Me and my boyfriend of 2 yrs. living together for 6 months and we're planning an engagement party this summer. He has a 6 yr old daughter that comes and play in my house every week and I love her and treat her like my own. I met his baby mother before and she introduced her self and shook my hand, I also spoke to her on the phone, She knows everything about me and my boyfriend and she even told me before that they Broke up so long ago, way before I came in the picture. But it seems to me that she's hipocrite because i found text messages her telling him that she knows he doesnt care for her but she's still in love, I also met his Best friend's girlfriend and she told me that His baby mom went up to her and questioned her why she always talks to her Baby's father, what does she have with him, Not knowing that was his best friend's girl friend. I asked him why she did that, thats my job Im his girlfriend. Does he still have something with her? I think i will never be happy with him.
2006-12-31 03:54:06 · 4 answers · asked by juicy_lips6923 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I hope I'm getting this clear enough to answer this correctly. Your boyfriend needs to deal with this one. He needs to let her know and continue to let her know that she is no longer a part of his life. I'm sure he has already done this however as she is persisting, he needs to continue to be firm with her on that. It is definitely not your job to determine why she is doing that or to keep her away from him.
2006-12-31 04:30:38 · answer #1 · answered by brighterdayscounseling 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is all just DRAMA.. First of all, a 6 year old child is no longer a baby. So, drop the baby mom stuff.
The child's mother probably still has feelings for your current boyfriend. They have a child together, there will always be a bond. However,she has also stated that she understands he wants nothing to do with her. If you want to have any chance at being happy in this relationship, you are going to have to let it all go. Be the bigger person and don't let her get to you(which is what she is attempting and succeeding at doing)
If you honestly believe that you cant ever be happy, then it is time to get out, NOW. There are plenty of others out there with much less drama in their lives.
Good Luck!
2006-12-31 04:03:23 · answer #2 · answered by Jen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not the answer you want to hear, but something to think on. I was divorced when my children were 6 and 8, and my counselor said, because of the children, you and he will never be "completely divorced" because of all the decisions that are to be made for the child. Can you imagine if you had a child with him, you broke up and he had the child ? You would still want to be involved in the child's life. I'm not saying she should have any other type of relationship with him, but "sharing the parenting" of a child is very confusing. 80% of second marriages end in divorce, mostly because of these child issues .
2006-12-31 04:04:39 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will always be a part of his life because she is the mother of his child. You will have to accept that and respect her as his child's mother. However, I don't see how this has anything to do with your happiness. Your boyfriend appears to be committed to you. Leave him to sort out issues with the ex and stay out of it. I'm sure he's capable of telling her off. So what if she's sms'ing him?! Be confident and secure in the knowledge that you're the person he's chosen to spend his life with.
Avoid interactions with her. Be mature and don't attempt to fill the role of mother to his child or get involved in their parental issues whatsoever.
2007-01-01 01:15:26 · answer #4 · answered by Lauren D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋