I got together with my best friend who is a guy. We actually really love each other. We are in love. And when we are together everything is pink, but he works most of the week and i get to see him 2 times a week. I become such a paranoia since i got in the winter brake. I see problems in our relationship if is actually is not. I'm always the one who wants everything or nothing. But after i feel guilty and i try to be nice, but i don't know how long he will accept my behaviour. He is so nice and so sweet and he doesn't understand why i don't like some stuffs. And i'm so confused... i don't know how should i behave. I'm afraid of cheating and i'm afraid he will fins my sensible parts in a relationship and he will take advantage of. I had multiple BF before, but nothing serious, i made fun of each one of them . I had a realtionship of half of year , and the rest of 2 years were long distance relationship. After one week after i broke up with my ex bf i got togheter with this guy i critiqu
2006-12-31 03:39:27 · 13 answers · asked by cuttiegirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think Bill is correct.
2006-12-31 03:45:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you need to relax and give this relationship a chance first !
Don't have so many expectations going, that's another!
You expect too much! This is the way I'm seeing it!
You have a great start there being Best Friends and the fact that you both are IN LOVE! There are your strengths right there! If your guy loves you, he will know the understanding side of you and accept you no matter what! All you need to do is "Work" on your weaknesses and get more self-confidence going!
Tell your guy how you feel and why you feel guilty! He's a nice and understanding guy, he'll listen! That's all part of being in love----------- UNDERSTANDING!
If he can't deal with the way you are, he can always "EXIT", but, I don't see that he would! Give him some feedback and let him tell you how he feels, then you can go from there and work on your weaknesses! Noone is perfect, ok? At least your BF knows who you are in every way, so don't let yourself be confused, ok? Being you 2 are the Best of Friends, you can get through the toughest of times! Believe me!
Loosen up some and be yourself! You can go wrong!
You have my Blessings!
2006-12-31 03:51:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be really hard when you love someone to be away from them, especially when you first fall in love! Since it is becoming an issue, I would sit down and talk with your boyfriends about this. Tell him that you love him and love to be around him and sometimes it is hard to be away from him. Realize that is is QUALITY not QUANTITY. Make sure that the time you do spend together is very special and make sure that you are both very affectionate toward echother. This will help when he is not around all the time because you will feel fulfilled. Hope this helps.
2006-12-31 03:47:40 · answer #3 · answered by Lovely Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is YOU.
You are too needy. Too clingy. You are not mature enough for a real relationship. Relax. Get to know yourself without a guy around for a while. Do things with out guys. You are basing your life on having a guy in it and that is not how to live.
2006-12-31 03:42:29 · answer #4 · answered by Trollhair 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't stand closeness even though you want it. So you create chaos to drive away the nice guys who can really be close, but you probably adore the "bad boys" who mistreat you. Listen to Dr Drew on Love Line if you want to hear other people tell your exact same story. You are not terminally different.
2006-12-31 03:44:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, your the one with the issue problems. You have low self-esteem and very in secured. If you really care for this guy then you need to trust him. Maybe try counseling, volunteer some time. Because if you pressure the guy then you lose him.
2006-12-31 05:43:46 · answer #6 · answered by daisy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
day after today think of roughly what you basically wrote now for the time of your total day. you will likely capture your self being a "infant". as for the controlling area, think of roughly what you're saying or do in the previous you atually do it. attempt to easily cruise and enable issues bypass, like once you don't get what you want basically enable it bypass, as a results of fact it is not a huge deal. once you get a small concern and you will turn it right into a huge one, think of basically CRUISE. it is not a huge deal. in case you get into the habit of letting little issues bypass that don't rely it somewhat is going to start to return of course. even inspite of the shown fact that, do not replace into so "cruise" that your lady pal starts off to stroll over you on the grounds which you enable the little issues slide. goodluck
2016-10-19 06:47:55 · answer #7 · answered by corridoni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it stems from your own insecurity of something. Instead of making fun of him, try being nice. I don't care much for people playing games like that and I tell them. If it doesn't stop, then it's not worth my time. You can only push someone so far before they push back. Instead of making fun of him, tell him something that you like about him.
2006-12-31 03:44:59 · answer #8 · answered by churnin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have some trust issues, so try to remember that your boyfriend loves you and would never delibrately hurt you
2006-12-31 03:42:18 · answer #9 · answered by StressedSweetie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...you need to grow up a little and learn to trust....if you continue to push and smother, you will lose what you have....give him space and enjoy the time you have together...if your behavior continues he won't look forward to seeing you and your time together may decrease of just stop....good luck
2006-12-31 03:42:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋