I was dating this guy who is 7 years older than me (im 18). After our date I got a call from a friend and found out he had a girlfriend. I heard his girlfriend talk about him on the phone. I am really mad at him!!! I want to make him feel bad. My friend refuses to give me his girlfriends number b/c she does not want to mess things up between them. He's been callin me but I have not picked up. Should I tell him how I feel on the phone or face to face? The last time I spoke with him he mentioned that he wants to take me out on another date. What should I do?
2006-12-31 06:11:18 · 19 answers · asked by truth hurts 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't do anything...eventually it'll come back to him, karma is something else..:)
If you decide to take revenge on your own, it could backfire.
Just allow nature and father time to work together, you'll laugh last.
2006-12-31 06:20:18 · answer #1 · answered by Khandi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 30 years old, and I've been there are done that.
Honey, LEAVE HIM ALONE. Do not answer your phone, and Move On with your life. I've seen men like him my whole life. Nothing you say or do will change him--nothing. Trust me, 10 years from now, he'll probably be married with kids and cheating on his wife. Men like him Dont Change.
The best thing you can do is realize you are young--and you have your whole life ahead of you. Most people would kill to be 18 agian.
Girl, dont worry about "getting back" at him. It will only creat a big mess. Honey, if you talk to him, he will only lie and make excuses. If you talk to his girlfriend--he will only tell her that YOU are Lying. So, cut them both loose.
He will try to move heaven and hell to get back with you. DONT. Keep in mind that 70% of all people have a sexually transmitted disease--and many African-American women get HIV and STD's because many black men go back & forth sleeping with 2 girlfriends at a time. And know that condoms dont protect against herpes and genital warts--so he could give you anything. Is he worth all that? NOPE.
Let This Go and dont bring this Drama and Foolishness into 2007! Happy New Year!
2006-12-31 14:22:53 · answer #2 · answered by Victory 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly the best revenge is living well. Let this be a learning experience. Getting back at him is fun, but in the end what does it do for you except make you smile? You don't prove anything to yourself except that he's a jerk. You could however keep all his emails, text messages and any communication you have to put his business out there. Truth be told your way younger than him, and he planned on playing you from the beginning, me pick them young because they think young women are stupid and they will fall for anything. Keep letting him call you and keep all his messages, and then you never know you may run into his girlfriend and you can let her know what's up, as a woman of course, and then the two of you can have fun spoiling his game. But seriously, all the men in the world, don't get bent out of shape over one idiot.
2006-12-31 14:17:35 · answer #3 · answered by snowflake9540 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The girlfriend has done nothing wrong, so your anger should not be directed at her. I would tell him how you feel over the phone since face to face means seeing him again. If you're so indignant you should definately not see him again. You've been played, it happens to all of us. Tell him what you think of his behaviour then move on.
2006-12-31 14:16:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you have a present of aka a really sexy outfit. Meet him at the best resterant you know....order eveything....eat it or don't, flirt your heart out.... and then get up and walk out....I prefer do it with another guy there (but I have 4 HOT older brothers) and if he gives up any problems just say .... don't you have a girlfriend!
He will be speakless and paying a huge check
2006-12-31 14:24:05 · answer #5 · answered by Elizabeth 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just ignoring him is the best revenge you can get. At 18, you will meet someone better for you yet. If you do decide to talk to him, tell him you simply are not interested.
2006-12-31 14:16:59 · answer #6 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was seeing this guy until I called a number that fell out of his pocket and found out it was his girlfriend. She decided to leave him so we pretended to be lesbians and she told him she was leaving him for me. He was heartbroken and dumbfounded. We felt great to play the player! Her and I are still good friends after 3 years.
2006-12-31 14:20:16 · answer #7 · answered by lauralie1978 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this may seem weird but have u ever read the sweet 16 series? theres 1 book- julie or julia(sumthin like that)- and it has pretty good advice 4 that. u may not be able 2 do this, but i thought it waz a cool idea
2006-12-31 14:31:31 · answer #8 · answered by Manda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He disrespected you. You should feel angry, you deserve better than that.
Answer the phone when he calls, tell him that you are aware of his GF and that you are not available to see him again.
No need for revenge, keep your dignity.
2006-12-31 14:18:40 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell his girlfriend and everyone else that you heard he got an STD from another girl. Then dump him.
2006-12-31 14:17:20 · answer #10 · answered by digorbat11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋