what if they are wrong? and you know they are wrong and they are using the bible as a way to minipulate you by saying that the bible says we are not supposed to date outside our race? also, shouldn't our parents also at least respect us? i was told that i HAVE to respect them, but that i am the child so they don't have to respect me. Is that true too?
2006-12-31 06:28:48 · 16 answers · asked by trisha_r_c 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Mutual respect and love is the basis of trust. It's a classic Catch 22. Without trust you cannot have love and respect. Without love and respect, you cannot have love. So my answer to your question is...
Love, respect and trust your parents but above all else, act from your personal truth. To do otherwise, undermines the gift of life that you have been given. If this should go against your parent's wishes, let them know that you love, respect and trust them but as an individual reflection of the divine spirit in us all, you must act from your heart. In time, they will respect the fact that you are your own person.
2006-12-31 06:34:50 · answer #1 · answered by gjstoryteller 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, I don't know of a place in the Bible where it says we are not supposed to date outside of our race, so that part is bunk, lol.
Secondly, even when parents seem or act unfairly at times, you should respect them, no matter how hard it seems. Respecting them doesn't mean you can't state your opinion on the matter or show some frustration about it, but don't start cussing them out or something, try and be constructive. I struggle with this a lot as well, so you're not alone.
(The exception would be if they became downright abusive or something, I can understand doing something about that.)
Finally, it's sad when parents don't respect their own kids, and it happens more and more nowadays. Your parents should respect you to some degree, providing that you respect them. I don't have my Bible with me so I can't provide a verse, but I am sure the respect works best both ways.
Hopefully I helped somewhat!
2006-12-31 06:38:29 · answer #2 · answered by Locomotive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont recall the bible saying that anywhere, in the old testament it might have said for Isreal to remain seperate and not to inter marry and there was a really good reason at that time.
That said, your mom and dad may be wrong, but they are also older and wiser and love you and may be trying to save you alot of pain.
People are cruel and I can tell you first hand that is a very hard situation to be in. Typically your friends will turn against you and so will his.
I know we live in more modern times but trust me. Why go there? and have your parents upset, you upset, him upset.
Thats a whole bunch of hurt feelings, whats wrong with just being friends?
If you live under thier roof you should respect there wishes right or wrong.
Would God want you in a sistuation where there is that much turmiol.
Are you serving God by disobeying them, or yourself and your interest?
You need to pray about this, if its Gods will he will provide away.
2006-12-31 06:54:07 · answer #3 · answered by singularvision 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are supposed to respect them. The other side of that would be to read your Bible for yourself and you will see that you are to respect them as long as they are right, not just because they are your parents. The Bible says they are to treat you in a manner that is clearly stated in the Bible that would make you Want to respect them. It is a two way street, but, you cant know which direction you are supposed to go unless you read it yourself. Dont take anyones word for it. Read it Yourself.
2006-12-31 06:36:18 · answer #4 · answered by Paul & Cathy C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The command is to honor parents. There are no conditions given, no extenuating circumstances. It does not say that you must AGREE with them on every issue. If you are a child child, then you should obey anything they ask which is not a sin. This includes who you should date or even IF you should date anyone at all. If you are an adult child, and you are supporting yourself,then their AUTHORITY over you is finished, but your resposnsibility to honor them never ends. If you are still living in their home, accepting their support, you should continue to obey- not just because you are their offspring. This would apply to a neice/nephew, a oarder that they took into their home. They have a right and a responsibility to regulate issues in their own home as they choose, to the point of violating Scripture. If you do not choose to follow rules they set-- move out-- take care of yourself and take responsibilty for your choices-- and then yes, they should respect your right to do so.
If as an adult child, under your own support, you do not OBEY what you know they would prefer, you should still treat them respectfully, value their counsel, meet their needs as they age-- HONOR them because they are your parents and Scripture commands it.
2006-12-31 07:00:50 · answer #5 · answered by Gracesuf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No where in the bible does it speak of race,and mixing.They may have prejudice in their hearts.That is not of God,God has never been prejudice,he is the creator of all humanity,and proud of all his creation.He could care less of a persons skin tone,however he does look at a persons heart, deeds,and character.These are the things that concern HIM.Your parents are very misguided,as to the heart of God.You can disagree with them,without being disrespectful.You can honor them,as well as teach them.Search the word,and be respectful to them,show them.Be blessed and loved
2006-12-31 06:37:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before commenting on the Bible, please read the Bible.
I can not be manipulated by something that I choose to believe is the absolute truth.
Your duty is to learn from your parents. Respect your parents. Gain knowledge, gain love, not Eros love, but Agape love and Philia love.
Discover the world outside your routine life. This does not mean the negative attributes of life, but the many many positive things about our world.
Censure your negativity. Choose to be happy, not right.
Love your parents always.
2006-12-31 06:36:14 · answer #7 · answered by Lives7 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
family members are to respect each other...as long as your parents are not harming you, you should repsect their opinions while you are underage..and live in their house..
study the bible on your own, and when you become an adult, make a well-informed deicision as to what to believe...you may find out that even when you get a little older, there is still much to learn.
if you are in their house, you should show them respect...do not argue....just comply unless you can proove they are forcing you to do something immoral, or serious....who you can date is a not a serious issue... if they told you to kill someone that woudl be different
2006-12-31 06:35:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If your parents won't let you date outside of your own race, then they are racist.
By the way, according the Bible, if you talk back to your parents, you should be stoned to death.
2006-12-31 06:50:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is religious nonsense.
In the beginning Christianity was about enlightening the common people. Somewhere along the way it became about controlling people.
What you are hearing is not Christianity it is control.
Jesus never taught this.
love and blessings Don
2006-12-31 06:33:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋