i've just lost one of best friends a few weeks back. i was study before this. i had to stop that, for a bit. i'm seriously thinking about cutting of ties with some people including friends. i'm fed up of being pushed around. especially by women. how can you tell women, to stop playing games. i had a really good christmas. i enjoyed it the best i could. when you loss a friend, who you have had a twenty years relationship with, how long do you need to grieve. i did have plans, should i continue with those. i've known family, aunties and unces, that have died. this is the first time a friend has died. do i need to explain to people, why i'm behaving in a emotionally way. should keep my head down. i could use some friendly company.
2006-12-31 05:40:45 · 9 answers · asked by rjhamuk 2 in Consumer Electronics ➔ TVs
You don't tell anyone to do anything. you just make the choice not to surround yourself with such shallow, selfish bitches, including "friends".
Every decent relationship with anyone in your life should revolve around mutal respect and honesty; if not, you know what you have to do. Put up with it, or cut ties with those who don't fit the bill.
You deserve to be respected and have a positive space around you, so do it.
2006-12-31 05:43:52 · answer #1 · answered by hjfr27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know if you are ready to go on with your plans, You may decide to do so and later cut it short and maybe it will be good for you, but please, Allow yourself time to grieve, there is no set time for grieving, and sometimes it can take a while when a death is sudden or even just someone whom you are very close to. You can try explaining to people that you are going through a difficult loss and could really use some support, or just some understanding, as far as women go, just be real with them and tell them you aren't into games and don't feel that you are mentally stable enough to deal with any bull in your life at this moment ,but that you are open to company that can be of comfort to you. Don't feel guilty for hurting, it's okay to grieve and you have to give yourself time to heal when suffering such a heartache. Try focusing on good memories, Good luck, I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers, and yes, women can be compassionate.
2006-12-31 13:56:31 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way to get a bang for your buck, that's a lot of questions. Yes, women can be compassionate. You should turn to mutual friends that you both had and grieve together, that makes it easier. There is no defined amount of time that you're supposed to grieve for. It is different for everybody and depends on the relationship you had with the deceased. If you are really upset about this, you should maybe see a grief counselor to help you through it. You can usually find someone who will counsel you for a very modest price.
2006-12-31 13:45:15 · answer #3 · answered by laura 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women can be compassionate and not all of them play games. Don't generalise all women. Saying that though sorry to hear about the loss of your friend, take as much time to grieve as you need. There are no hard and fast rules. Don't bottle up your feelings though, it won't be good for you. People will understand why you're upset. Don't give up on plans you had, your friend wouldn't want you to do this. They would want you to be happy. Look after yourself and try to keep positive.
2006-12-31 13:53:24 · answer #4 · answered by harvestmoon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for you loss...this time of year makes it even harder. When you're up to it you should think of starting a new project or hobby...maybe join a club or take a class in something you've always been interested in. There are many free activities out there...I hope you have a better New Year... Keep in touch with the firnds that you know are real friends.
Good Luck :)
2006-12-31 13:44:15 · answer #5 · answered by isis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't turn away from your friends, if possible try to get out and enjoy some company, your friends are just trying to enjoy Christmas. Try to enjoy it with them, it might take your mind of your grieving for a while.
Happy new year.
2006-12-31 13:59:00 · answer #6 · answered by Hi T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no specific length of time you need to grieve, that is something that varies person to person. If you can, try to continue with your plans, not least because it'll give you some to focus besides your loss.
2006-12-31 13:44:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry for your loss and these people you call friends should be more understanding its terrible to lose anyone let alone someone you have known for so long ,,,my heart goes out to you
2006-12-31 13:43:37 · answer #8 · answered by whitecloud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your question is in the wrong category.
2007-01-04 07:36:15 · answer #9 · answered by ------------------ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋