We live together, are having a baby, and have been together for a little more than a year, and yet he still has msn and yahoo messenger lists full of girls he adds and hides from me (which I always find out about on my own). Am I wrong to think that this is way shady and he is stupid for thinking I won't find out? I need some girl advice here ladies :)
2006-12-31 05:25:00 · 22 answers · asked by * jessiellen* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are supposed to have a committed relationship of course it's not alright! A relationship can't work if only one person is committed. And, if he is hiding them from you, then he knows he's doing something wrong.
2007-01-03 03:27:38 · answer #1 · answered by sickoflies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you have lists of men on your messenger lists?if you did what would he think?ask him that-if he acts very defensive-he might be guilty of more than just having lists.what does he talk about with the girls he cant or doesnt talk to you about?maybe he wants you to find out or he'd be sneakier about it.maybe the baby thing is too much for him and this is how he is reacting.if you think it means that he is not trustworthy and will not be a good partner for you or father for your baby then you need to make a major decision about what you will put up with before your baby is born-HE WILL NOT CHANGE HIS WAYS JUST BECAUSE YOU HAVE A BABY WITH HIM.
2006-12-31 05:37:24 · answer #2 · answered by jellybeans33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I AM NOT FEMALE BUT I HAVE A OPINION, YOU LIVING TOGETHER YOU NEED TO FIND OUT WHAT HIS TENDENCY'S ARE ESPECIALLY IF THERE IS A CHILD INVOLVED, THAT IS NOT A WAY TO RAISE A CHILD,GET SERIOUS NOW AND TAKE CARE OF CHILD THE WAY THAT IS RIGHT, HIM HAVING SECRET GIRLS IS NOT VERY RESPONSIBLE NOT WITH A CHILD, IF IT IS YOU AND HIM LET IT BE GIVE THAT CHILD A NAME AND A SOLID FOUNDATION,THERE IS TO MANY BROKEN FAMILY'S OUT THERE, AND CHILDREN GROWING UP HEARING ALL THINGS OUT THERE IN THE WORLD, AND MAKING THERE OWN CHOICE RIGHT OR WRONG OR WEIRD, YOU ARE THE MOTHER NO MATTER WHAT YOU HAVE MORE THAN JUST YOU TO THINK OF NOW GOOD LUCK
2006-12-31 05:37:56 · answer #3 · answered by warrior 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, some guy advice would be that he is not committed to a relationship with you and eventually the relationship will end unless he commits to it more. if they were only friends, he would want you to know them as well so because he is hiding them, it is more than just a friendship. talk it out with him and if he continues to do things like this, get out and start now to develop a support system for you and the baby that dosn't include him for anything other than child support.
2006-12-31 05:36:26 · answer #4 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm, that's interesting that he feels the need to hide these lists from you. Unless there is a purpose for having those women on his lists such as for gaming, I would say that you have a problem on your hands. You will want to look into sex addiction. Whether or not he is having sex with these women, it is the fact that he talks to them, may talk sex with them, may masturbate with them that is what is important. Check out the below website for more information on sex addictions.
2006-12-31 05:33:17 · answer #5 · answered by brighterdayscounseling 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is cheating on you..
No, it is not OK for him to have lists of other girls..
Always get married before choosing to get pregnant.
You will probably be left alone as a single mother to
fend for yourself and child..
2006-12-31 05:29:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Forget what zach said you wanted GIRL advise right. I think you should demand that he tell you who those girls are and what they are talking about. He owes that to you, you are partners. And if he saw that crap coming from you he would probably do the same!
2006-12-31 05:30:40 · answer #7 · answered by Tiinnisha Z 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably just feels trapped with a baby on the way. It is more than likely just harmless flirtation to take his mind off things and make him feel not chained down. I wouldn't sweat it unless he is actually hooking up....
2006-12-31 05:28:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he has to hide to do something he is up to no good. Anything he is doing he should be able to do it with you sitting right there looking.
2006-12-31 05:30:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you are a family now, he shouldn't hide things from you. you have the right to find out who those girls are... maybe they are just his friends or relatives? you should know who he is talking to. he is your husband now & you should know what he is doing. i don't think you should be very worried, but i would advise you to find out who he is talking to & hiding from you.
2006-12-31 05:30:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋