She has been staying with him. They've been together for 5 months. I am not sure if he loves her or is it just convenience. The whole thing is just killing me! I have tried to move on, but we can't change how we feel, especially when it's something deeply rooted in ourselves...I am not even a part of the picture. I don't know if I stand a chance ever...I believe nothing is impossible, but this process is just killing me.
I've seen him look at me (check me out) in the past but the opportunity of anything developing was not there due to some circumstances..I feel I may have lost my chance...
What's even harder is that I am unable to enter his circle...I could have, but the opportunity was lost...
I bet some of you will just say "move on" or something like that...but that is not helpful! I can't just switch my feelings off...I wish I could just be with him.
Is it possible he's in love?
2006-12-31 05:14:20 · 21 answers · asked by saxoool 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've found myself in the same situation. I found ways to run into him and be available just to talk. I settled for any attention or time I could get from him and spent every waking moment thinking about him. It really does hurt, doesn't it? My guy eventually came around. I think I wore him out with sheer persistence. He left the other woman and we had a very slow and cautious relationship for a few years. We are getting married in July! Hang in there.
2006-12-31 05:18:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on is the best answer and yes it is not easy. We can't stop our emotions but we can temper them little by little. Time is your only answer even if you feel like you want it to be over today. Trying to be around this boy won't insure he will be attracted to you. Changing your life to suit someone else only makes you a different person than who you are. Isn't that what you want someone else to be attracted to...the real you?
And as you say yourself....he has a girlfriend. Might it be that he loves her with the same feelings you seem to feel for him? Would it be fair for you to intrude on their relationship?
And since it seems you haven't spent much time with this young man, how can you say that you are in love with a person you don't even know? Could it be that you are just infatuated with his looks?
And lastly, nothing is impossible. If it's meant to happen, one day it will. It just seems that today is not the day and it probably isn't going to happen in the immediate future no matter what you do. Keep yourself busy in other things. Spend time with other people and make an effort to meet others. Who knows, that "Mr. Right" might be waiting to find you and you were too busy chasing a lost cause.
2006-12-31 05:27:51 · answer #2 · answered by KATHYP82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-15 05:30:36 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it is possible he's in love. does he know you still have feelings for him,does he have feelings for you. if he has a girlfriend i don't see why you should keep on praying for a chance that you will get into the picture.if he loves her he will not leave her for you. i know your feelings cant change in a blink of an eye. i understand that,and i know it will be hard for you to move on. in my opinion i think you should ask him if he loves her. ask him like a friend not like someone that wanted him. just ask him do you love her. and maybe he will ask you a question such as why would you ask me that. this is a difficult time for you and i totally understand where you are coming from. i wont tell you to move on. but if you see that it is going no where with you waiting for a chance you should try and move on.
2006-12-31 05:31:56 · answer #4 · answered by kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has a girlfriend I would say it is possible he is in love. If you noticed him "check you out" it means you are cute and he is male.
I guess you need to take a shot at telling him how you feel. If he pursues you while maintaining his girlfriend you have misjudged him worth your love.
If he breaks up with her to be with you maybe he has the same crush as you.
If he tells you he can't pursue anything because he has a girlfriend then maybe someday you guys will be in the right place to get together.
2006-12-31 05:21:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's currently with someone that you think he's "playing" for sex. So you wanna be a toy for this guy? If he'll jump on you while he's seeing the other chick, what makes you think he wouldn't dump you as soon as something new and fresh comes along? Some chicks just have "use me" stamped on their foreheads.
But then again, if that's what you want, go for it. But don't expect to find something that's clearly not there.
2006-12-31 05:20:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to accept that he has a relationship with another woman even if he may be attracted to you. The best thing to do
is date other men and find someone who's single. You'll save
yourself pain.
2006-12-31 05:18:45 · answer #7 · answered by Alion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move ON!!!! do you even no what love is. If this girl is with someone else you don't love her, you just stalk her. Get off the computer and get out there and do something, or find someone else!
2006-12-31 05:18:09 · answer #8 · answered by Adam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you love him and it hurts but you can't expect him to feel the same for you. Just be his friend and if something more happens then great. You can tell him that it is difficult to see him go out with another girl but you are still his friend.
2006-12-31 05:18:53 · answer #9 · answered by amyth74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, with someone else. Guys check women out all the time. Move on
2006-12-31 05:17:03 · answer #10 · answered by fizz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋