I have been dating my boyfriend for about 8 months. He is very involved with his family. For new years he wants me to be with him and them. He wants to spend most of the day at his house with them and also wants me to spend the night. We are not engaged or anything. For some reason it just seems like it is too familar. Is this a good or bad thing to be doing this with him or should I not worry about it
2006-12-31 05:34:29 · 13 answers · asked by EVADIVA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-12-31 05:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by iroc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend obviously wants to spend time with you.... and his family. He seems to think you and his family will get along. I don't think it's too familiar, unless you're planning on sleeping in the same bed... Or you can go meet him later in the day, spend the evening and just don't spend the night. That way, you get the best of both worlds, he gets the best of his and you'll still feel comfortable... And hey, who knows? Perhpas you'll have such a good time you'll want to stay the night... so bring jammies and a toothbrush just in case... Imagine worrying about having a place to spend this special occasion, when lots of people cry about not having anyone to spend New Year's with.... So what exactly is your problem again????
2006-12-31 05:40:40 · answer #2 · answered by The ReDesign Diva 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is your boyfriend what is wrong spending New Year's with him and his family. If you have been dating for 8 months I am sure you have met his family. Have you spent the night with him before? If not just let him know that you will stay but separate sleeping arrangement will be made. Other than that I would not worry.
2006-12-31 05:40:48 · answer #3 · answered by d3midway semi-retired 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be very family oriented and thinks that things will move to a higher level between the two of you but until you feel more comfortable with that, if you do, keep an escape available before any possible sex. Remember that he may have in mind simply staying up all night watching tv but if he does move faster than you feel comfortable with, leave.
2006-12-31 05:41:01 · answer #4 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you don't feel comfortable spending the entire day with his family then you need to tell him that. if you feel like it is moving to fast then it is moving too fast. if he cares about you, he should be able to understand that.
when you say spend the night, is his family going to be there, cause if the are then that is a little weird and i would not want that either. just talk to him and tell him how you feel. new year's should be a time for you and him and not his whole family.
2006-12-31 05:40:20 · answer #5 · answered by fungirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haven't slept with him yet, have ya? If that's the reason why you are nervous to stay over at his place, don't. Even if you don't have sex, cuddling is one of the best feelings. If you don't feel comfortable about it, talk to your man, I mean you've been with him for 8 months now, so you should be able to talk about your feelings about the whole thing. Just roll with it. I think that its really sweet that he's asking you to be there with him and his family during the celebration.
2006-12-31 05:43:42 · answer #6 · answered by Hannah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 06:59:25 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont feel comfortable, then dont do it. Spend some of the day with him and go home after 12, if thats what you want. Just make sure you do what you want to do.
2006-12-31 05:38:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him hold one dude the world is spinning to fast for me and that i,m not ready to meet your parents right now and i don,t feel comfortable spending the night at your parents place yet please give me some time to meet them first, befor i stay over night.can,t we do something in the day time and meet them later and then go home after the new year countdown. p.s. trust your gut feelings because your gut is right. it dosen,t look good.
2006-12-31 05:47:11 · answer #9 · answered by i,m here if you need to talk. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. Go, and have fun! I would consider it a compliment that he wants you to be there, with his family, for New Year's! Enjoy!!
2006-12-31 05:44:54 · answer #10 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he is still attached to his mothers apron then he is not yet ready and matured enof for a relationship.so take my advice think it all over again and if u feel he is not measuring up, move on my dear gal
2006-12-31 06:05:46 · answer #11 · answered by babygal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋