Why does my b/f always feel as though he has to protect me?? It gets kinda annoying at times. Is it just a male thing??
2006-12-31 06:28:49 · 12 answers · asked by Makoa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was street racing(don't critique me on that) and I was racing my b/f's friend. He lost and got all pissed off. He hit me and so I was ready to fight back when my b/f pulled me aside and told my friend to calm me down. He said something to his friend and told me he wouldn't let me hit his friend. He said he was not trying to side with his now ex-friend. Was I wrong to be mad that he wouldn't let me handle it on my own?? I may be girly at times but I can handle my self. Does it mean he cares??(He is no longer friends with the guy)
Should I feel bad their friendship is over??
2006-12-31 06:28:58 · update #1
He did beat up his friend. But why couldn't he just let me handle myself. I may be thin but I can stand my ground.
2006-12-31 06:32:25 · update #2
Why couldn't I at least throw one punch?? If my b/f wasn't there my friend wouldn't have tried to calm me down, she would have cheered me on.
2006-12-31 06:33:30 · update #3
Its just the way men are, its not a bad thing and it isnt that we dont think you can protect yourselves. Men protect their women when they love and care about their well being. Don't take it as him saying you cant protect and take care of yourself because thats not the issue at all. He wants you to know you are safe with him and that he is there for you at all times, dont look any further into it because thats all it is. It's the same thing as if somebody broke into the house, he'd take initiative and go look to protect you because he loves you.
2006-12-31 06:36:10 · answer #1 · answered by JMan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that your husband saw the man as a threat I think he saw him as mentally ill and didn't want to have a confrontation unless it came to that. He may have seemed indifferent but I am sure he was running through multiple scenarios in his head trying to weigh the situation no matter how brief. You are over reacting in a big way and will most likely me down for saying so. Your husband isn't weak, he weighs the situation correctly- the man was mentally ill, scary - but not an immediate threat. If he had been he would have tried to kill you, but he didn't. Also try not to forget that though he is a man he has the right to be afraid too. I think that you should accept that your husband is not going to go around shoving and punching people unless they provoke first, that seems like the better kind of man to me. Take a woman's self defense class- then you will know how to react if you are ever in a situation that requires it- however I think your husband will raise to the occasion if that happens.
2016-03-29 02:09:02 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your b/f's protection meant he was always crawling all over you giving you grief about where you were going or what you were wearing, who you were with - then this would be a sign of future abuse, but it just sounds like he's being a caring b/f. Guys who step in when another guy is threatening their girl is a good guy. And it's great that he's no longer friends with the other guy. What kind of jerk hits a girl because he lost a race? I think your b/f is very cool.
2006-12-31 06:32:59 · answer #3 · answered by TP woman 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First: I am all about "sistahs doin' for themselves." But men are physically stronger than women. There are no two ways about it. The fact that your man feel the need to defend your honor speaks highly of him.
Second: You need to understand the difference between acceptable and unacceptable risks. Street racing not only put you at risk, but people like me at risk. If you want to race, take it to the track. That is an acceptable risk!
2006-12-31 06:39:19 · answer #4 · answered by mediahoney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would find a boyfriend being protective about his girlfriend a good thing. It shows that he cares deeply. Most guys may get that protective because they don't want to see their girlfriends sad or hurt. If you don't want to feel like you can't stand on your own two feet, then ask him to back just a little bit. Don't offend him but tell what you are feeling.
2006-12-31 06:33:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend needs to respect your independence, You sound like a pretty hardcore chick, and if you're woman enough to be out there street racing with the boys (and fighting with the boys if they get mad at you for beating them) your man needs to respect that!
2006-12-31 06:36:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a guy think they feel that we are the weaker Sex so we need their protection, it's a good think for him to be protective of you. He Cares.
2006-12-31 06:32:36 · answer #7 · answered by silkieladyinthecity 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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Why didn't he beat the crap out of that guy?
2006-12-31 06:30:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He probably doesn't want anyone to flirt with you or vice versa.
2006-12-31 06:32:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he thinks if he doesn't he going ot lose you ! ! just try to talk to him and tell hoim how you feel
2006-12-31 06:31:44 · answer #10 · answered by Cat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋