its a cousin that i rarely see. should the amount be different if i give them cash?
2006-12-31 03:51:37 · 19 answers · asked by mommy 3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
$100 cash or a $50 gift card to some place like bed bath and beyond.
2006-12-31 03:53:56 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people now a days only really want cash, unless they have a wedding registry. If you are giving only cash, you have to approximate the price for the plate of food. Normally it will run you on average $100, depending how fancy the establishment is. Also if the cocktail hour had an assortment of food, and also if there was a dessert buffet along with the cake, you have to take that into consideration. If you have nothing against this cousin, I would give the couple about $100 a plate. But if you do not like this cousin, then maybe between $50 to $75 a plate. Nothing less than $50. My best friends got married 6yrs ago, and they are like my brother and sister to me. I gave them about $125 a plate times 2 because of my date. I hope this helps a bit. Good Luck.
2006-12-31 12:06:23 · answer #2 · answered by nyicecreamking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, it depends upon your circumstances, by which I mean where you live and how much money you have to spend. Once I bought for a wedding gift for a Korean friend a lovely 3-tiered basket from a Chinese store in my neighborhood. It cost only $35 and was one of her favorite presents. I think the cash versus present question should be settled by what is availble to you.. What would you buy her and her groom anyway? And is she registered at a store you can access?
I have the feeling that if you gave them an amount you feel is appropriate and presented it in a very nice card, it would be easier. It is difficult to answer your question exactly because you do not know what to buy, is that not so ... and therefore you do not know how much it would cost, so how to know what to give in cash instead?
It is surprising what lovely gifts you can buy for not very much money.... someone I know received a pair of egg coddlers, beautifully painted ... and another one a beautiful jam pot with a serving spoon .... and you can always find a beautiful clear glass vase in a modern design.... all of the above would be for less than $100, don't you think?
Sometimes it is easier to give a lovely gift than to give only a small amount of cash which might look chintzy. But, hey .. you have rights! Proper etiquette involves you, too!
2006-12-31 12:12:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend what you can afford because only you know. These days with the economic system being the way it is, why put yourself through undue stress over how much you should spend. Gift cards are always nice because your cousin can buy what she needs/want without you taking on the extra stress. If she is registered with a wedding registry, find out where and get a gift card from there along with a beautiful wedding card. It's that simple I hope in your case.
2006-12-31 12:11:47 · answer #4 · answered by swanred52 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rule of thumb is ATLEAST give them what they paid for your meal and drinks and double it if you brought a guest. Our wedding was about $50 a person. If you don't really know them, I'd say spend around $50, cash or gift. We always give atleast $50 and if we are close to the people we give $100. We got anywhere from $25-$500 from each person at our wedding. Have fun!
2006-12-31 12:33:16 · answer #5 · answered by BDiPaolo413 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I generally spend about $50 on anyone that I am not really close to. Cash wouldn't need to be a different amount, as with wedding gifts selected from someones registry they can easily find out how much you spent anyway.
2006-12-31 11:55:33 · answer #6 · answered by Jacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fifty bucks per person attending (so a hundred if you are "plus guest") is fair. This gift offsets the giant amount of money the people spent on the food and alcohol to serve you. A wedding isn't just a free party; it is an exchange: your gift for food, drink and music.
2006-12-31 12:03:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For people that you are just aquainted with or family that you rarely see, about $25. If it is your children or someone you are very close to, about $100. You could buy them a gift, or make it a gift of money. For young newlyweds, they would probably appreciate the money more than a house gift.
2006-12-31 11:58:28 · answer #8 · answered by mamaskydragaon1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would personally spend about $30 on a co-worker or acquaintance or long-distance relative. If it was a closer friend or relative, $50, and if a son, daughter, brother, sister, $100 and up. But this is just me. It depends on how much you can afford as well (it shouldn't be about the amount, but the thought). I think if you give money, its about the same as well.
2006-12-31 11:54:57 · answer #9 · answered by CG 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say $50. close family I would do $100, but not a cousin I rarely see.
2006-12-31 11:56:05 · answer #10 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋