If you have follow my posts... what happened is that I have decided to confront my girlfriend that I have been having sex with her best friend. Her best friend is a very devout Chrsitian girl and we have lots in common. My girlfriend does not understand this concept and I have attempted to educate her on the meaning of being a good Christian.
My dilemma is that I really enjoy having sex with this girl. Should I make a clean break and leave my girlfriend and be with this girl. I believe I might have sinned but it is with a Christian girl not a non-believer, Christ will understand this concept.
2006-12-31 06:35:10 · 17 answers · asked by Skyeboi 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
All of you who are against are against Christ's teaching of forgiveness, tolerance and turning a blind eye towards sin
2006-12-31 08:45:24 · update #1
of course christ will understand. like me i only kill people with someone else who believes in god. a sin is a sin, dont justify it and say christ will understand
2006-12-31 06:39:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that even the athiest above recognized the sin in your behavior and actions, so if it's that obvious even to a non believer it must be obvious to you.
There is no excuse or justification for deliberate sin. By experience , I know first hand that if you continue to sin God, the Holy Spirit will withdraw and you will be left to deal with all the unpleasant consequences of those sins until you repent, which means "to turn away from". You cannot defile the Temple of the Holy Spirit and expect Him to be subjected to it. Fornication is sin, whether it's with a believer or a non beleiver. With a believer it's worse, because you are now both accountable.Not only that, as a Christian, what kind of example have you given to your non christian girlfriend? You have shown her that Christian boys can't be trusted and arent't faithful. Yet you as a christian are to imitate Christ and one of His traits that all of us rely on is that He is faithful and true to us. I would say that you talk the Christian talk but have yet to learn the christian walk. As for the consequences, just so that you know, one sin leads to another and another and each sin takes you further and further away from the truth. The devil will only decieve you if you are already decieving yourself.
Sorry if I sound harsh in this reply, but the truth is harsh sometimes and I do it in the love of Christ not wanting you or the girls to suffer some terrible consequenses.
2006-12-31 07:10:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are here to learn how to love unconditionally. This does not mean having sex with as many cute girls as possible at the same time.
You are going to need to be honest at some point and stop using one of these girls as a sex toy. This is not a sin because God intended for you to learn by doing.
I really don't think God is going to be angry with you if you take a few more days to make up your mind about what the right thing to do is.
I suggest you pray to God and ask him to help you overcome this difficulty you are having choosing between these two young ladies.
Just ask him to wait a couple of weeks before he helps you.
Love and blessings Don
2006-12-31 06:46:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight ... Your girlfriend doesn't understand what it means to be a Christian, while you and her best friend have been committing fornication behind her back, in direct violation of the teaching of Christ. I'd say your girlfriend would benefit greatly by your getting out of her life. And you would benefit greatly from repenting and trying to live your life as a Christian. It isn't up to Christ to understand and approve your concepts. He surely does understand them, but He surely doesn't approve of them. It is your duty before God to understand and accept His concepts, and to live by them.
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2006-12-31 06:41:06 · answer #4 · answered by PaulCyp 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, Christ will not understand this. Sex outside the marriage is wrong, just as wrong as homesexual sex. Having sex with a Christian is deluted and sinful and destroys your testemony as a Christian. If you cannot be abstinate, you are not spiritual or a christian.
don't get mad at me I am not Christian, but I know what the bible says.
2006-12-31 06:40:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yeah I can see you're really intelligent so I'll make it nice and clear
try understanding the part in Ephesians 4 where it talks about exactly that subject:
17So I tell you this, and insist on it in the Lord, that you must no longer live as the Gentiles do, in the futility of their thinking. 18They are darkened in their understanding and separated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them due to the hardening of their hearts. 19Having lost all sensitivity, they have given themselves over to sensuality so as to indulge in every kind of impurity, with a continual lust for more.
20You, however, did not come to know Christ that way. 21Surely you heard of him and were taught in him in accordance with the truth that is in Jesus. 22You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; 23to be made new in the attitude of your minds; 24and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.
PaulCyp has it right on the money
2006-12-31 06:43:57 · answer #6 · answered by bvoganez_101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what?????? do u think ur relationship will ever be blessed? not only have u sinned- u helped the best friend sin- and thats ok?? christ understands??? my friend - everyone sins, everyone falls short of the glory of god thats why he sent his son for our sins however___ god does look at our heart and our intent> in this area even for my self i have to lean not unto my own understanding. because the bible says we are forgiven but it also says we will be judged. repent will a true heart with true motives.( forgiveness) remember we are christians beacuse we are sinners. thank god for christ!!!!!!!! and for the record___ u r not a bad christian for loving sex-- he created it for us to enjoy--- but he did bring with it a covenant that we must obey-
2006-12-31 06:49:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is dirty if it is done in sin. When two are married in the site of God, it is not sex...it is love making. God designed it for the good. Satan comes to take all that God gave us for good and use it for sin. Yes, it is a sin if it is sex you desire and not being right with God. It also defiles this womans soul because you are using her as an object for your pleasure and not respecting her as a wife and making it right with her soul with God to. It is sinful.If you respect God, her and yourself then you must live for Gods ways and not for your own selfish fulfillments.
2006-12-31 06:47:26 · answer #8 · answered by Shayna 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are a Christian, premarital sex is a sin.
It does not matter with whom you are doing it, nor how much you enjoy it.
Christ reportedly got through his life without indulging. I'm guessing that if the dogma you are concerned about has any truth to it, he's not going to let it slide.
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2006-12-31 06:41:05 · answer #9 · answered by Chickyn in a Handbasket 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it does make you sinful. People who are guilty of adultery should be stoned to death as according to the Bible.
You are implying that this girl's feelings are less than that of someone who is Christian. This is both unethical and cruel.
2006-12-31 06:44:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋