2006-12-31 05:52:25 · 8 answers · asked by professional student 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I should clarify my question. This is not my brother. And I'm not their father. But their mother approached me asking me what she should do. She is divorced, and her daughter (age 3) made worrisome claims about what happens between her and her 8 year old brother while they are at her fathers home.
2006-12-31 06:04:22 · update #1
The mother needs to take the little girl to the family physician, tell him what was said, and he can see if anything has happened to further or null the suspicion. If there is a chance that something has happened, the physician can also direct the mother on the proper way to handle it, with the least amount of trauma to the child.
2006-12-31 14:30:35 · answer #1 · answered by joy q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well from what you are telling me, it sounds like you have a bit of crisis on your hand. Usually boys of that age range will not touch or fondle with their three year old sister unless he is being sexually molested himself and is acting out in hopes that by doing so, it will tell on the person that is doing the "abusing." Also, I would suggest talking to the eight year old and see if he can't tell you what might be bothering him and try to find out what is triggering his behavior. I should take further precautions and never leave the three year old alone with her brother for any reason because usually if you suspect child abuse, 93% of the time it is usually happening and that is a true statistic by the way and very large. 95% of children being sexually abused is usually an "uncle or close relative." Also bare in mind that if the eight year old does try to penetrate the three year old, it can kill her cause of the stress it puts on her poor little body and you don't want that. By the way I am a mandated reporter and if it were me I'd look into it further and possibly remove the eight year old from the home to protect the girl at all costs. Ask the three year old if anyone is touching her, some can talk and others cannot tell you, but ask anyways and if she says yes then you have him arrested and charged for rape and aggravated molestation. Remember if this happens to explain to her when she gets old enough to fully understand so that there are no hard feelings towards yall for her brother no longer being there.
2006-12-31 06:20:59 · answer #2 · answered by chris a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ask the 3 year old> They can tell you if someone is touching them in bad places and watch the 8 year old and NEVER leave him alone with her. If this is a suspected situation now he will become a sexual predator of children through his growth and I would ask him if he's been sexually abused. That's usually how child rape starts unless someone let him watch pornography and he's acting out. There are a lot of questions that need to be answered and that baby girl needs to be protected even if it means removing the 8 year old from the home!
2006-12-31 06:03:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not get involved.
Dont try to figure out who the guy is.
Dont try to talk to the kids.
These are jobs for professionals. People who are trained for just these situations.
I know this sounds harsh, and I dont mean it that way, but every second you waste trying to figure out what to do is another second those little children are being sexually raped. Yes, I prefer to call it what is it. Not abuse, but rape.
You need to contact the child protective services or the police immediately. Yeah, sure, it means stirring up sh** in your friends life but these children's lives are at stake as well as their future children! If you dont make that call, you will have to live with your cowardice.
If you dont want to do it, I will. I will stand up and take all the blame. Just email me the info.
Good luck - now go do the right thing!
2006-12-31 07:04:17 · answer #4 · answered by DaBoomvang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you must understand that if your brother who is 8 is doing that then he probably is copying a behavior (he was abused) but your not really sure. So, just keep a close eye on them. And don't accuse or draw attention. He may just be playing in his mind. But it might look odd to you. If he puts his hands on her in an odd way just tell him its not nice to do that. Don't forget he is only 8.
2006-12-31 05:57:57 · answer #5 · answered by HDGranny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get the child some help before the law gets involved or the child gets bad hurt this is nothing to mess with.
2006-12-31 06:08:38 · answer #6 · answered by summer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call family services
2006-12-31 07:03:18 · answer #7 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out if he is.....
2006-12-31 06:02:46 · answer #8 · answered by Olivia's Mama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋