All my son does is aggrevate my daughter until she is in tears. Which in turn has her whining to me and I'm ready to hurt some one at that point. I guess he feels because he is an inch taller than me and a nice size in weight - what I have to say means nothing.
2006-12-31 06:46:44 · 15 answers · asked by ceceworks 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It'll keep up until they're old and dead. Someone needs to stand up for your daughter though, either her or you.
When I was 13, my brother who was 21 aggravated me one too many times. I put his head through a wall and he left me alone after that. I don't normally condone violence but sometimes, between siblings, that's the only thing that will work.
There are many more ways to punish your kids when they're bigger then you then you think. My 16 y/o son towers over me but I don't let that stop me.
My personal favorite way to punish him is to make him do dishes. He hates washing dishes, I mean really really hates washing dishes. Find out what he hates to do and make him do it. Take away the phone, TV, computer, etc until he does what you've told him to do. Make the consenquenses worse then the enjoyment he gets out of tormenting his sister and he'll think twice before he sets her off.
My son decided he wasn't going to take his punishment and went for almost 2 weeks without privileges before he decided to listen to me. He screamed and argued until he was finally in tears from being so angry at me but he finally did what he was told. Now all I have to do is warn him and he'll usually stop being a jerk.
When they get you to the point you want to kill one of them, make them each go to their room while you sit back with a cup of coffee or tea and relax for 10 minutes or so to cool off before you snap on them.
Good luck with them
2007-01-01 01:13:54 · answer #1 · answered by sassydontpm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously your son has the impression that because he is bigger he is in control. Who taught this to your son? I don't know if you are married and if your husband tends to throw his weight around, but if that's the case, there's your answer. If there is no dad in the picture, he is probably learning his behavior from all the media sources he is tapped into (video games, movies, music, etc.)
Since he has no respect for authority, you can't make him respect you until you take the steps needed to win his desire to respect you. If you get angry at him, he will only block you out. You need to remain calm. The issue is not that he has a penchant for ticking off your daughter, but rather a lack of respect or concern for others, and therefore himself. You need to give him the same respect you would give a friend or co-worker, and he will reciprocate. Realize, however, that this will take time.
As far as doing things to upset your daughter, my method for my younger kids is to make the offender do something as a service to the offended, like get him his favorite toy or do his chore for him. This may not work for your son if he does not respect you. Work on this first. All in all, when correcting or disciplining, you must NOT show irritation of any sort. Stay calm. This earns respect faster than anything.
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2016-10-19 07:01:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately it will never end - it will get better when they move out though as adults. But sibling rivalry will always be there and personally i think its natural and normal.
i would definitely dicipline both of them for fighting - if it means the 15 yr old cant hang out with his friends for disrespecting his sister or the 11 yr old cant have a video game or whatever - so be it. But quite honestly they will just learn to argue more quietly..lol. But at least you'll have less headaches :).
As for him thinking he has power cause he's tall, you need to squash that quickly because he doesn't and he needs to learn his size shouldn't be used to intimidate people - especially women - and certainly NEVER his own mother. Ever heard Bill Cosby - you brought him into this world and you can take him out, lol :).
2006-12-31 07:01:21 · answer #4 · answered by Rae T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to enforce rules about fighting that both children will receive consequences for. Simply because your teenage boy is bigger than you does not mean you no longer call the shots. There are other means of discipline that will get his attention, such as taking away items he finds entertaining like the TV, phone, or video games, restricting his outings with friends, or implementing additional chores. For your daughter, the same can apply. They are old enough now to understand that their behavior is unacceptable and if they continue it, they will have to face the penalties that come with it.
2006-12-31 07:52:49 · answer #5 · answered by chamely_3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say that it will never end. My brother and I are in our twenties and we still argue to the point where my mum wants to kill us. It does get slightly better but that probably won't be until either your son matures or your daughter finds her ways of getting revenge (I bet the latter will happen first because teenage girls can be very vindictive!).
All you can do is try to keep them seperate when you sense an agrument is brewing and try to speak to your son, when he's calm, about picking on his younger sister. But I wouldn't worry too much, for all their arguing, I bet he'd be the first person to defend her in a fight against someone else.
2006-12-31 07:26:25 · answer #6 · answered by starchilde5 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take control of the situation. YOU are in charge, not them. It sounds as though neither has respect for you. Your son in particular is acting immature. Suggest taking away some of his privaleges until he stops antagonizing his sister. You might also try assigning him a role/responsibility where through his actions his sister can be successful (e.g., picking up her toys, making her bed, etc.) If she is successful in activity that he supervised, then praise your son for his guidance/help with his sister.
2006-12-31 08:02:46 · answer #7 · answered by B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say mean things, take away privlages. Like if he keeps arguing with his sister all week and then saturday he wants to go to the movies you say no. It is not be cruel, it's punishment. i feel sorry for you daughter i know she wants to hurt him really bad!!
2006-12-31 06:51:06 · answer #8 · answered by All_Bout_M3!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say NEVER....
Im 21 and my little brouther is 20.. He still likes to aggravate me..alot.. I just think it a brouther sister thing.. He the same way taller then me and my mom.. he thinks he all that and a bag of cookies.. But hes not.. Dont let it get to you..
2006-12-31 07:12:00 · answer #9 · answered by Heather O 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mom, you need to take charge and be a parent.... I don't care if he is ten feet tall, he is not allowed to bully his mom. This problem didn't start yesterday did it?...I think you need family therapy, he sounds like he's headed for a gang or prison or worse....it is up to you to protect both your children.....what you have to say Does...mean something, infact everything!!!!!!
2006-12-31 06:59:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋