my ex g/f of 4 yrs has anarexica and on anti-depressents will it take longer to move on after a 4 year relationship!!!!!!!!!!!!
only asking b/c i tryed to stay friends but she said she can not at the moment b/c it's to hard to see me and i need to move on she has moved on as she said but can tell she has not i'm scared about her condition and her family and friends will not talk to me!!!!
it's only been 6 weeks !!!!!!!
2006-12-31 05:32:04 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By putting this across I know you still care for her which is something you have done the right thing. This is a transition period and no doubt everyone is going through a tough time esp. your gf. She probably tough on the outside but soft from the inside so I suggest you continue to talk and care for her and help her to go through this tough period. One things for sure that this relationship has no longer working since this is a mutual agreement and understanding so it's just matter of time so be there for her but as a "Friend" only and anything involve with any emotional matters "STAY OUT OF IT" your must draw a line to yourself very clearly.
2006-12-31 22:51:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paul, she has a sickness, You have no control over her or her illness... She will do what she has to do in her own time.
Her family is probably hanging on by a thread and they don't need you asking about her. They have a hard enough time coping.
She has chosen this for herself and she is right, you can't be friends., there is too much baggage, hurt, despair, fear and unhappiness. ...
You need to let it go and let it take it's own course. You are not responsible for her.... It doesn't mean you can't be concerned for her well being.You don't spend 4 years with someone and not care.
You must do it from a distance and try to get some help healing. It might be a good idea to do some reading.
I think you will realize you are powerless in this situation and you are not living your life... You are standing and marking time.....
You must move forward in order to continue on your intended path in life.
She was in your life to teach you something and now you have an emotional understanding .
You must continue to grow in life, meeting challenges that will be hard to overcome, but they will be put there to make you a stronger and more compassionate person.
You will take these lessons with you every day and build on them.
2006-12-31 13:49:42 · answer #2 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
her condition is not your fault...it probably just potentiated things which were already an issue. you should try to be a friend to her. one can not have too many friends in life. if she refuses then she refuses. what i don't like (via experience) is when someone claims they loved you so much and then goes stone cold, silent, and refuses to see or talk to you. in the end, they clearly were not in love at all. love is not something you can turn on and off so easily. good luck. just be a friend or a regular nice person to her.
2006-12-31 13:40:11 · answer #3 · answered by keepingitgoing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the parents' house and tell them what is up..ya you may be the cause of this but it is no longer in your hands so you can't be expected to fix it. It is now in the hands of her family.
2006-12-31 13:35:42 · answer #4 · answered by MoMoChan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like i said int he previous one...
it must have been serious, she will take MONTHS to get over you
you CANNOT stay friends after a serious relationship, it just dosnt work
just stop seeing/talking to her and let her gather herself back without your help
she needs to get used to not having you there, so dont make it harder
2006-12-31 13:35:18 · answer #5 · answered by Mr_wall2005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE TOLD YOU TO MOVE ON AND THE REASON WHY. SO LISTEN TO HER . IT SEEMS THAT THE ANTI-DEPRESSANTS ARE HELPING HER TO MOVE ON MAYBE YOU REALLY DON'T WANT TO MOVE ON. HER FAMILY AND FRIENDS ARE TAKING CARE OF HER.
2006-12-31 13:45:04 · answer #6 · answered by bettys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋