here lately i have felt like my Bf has been unhappy.. he wont tell he all he says is that im what he wants an all he will ever want.. But why does it seem like he does everything he can to stay away from the house.. It dont bother me when he leaves an goes to his brothers or places with his brother what bothers me is that he never ask if i want to go he just leaves me here all day alone.. No matter what time of the nite his phones rings out the door he goes, i ask who it is an i get "my brother" i believe him cause most the time he shows me who called or i hear him talkin.. But what is it that he is doin that he dont want me goin any where with him.. An why do i feel like if i was to walk away from this realtionship an engagement he wouldnt care.. its like he tells me he loves me an wants to be with me cause he knows thats what i want to hear.. Do i have anything to worry about or am i just being crazy..
2006-12-31 06:42:39 · 13 answers · asked by pruittsgurl_01 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i work everyday.. he dont even stay home long when he gets off work in the afternoon.. an weekends seems like he would want to do stuff with me but he dont..
2006-12-31 07:02:10 · update #1
Typically, if you feel like there is something wrong - there usually is. If you think he won't care if you left, then leave. You are feeling this way for a reason. He obviously has a part of his life he feels that he can't or won't share with you for whatever reason. By leaving, you are forcing him to deal with you. Tell him you love him, but if you can't be a part of ALL of his life, then you won't be a part of any of his life. If trust and communication aren't important to him, as well as your personal feelings, then it's time to move in. It doesn't matter if it's innocent fun- like video game competitions, or if there's another friend that he & his brother are trying to help. Either way, you are feeling this way for a reason, and if he loves you then he will share, or move on.
2006-12-31 06:49:16 · answer #1 · answered by 2mom35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.. when people are unhappy, it seems like they try and care less about the world today.. And maybe the world to him is you.. But.. I would say as a girlfriend try and support him in any way possible, be his comfort, be an uplifter to him an encourager someone who has his back when he needs help.. Just be there in any cause.. do things out of your way to help him and do some sweet things for him that will cheer him up... I found that when I went through a real stage of unhappyness I really could care less about anything.. and would rather have another life in some senses... but as I began to trust God and persevere he showed me to be joyful in every circumstance and to be content with what I have... That's maybe what your boyfriend needs.. to be content and joyful and to trust that God will help him and pull him through this phase... I know that its really tough, but be the best girlfriend he's ever had..
If he goes out, maybe ask him if you can come, or set up a date night with him and spend time together and just get him to the point where he can almost tell you because you've been so caring and loving to him lately.. if he doesn't tell you then just keep being that special lady to him..
It doesn't sound like he's up to no good, I think he is probably just wanting to get out of the house and to hang out with some people what will make him laugh and friends that will help him and perhaps make him strong...so you need to show him that he needs to tell you, because you both are in this together... but just don't say that out loud...
Love him just the way he is.. happy or unhappy..
Hope that helps..
Blessings!
2006-12-31 14:53:34 · answer #2 · answered by Mickey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I dont know if he is cheating or not but you seem to have some real issues. If he IS cheating would you really want to marry a mah like that.
No the problem is you and your lack of self esteem. You are going to push him away with all this clingyness sooner or later if you dont get some help.
2006-12-31 14:46:48 · answer #3 · answered by CHELLE BELLE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to say exatlly same thing to ur guy! Ask him why he doesn't want ur company and leaves u all alone by ur self....what was the point of moving in together??
2006-12-31 14:45:42 · answer #4 · answered by Sweety 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion yes you do have something to worry about !
my advice for you is to sit and talk with him be honest and tell him what you think and feel and ask him to be honest to no matter what the result is its better to know it now than later !
and maybe when you talk together you will find out that there is nothing to worry about !
2006-12-31 14:49:54 · answer #5 · answered by memo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being there all day alone is your fault not his. you need to get busy in your life. don't ever compromise your interests, career, and activities for the opposite sex. get a job, go to school, something. homes are toxic, damaging places imo. i hate going home (but i am single) cuz i don't accomplish anything there but laziness. good luck.
2006-12-31 14:55:23 · answer #6 · answered by keepingitgoing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be faithful to you in his own way but do you want to be married to someone who is constantly gone, leaving you home alone? Move out and if he really cares he will realize that he has to do things to please you as well as just himself.
2006-12-31 14:48:57 · answer #7 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront him...if that doeznt work, u do the same thing to him, to make him suspisious, then maybe he'll confront u first, then u can get down to the nitty-gritty of the sitch
2006-12-31 14:46:51 · answer #8 · answered by ☼mischevious☼ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all whitch school did you go to?i cant even understand what fcuk are u trying to say.and there is no second of all!GET A LIFE
2006-12-31 14:45:58 · answer #9 · answered by armond425 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gurl u have a right 2 worry there might be another gurl!
2006-12-31 14:45:36 · answer #10 · answered by ms.balla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋