Me and my girlfriend have been having sex for about a year now and I know I can please here but I'm just looking for something advice on how to really please her.
2006-12-31 04:50:39 · 24 answers · asked by sex_advice_needed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Use your imagination and your tongue.......
2006-12-31 04:55:53 · answer #1 · answered by skanksta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get hypothetical! Conversations about sex can be a little daunting, since there's the constant fear of saying something the other person will find repulsive. But you two have been at it for a year - you should already have at least ideas formed of what preferences you both have. If you're not comfortable asking her before or during, talking about fantasies and ideas for "next time" is always a pleasure while snuggling after... 'specially if it leads to more, in my book. :x
But in general, teasing works well. Little touches and sly comments for hours leading up to the "event" can make the pleasure all the more exquisite. Let tension build. Orgasm is great, but it's really the way you get there that counts; if it's short and clinical, it won't be anywhere near as fierce or intense as if it's a long, winding road with many pleasurable sights all along the way.
Talking during sex is a big turn on for most, but that's more tone of voice than the words you choose, in truth. If either of you aren't comfortable talking during, a good way to get practice is over the phone. You don't have a choice but to vocalise then; and once it's obvious how much more intense it can be with those little whispers etc it's very hard to keep them in.
Make sure your partner knows how much she turns you on. Tell her so, repeatedly and in varied ways. Growl in her ear. If you haven't already (and if not why not?!) ask her to make good use of your hands on her - have her guide them everywhere she would if she were using her own. Pay attention. Lots of eye contact.
Good grief, the list is endless...
2006-12-31 05:00:59 · answer #2 · answered by dagorath1123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fix a romantic dinner, turn the lights down, light several candles, turn some soft, mellow music on in the background. During the course of dinner, or perhaps wait until dessert, bring up the fact that you would like to communicate more about what pleases her. There's an awesome game you can get also that's called "Sex Play" by Emily Dubberley that you can purchase at Barnes & Noble. It makes it a bit more comfortable opening up and experimenting. Good luck!
2006-12-31 04:55:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try slow, sexy and sensual. Look her in the eyes, slowly, gently touch her where she likes to be touched. Brush her with your lips on parts of her body she likes. Only go into her when she is ready and begging, then start slow and let her control the pace from there. Remember, continue to look in her eyes and at her beautiful body
2006-12-31 05:00:14 · answer #4 · answered by gogirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always good to be open with your partner and being able to talk about it. You could start by asking her about her fantasies, and if she has one she would really like to be fulfilled, By starting there you could open up the door to alot of exploring and fun for you both.
2006-12-31 04:57:13 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Other than the usual and sex stuff.....the power of touch is magical.
Lie beside her and very slowly gently rub her skin. Arms, hands, thighs, etc etc. Keep it very slow. She will feel your love through your touch.
2006-12-31 05:00:39 · answer #6 · answered by Patricia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her 3 or 4 blow jobs and then have sex with her she will love you for ever if you don't she will leave believe me am a woman and i know what we want
2006-12-31 04:54:42 · answer #7 · answered by nancy o 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do it somewhere else like in the garden, or in a pool, sauna, backyard, car, movie (hihi), beach... etc. or do some role playing, or grab her while she's doing the laundry, or get into the bathroom while she's taking a shower...
but im not her, so what pleases me may not please her. so try to talk to her and goodluck!
2006-12-31 05:01:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely talk to her and maybe you should see how adventurous she is I always found sex shows greatly exhilarating if you ask Ticketmaster for a date and place where there is one in your area
2006-12-31 04:55:28 · answer #9 · answered by Kara B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can google "how to make sex better" i guess
if shes into it, get toys and try to spice it up
but the problem is, people are too afraid of spices
get creative
talk to her about it, ask her opinions on your ideas and what are her ideas
2006-12-31 04:52:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her what she likes, and what she wants, fool around thinking up a bunch of bad stuff to do, do a blindfolded game, haha that's always fun
2006-12-31 04:52:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋