How am I supposed to get over him, when I have to deal with him? I broke up with my boyfriend 6 months ago. We have a 3 year old son together. I have to see my ex every other week and I speak to him just about every day. I still love him. But he doesn't love me anymore and he is with another woman. He got with her right after we broke up. I mean like 3 days later. That hurt so much. It hurts to know the guy I love is with someone else. I can't just walk away and not talk to him, like a person should be able to when they break up. When is it going to stop hurting? It seem like every time I think I might be feeling better, something happens to make me feel like crap again. I have loved this guy for 4 years. And I hate to say it but this is the second time in 4 years that this has happened. I don't want to hurt anymore. How do I let him go? I've tried again and again to make myself understand that he is not the one for me but the hurt doesn't stop. The pain will not stop. Please Help!!
2006-12-31 06:13:38 · 13 answers · asked by skiheart12 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I feel your pain..been there done that..it will take time and don't ever sleep with him ..again..no matter what he tells you ..you need to move on and find some one that will love you ..but first you need to love yourself..and never let any one disrespect you be strong and you will get over it..good luck ..sorry..
2006-12-31 06:17:45 · answer #1 · answered by Kingofreportedabuse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex and I broke up ten months ago, we were together for two years he was definately my first love, we have tried to be together so many times and it doesn't work, I have even been the one to call it off a few of those times. Yet still after this long I love him more than anything and want him everyday. It is the hardest thing you will ever have to do and there is not much you can do to make it easier, try to limit contact with him as much as you can and only have contact when dealing with your child, bring nothing else into the relationship that you now have. Surround yourself with your family and friends, when you really feel like your missing him go out and hang out with your family and friends, even if its just to go over and chat over a cup of coffee it will get your mind off of it for a short while. I don't want to tell you that time will heal because I havn't healed yet but I know it will. At least thats what they all keep telling me, hold in there!! You will be fine!
2007-01-02 13:33:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you are going through. it can be really hard during this stage, but don't feel like you have to snap your fingers and have him disapear. some men are real backstabbers, and some men aren't. i was with my boyfriend for 7 years, and we were engaged, but then he broke it off when we found that i might be pregnant. i wasn't, but he left me and a week later, he was with another woman. here is what i did to get over him, it may bot work for you, but it might help.
but before this, DON'T GO TO A PSYCHIATRIST!
1. relax, read a book, or go for a walk, it helps relieve stress
2. instead of going to a bar or dance club, hang out with your friends, go get a coffee or see a movie with them, because they will always be there for you
3. erase his number from your cell, home phone, address book, and block all his calls (although he might not call you)
i don't have the rest of the list, but will put it on later today!
2006-12-31 06:21:12 · answer #3 · answered by Scratch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truly understand what you're going thru!! I know it is very hard getting over someone you love & I know it hurts like hell! & believe me you,it is going to take time to fully break away(from the love,not your son) I think the best thing to do is,even though you still love your ex, try to find someone to help take your mind off the situation,a friend,a new love...just keep yourself busy,very busy!!! And when you see him or talk to him,just keep saying to yourself,"it will get easier!" Good luck.
2006-12-31 06:32:05 · answer #4 · answered by baby_gail68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way i've found is to find someone else. and the other person was right to suggest you stop seeing him for awhile. like take your son to your moms and tell him to pick him up there so you don't have to see him. do this until you know you can see him without hurting. i know people that have had to do that for years.
2006-12-31 06:19:42 · answer #5 · answered by anonymous 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it has been 3 years that I have loved this guy who doesn't love me.....It takes time....but it is hard when you have to look at them all the time. I 've found that dating others helps...See what's out there...It might be better than what you've had since he moved on in 3 days....DATE!!!!
2006-12-31 06:18:46 · answer #6 · answered by nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry it is so hard to let go,it is just one of those things that time will heal.I wish I could be more help but it is something that only you can deal with.Good luck i have been there.
2006-12-31 06:18:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason why you should be talking to him every day. That behavior is not going to help. You should only be talking when it has to do with your child. He obviously didnt have any difficulty moving on, maybe its time you did.
2006-12-31 06:17:11 · answer #8 · answered by HDGranny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u need to get rid of all things that remind's u of him. then slowly work your way into a new daily routine, try to avoid all things that you two have doen togateher, and try to get out and have some fun, maybe go out with some friends, find a good book, go to the mall, get your nails done, JUST GET OUT and have FUN
2006-12-31 06:18:49 · answer #9 · answered by Cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is normal to hurt and still lov him but i su ggest u go out and and hav fun find ya self anoda guy or if not get ur hands on somefing to take ur mind off him
2006-12-31 06:47:15 · answer #10 · answered by chilli sause 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋