abstain for a while or find a new play-mate for a while.....rather than trying to spice things up with sex toys/ridiculous techniques&gadgets and positions that even an acrobat would find uncomfortable!
2006-12-31 03:28:29 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am quite content this time round.... the question is addressed to YOU!
2006-12-31 03:33:16 · update #1
Absence makes the sex better.
2006-12-31 03:32:39 · answer #1 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
Buddy it's not the sex you need to spice it's the other factor's in your relationship that has put your sex life in the position it is as a healthy sex life is an extension of a healthy relationship, unless there is a Medical prob.
And given you are prepared to find a new play mate in this trying time could well mean your no longer emotionally attached to your relationship..
Talk this through " Communication" is the key and to be honest it doesn't sound like there is going to be a good outcome for the relationship either side but at least talk..
Good luck
2006-12-31 03:52:02 · answer #2 · answered by Adrian 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the sex urge goes up and down (pardon my pun) depending on your health, stress, tiredness or just hormonal so it is normal to expect there to be a few stale moments here and there. People think their sex life is stale after the initial lust wears off, whereas what has happened is that the sex is now returning to a 'normal' level instead of the mad frantic humping that is typical of new relationships. I certainly wouldn't find anyone else, not unless you want to jeopardise your relationship. How would you feel if your girl slept with someone else? Not good, and neither will she is you stray.
Sex positions are a laugh, there is rarely any new sensation and, if anything, it makes muscles hurt that you didn't know you had. plus you often feel fairly ridiculous. I'd experiment with a few earlier nights, so you're not too tired, and a bit more foreplay to get your girl in the mood. And if she's not in the mood, well there is always tomorrow night!
Good luck, hope it sorts itself out.
2006-12-31 03:34:40 · answer #3 · answered by gorgeousfluffpot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question suggests few things about yourselves. & Those are :- 1. You are a peeping Tom. Too much impressed by Ugly Blue Films, and your mind is rotten. 2. You consider your wife, just a element of fulfillment of sex desire, mere free prostitute. 3. You believe that your wife is not satisfying you, but at same time you are not ready to accept that you may also certain lacuna. 4. You are so sick, that you can see by your own eyes you wife having sex with a 3rd man. There are plenty chances that, your wife may leave you for that 3rd man. Solution :- Even though "Sex" is a important part of marital life, but you don't spend your whole life just having sex all the day. There are other various important aspects of married life. Like sharing happiness, sorrows, loving (Not Sex) caring about each other, spending quality time with each other. If you are employed (Service/ Business) take out some time, to have a vacation and go out of the town to a hill station / have a second honey moon. Try to rejuvenate your relations. This will certainly help rather than a 3rd man. May God bless with Good Thoughts.
2016-03-29 01:59:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's a marriage I would at least make a stab at trying to spice things up... this ??? to me is a no brainer... if you really love someone the last thing you would want to do if seek a new playmate... this for sure would end the relationship your in if you got caught... the new playmate would eventually, in a few year be the same as the relationship you are in now... a stale relationship can be a reflextion on you and not your partner... If you find yourself in the situation do always assume that it is the other persons fault that things went stale...
2006-12-31 03:35:12 · answer #5 · answered by Sandy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you love your partner you should stay with them and use sex toys to spice things up otherwise you are just a bad person for thinking about using some other person as a play mate for a while and then dumping them and them your partner somehow finds out about you "secret" playmate and dumps you so in the ends there would just be 3 heartbroken people that all have feelings!
2006-12-31 03:39:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If you have the right partner that you are committed to and have an intimate trust in, then accessories and spicing via positions is just icing on the cake.
2006-12-31 03:30:41 · answer #7 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
abstain for a while. you are meant to enjoy sex with ur partner and not with some plastic.
2006-12-31 03:32:07 · answer #8 · answered by pearls502002 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think changing a partner is a wonderful idea but some of us are lucky to have any one-------just any one with you know what!
2006-12-31 03:32:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do anything but abstain!
2006-12-31 03:34:39 · answer #10 · answered by Grooviecat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋