Now let me start off saying that I do not think that I am better than anyone else. I have, however been told that I have been a positive influence on others lives. A few years back, I was a very judgemental person. That was before I realized that I was not doing what Jesus wanted me to do. I was disappointing Him. I decided to be friends with anyone who wanted me for a friend. That resulted in me having a lot of friends who are not what I would call upstanding citizens in the community. But, I love them and I try to be a positive influence. I have a friend that I have known for a few years. She tells me all the time that I need to stop being friends with this person or that person because of some reason or the other. I try to explain to her and since she is a Christian, she should understand. She has started to avoid me, because of one particular person that I hang out with now. It is really hurting my feelings that she is acting like this. Why can't she understand?
2006-12-31 04:43:34 · 16 answers · asked by Kat 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Are you having a good influence on the person that is considered "not to standard" to your other friend? What truly makes a person, their shell, or their heart and soul? Jesus did not choose his friends by whom society placed in ranking order. If your friend chooses not to associate with you because you are making a significant difference in someone else's life that needs you, than you have to question whether she/he is a true friend to you.
I have a very dear friend, whom I love dearly, and whom I refer to as my female soul mate, she and I do not have the same friends, and I do not necessarily like all of her other friends, but I respect her choices, as long as they are not detrimental or negative to her life. She makes a difference in their lives, and I make a difference in my friends lives, and she and I both respect that, and continue our true friendship.
If you feel a duty to God, and to yourself to continue your friendship with this other person, and its not a negative thing for you, than I say go with your heart. You seem to be a wonderful person.
2006-12-31 04:56:02 · answer #1 · answered by deanie1962 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would explain to her that she has faults too, and you wouldn't stop being her friend just because someone else doesn't like her. Explain to her that you are confident enough that you can be friends with people with all sorts of problems and just because you are friends with these people doesn't mean that you have to participate in the things they do, Your other friends may do drugs, it doesn't' mean you have to, and it doesn't mean that person is a bad human being, it just means they have some problems they need to work through and having a friend like you may help them. So just tell her to mind her own business and just be a true friend and support you in whatever decision in life you make. I hope it all works out for you.
2006-12-31 04:50:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should tell her your true feelings that u care about her and the other person and just because she doesn't like that person doesn't mean u have to follow what she says. U can like both, sit down talk to her, find out really why she hates that person so much and try to figure out how to fix it. Keep praying to the lord for her. She should forgive this person, really if she is a christian. You don't need enemies because life is too short for that. good luck. hope this helps
2006-12-31 04:48:49 · answer #3 · answered by stargurl_5887 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus died for sinners, not for believers. Christians often miss this. Unfortunately, it sounds as though your friend has too. Actions speak far louder than words, and I believe that you are doing what God wants you to do. I have many non Christian friends. They respect my beliefs and (most) are careful of their language when in my presence. I try not to preach at them, or force my beliefs and values on them, and as a result, I have had different non-christian friends approach me with spiritual questions, and so, a seed is planted. I can see your friend has really hurt you. Ask God to soften her heart and open her eyes to what you have been trying to explain to her. Just keep being her friend, and she'll come around. And by the way, I am proud of you. God tells us to love one another...He doesn't add "Except Non-Believers"...
2006-12-31 04:56:22 · answer #4 · answered by ceegt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say be friends with those who bring something positive into your life and you, something positive into their life. So what that she does not like some of your friends. It sounds like you are doing a "good Samaritan" deed by being friends with those who are otherwise overlooked. Just be cautious. Sometimes, these so-called friends are witty, acting like a fair weather friend only to leave you hurt in the end.
2006-12-31 04:51:29 · answer #5 · answered by Girls M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does this person your hanging out with you have any influence on you. Do they do anything in your presence that is not pleasing to God. Do they do anything when not with you that could put you in jeopardy with the law. Like if they got picked up when with you and they had something on their person.
I wonder if she sees something you don't perhaps blinded by your friendship with this person. Is it her feelings for you that cause her concern or a prejudice. I ask her than pray about it.
2006-12-31 04:52:52 · answer #6 · answered by singularvision 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your friend who Jesus hung out with??(Lepers ,prostitutes ,tax collectors and the likes who at the time he lived were looked upon as the dregs of society!he was even called a drunk does this sound like the wrong croud??follow your heart and your savious and not your dissaproving friends .ask them WWJD!
(Matt.11:19 The Son of Man came eating and drinking, and they say, `Here is a glutton and a drunkard, a friend of tax collectors and "sinners." ' But wisdom is proved right by her actions."
Lk.7:34. The Son of Man came eating and drinking, and you say, `Here is a glutton and a drunkard, a friend of tax collectors and "sinners." ' )
2006-12-31 04:54:21 · answer #7 · answered by revdauphinee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from a not religious point of view, be friends with who you want to be friends with, help out your friends, and try to work it out with this girl, have her understand that you just cnt let someone die on the side of the road because that person isnt going to influence your life.
2006-12-31 04:47:02 · answer #8 · answered by bob b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can try explaining to her until you're blue in the face, but it may make no difference. It sounds like you have a decision to make. Either stay friends with your judgmental friend or say goodbye.
2006-12-31 04:48:13 · answer #9 · answered by gebobs 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are trying to help people then she should understand. It might be that she's jealous of whoever you are hanging out with. If you feel that your purpose it to help others then don't let anyone stop you.
2006-12-31 04:49:58 · answer #10 · answered by zerospacegurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋