends, it's on her. The young lady is this way because no one has told her about herself, try telling her maybe you can help her be a better person.

Answer 11

you should "kill her with kindness" and it will drive her crazy!!! when she orders the cheapest thing, offer to help her pay for her meal since she can't afford to. if her boyfriend is there, talk to him more than to her. if she doesn't give an excuse, make one up for her and spread this rumor amongst all your friends. you'll both be happier.