how do i deal w/my grandfather dying from cancer?

Question

my grandfather has cancer & it is spreaing FAST. he is dying and its killing me. over the past few weeeks ive been tlkn to him more. but he is only going to live 4 a few more months how to cope?

Answer 1

I agree with everyone who says to spend as much time with him as you can. If possible, remain as informed as you can about what is being done for him at the hospital or hospice, so that you're not blindsided by anything. Feel free to indulge your feelings; if you're feeling sad, scared, pissed off, anything at all, nobody's begrudging you those emotions and the expression thereof. Family togetherness is an important thing as well; these are the only people who know exactly what you're going through.

Answer 2

Do you think or expect people to live forever? You have to accept the fact death is inevitable. You have no other option but to cope and move on in life. It is highly expected for the elderly to soon come to their day of departure. They have lived a life which hopefully, they felt was fulfilling. Regardless, their time comes nearer as they become older. Your grandfather would not want you to stop living after his demise. Therefore, you make his last days pleasant. Be there when he wants to talk, laugh, cry or be held. Being there when he needs you is your and his greatest reward. You will be happy you were able to comfort him in his last days and eliminate any regret.

Answer 3

I am not sure how old you are but you are doing the best thing you can do. Say goodbye now and spend time with letting him know you love him. I do not believe death is the end. I have lost both of my parents, my mom at 17 my dad at 23. I know my dad saved my life after he died by stopping my car from going into a lake in December. I have 2 boys of my own now and my youngest feels him granddads spirit around him all the time. His body will be gone but he will be with you as long as you remember him.

Answer 4

Hi sorry to hear about your grandfather, I lost my mum to cancer 7 months ago.She was sick for 1year and 7 months. Only 60 when she died. I was always very close to my mum, I have to brothers but my mother felt more comfortable If I was around as she needed help showering and getting dressed. I spent all the time I could with her, she wanted to be at home as long as she could so I was there when ever she needed me. We used to remember when my brothers and I were little, she would not eat a lot so whenever she wanted something special I used to cook it for her. Just be there for him as long as you can. I have four children and for a while my husband spent more time with them than I did, but it was worth it because I was there when my mum passed away and I feel satisfied with all I did for my mum.

Answer 5

Feel solace that everyone dies and that you are there for him to ease the pain. When you have a loved one by your side up to the end it helps a ton. You are there when he needs you most, death is a part of life and rather than not confronting it, your in the trenches with it. This makes you strong, and you may not see the strength in you but it is there! May God bless you and your family and receive your grandfather into his arms.

Answer 6

spend as much time as you can with him. listen to his stories, talk with him, read to him, play cards, just be with him. my mother died of cancer. she did not tell me she had cancer for over a year. she did not want to worry me. when she died i felt like i had been robbed of that time with her. make as many memories as you can. you won't regret it and it will help you grandfather.

Answer 7

you are doing good kept talking to him and that god gives you the straight to you and your family to kept him comfortable as mush as possible