It’s just I see everybody coupled up, and anybody who is not coupled up just going out, on the pull. I feel like that I am the only one waiting to have sex with someone special, and for a guy who is in his early 20’s, this is a very hard thing for me to do. Especially as everybody else sees sex as something meaningless, just something fun to do. As I grow older I really feel I will never meet anyone special to loose my virginity to. Because everyone else is screwing around, and not wanting to wait for someone special like what I am doing, and I feel emotionally num and unwanted.
2006-12-31 06:18:38 · 20 answers · asked by RIP 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In todays society it seems unnatural for people to wait before having sex, especially since everybody is in such a hurry to grow up. A lot of people look at commiting that first sex act as something that everyone is doing so they should too, chances are they usually end up regretting it and wishing they had waited. Me, I'm waiting, and I say to hell with society thinking I'm abnormal, nobody has to live my life but me. Sex for a lot of people is meaningless but for a select few, giving yourself in that ultimate act to the person you love and who loves you back is something that will be treasured for the rest of your life. You being emotionally numb, I really don't understand why, and everyone is wanted by somebody you just have to find the person who wants you.
2006-12-31 06:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by Lexy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ah, yes. 20 for me was a good age because I, myself, was still a virgin. Let me just tell you that I have no children out of wedlock, not paying child support, and have never had a social disease. How many of these people that you speak of can say the same thing now or in the near future. Hold onto what you have until you get what you want, because once you give it away, it's gone. Some people find that someone special over and over again. Waiting is the key to finding that someone special for life! Also, just because everyone does it that doesn't mean it's normal. What if we all jumped off the roof with sticks of dynamite in our hands, would that be normal?
2006-12-31 06:32:47 · answer #2 · answered by Deke O'Malley 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The longer you leave it the more special that moment will be, which is not necessarily a good thing. It is not about the sexual act but the affection u give to some-one. Women are heart-breakers just like men so be careful not to be a sucker for love. Look for that special person, build friendships and if she wants some action give her some good affectionate foreplay. It is just as effective as full intercourse if done right. Be brave and good luck.
2006-12-31 06:59:23 · answer #3 · answered by Convince Pete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal or abnormal is not the question here. You have made a highly responsible decision regarding something very important in your life. I did not do this when I was younger, but I wish now that I had.
Always aim high. Have the best expectations for yourself. Others may give up the magical moments in their lives cheaply, but that doeasn't mean you have to.
Good luck and a happy new year to you.
2006-12-31 06:27:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, that is just your upbringing, family values and your own values. If you want to find somebody, you first got to make yourself wantable. If you don't like yourself - nobody else does either. The ladies like energy, they sense confidence, pride, enthusiam. That is what they are seeking as well as and just as important warmth, comfort and safety. There are girls in the same boat. ..but you are not looking for a handicap case are you? She too has to be confident in herself. Otherwise, the handicap cases(emotional problems) will kill you. You become a doctor a crutch and no longer a partner to share downtimes with - they don't want any downtime from you. That is draining too. Finding these girls that are keeping themselves will not be at the bar....more likely in clubs doing crafts, hobbies, or church "eww. that is a tuff area to work"
2006-12-31 06:30:53 · answer #5 · answered by ButwhatdoIno? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aint nowt wrong in waiting..a sh ags a sh ag at the end of the day ..too many people have one nite stands and sleep with them they wish they hadnt or they lose there virginity way too soon then regret it and wish they had waited..so u keep hold of what dignity and self worth u have and save it for that special person happy new year xx
2006-12-31 06:25:11 · answer #6 · answered by greyhound mummy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to want to loose ur virginity to someone special, instead of wasting it on a boyfriend you might break up with tomorrow
2006-12-31 06:21:24 · answer #7 · answered by melonhead1214 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't call it normal, but I feel the same way and it is a very admirable thing. Don't let anyone put you down for it. Have a nice day!
2006-12-31 06:35:07 · answer #8 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course, there's nothing wrong with waiting. I'm waiting 2. the person should be special.
2006-12-31 06:41:37 · answer #9 · answered by bestkany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not normal, but i know which I would prefer. Keep waiting. Someone will come along and believe me, it will be worth the wait. Was for me...
2006-12-31 06:24:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋