Theres this (single) guy and he works for this company thats stationed out of my office building. He doesnt work for the same company as me, but he works in the same building. I think he is the most amazing guy I have ever seen. He recently told another co-worker that he thinks im attractive but he cant date someone he works with. I hardly see him at work but when I do, we make small talk or smile and say hi. We dont "really" work together, so is there a chance the he might be interested, or that I can get him interested?
2006-12-31 05:44:35 · 16 answers · asked by texxxasgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You want to get him interested go talk to him and tell him you are interested. Maybe he is just bashful. If he likes you to that "office rule" isn't a rule anyway - its just a guideline - tell him to dump it ;)
good luck!!!
2006-12-31 05:47:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds interested...maybe you should bring up the differences in your employer...as in, different vacation policies, insurance etc...just to let him know that you do NOT work for the same company. Hopefully he will see that even though you may work in the same building, he is no more connected to you than he is to the people at the McDonald's down the road.
Second, most people shy away from dating people that are close to where they work...in case it goes bad. But, in a work environment, you get to see the people as they are...not on their best "date behavior". I have found that this knowledge helps to keep the relationship from going bad.
It seems to me that I would be much more inclined to date a person that I have something in common with, and already have an established relationship with, rather than meet a stranger in a bar... with each of us drinking in liquor and lies till we "fall in love".
Another advantage is that it gets past that same old conversation "script" that we all develop to tell the other person who we are and what we want out of life. I hate those conversations...they always sound so "canned".
Good Luck
2006-12-31 05:59:42 · answer #2 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, he's interested. The whole dating co-workers rules are for people date around a lot, then if things don't work out, they are unable to act maturely around that person. If you are seriously into this guy and you don't have to interact with him at work that often, it shouldn't be a problem.
The whole thing about him telling the co-worker he likes you but can't date a co-worker sounds like his way of getting back to you that he's interested and maybe give you motivation for the "thrill of the chase".
2006-12-31 05:54:19 · answer #3 · answered by sorcergeek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend and i work together and as long as you can leave your relationship at the door when you walk into work every morning then it's fine. We've never had a problem. But when you have a fight and it gets brought into the work place, that's when it presents a problem. Since the 2 of you don't see each other very much on the clock I don't see the problem
2006-12-31 05:50:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may be interested or he may not. Who knows what's going on in his mind. You need to feel him out, invite him to an outing with other people so he doesn't think its a date or anything. You should try to be friends first and if it's worth putting your heart on the line, go for it. But try to get some clear indications from him first and make sure he's really worth the risk.
2006-12-31 05:50:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have to mention you're going somewhere after work one day with friends (get a couple to meet up with you and leave about 30 minutes after he gets there). Invite him. It'll seem innocent enough, and he might be up for it. If it doesn't work the first time, try again the following week.
This approach worked for me with a woman who worked in my building a couple of years ago.
2006-12-31 05:49:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get it..... Why does he think he works WITH you?????? Clarify that with him over coffee during a coffee break. That's not dating so he can't object to that....
Good luck.... and go for it... Life put you both in the same building at the same time for a reason... remains up to you to see if you're gonna find out what that reason is... hmmmmmm.
2006-12-31 05:51:03 · answer #7 · answered by The ReDesign Diva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never have but maaaaaaaan did i want to, back when i was single there was this one guy...had the biggest crush on him, lord it was a killer, took a lot of work to will myself out of it, sheer willpower to not come on to him or touch him or get in his face, flirt, etc. but i did it because i'll be dammed if i became the laughingstock of the company or any kind of springerbait loser, no way, i'm a classy lady, so i gritted my teeth and got over it obviously, i would never do that...EVER not worth it
2016-05-22 23:57:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship got really bad and you wished you never had to see him again, would it be possible to avoid him? Would it be possible to keep him out of your work area?
If so, than go for it!
2006-12-31 05:50:42 · answer #9 · answered by rude_girl_terry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He already sounds interested and there seems to be no reason
you cannot date him..
Give him the opportunity..
Get near to him, give him some casual body contact,
brush up against him, stand very near him...
Talk to him...
2006-12-31 05:48:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋