im 23, my girl broke up with me 2 weeks ago (shes 19), she said i was too reliant on her and i need to do good things for myself, she is currently seeing someone she met at school (she says they have only been seeing each other for 1 week)....she said she needed time for herself to think about everything, and today i asked her if she would ever want to get back with me, she said no. i feel like she left me for him (hes 27) and that she was seeing him for longer than she says...i have had my doubts about her being monogomus, but could never truely accuse her (except that one time i found dirty homemade pics of herself in the recycle bin)...even though i caught her with that, i stayed with her because i love her....i definatly did take it for granted and now i lost the best thing in my life...the only good thing i have. she says she still loves me but its not the same....HELPME PLEASE!?!?!?!?
2006-12-31 03:09:55 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am so sick and tired of these people that want out of a relationship that say those 5 dreaded words....
"I need time to myself."
That is the biggest load of cacca-poo I have ever heard in my entire freakin life!!
ATTENTION TO ALL PEOPLE WANTING OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP YOUR IN..............
When your ready to move on to a new relationship, or just want to participate in skanky-ho-bag type behavior, please, for all that is holy........JUST SAY YOU WANT TO BREAK-UP FOR THE LOVE OF GOD!!!!!!!!!! All your doing is leading the other person around by the nose, and in RMT's case, his heart! Don't say crap like, "I just need some space"...OR..."I just need some time to think about things." END IT. Grow a set of kahonies and save the victim of your games anymore pain and heartache and just be done and GO AWAY.
Listen, she found another guy. He's older and probably has more money. Your probably a great guy and have a lot of potential. Your EX was cheating on you and that is wrong. By her blaming your 'being to reliant' on her is a load of bull crap! She was pulling at excuses so that she could shift the blame to you, other then her looking like the bad guy. It may feel like you lost something wonderful and the pain your feeling is real. Experience your pain, feel it and tough it out. I promise you.....you will find someone else that is more deserved of your time, dedication and love. You really, really will. Please don't let this relationship sour any new relationships that you will have. Don't compare 'her' to the 'EX.' This is a huge prob for lots of people hurt from past relationships. Please move on and take care......
2006-12-31 03:28:49 · answer #1 · answered by frigidx 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let's look at the facts. 1. You don't trust her (you think she lied to you and cheated on you). 2. She doesn't want to be with you now. 3. She is not the best thing in your life because you are able to forgive, love unconditionally, and have good common sense. All those things will make life better for you. If you were too reliant on her, make a list of things you like to do or would like to know how to do. Then find a group, a class, etc that does one of the things you like and you will meet people who share your interest as well as find out you do not need to be dependent on someone else for your happiness. The more interests you have the more interesting you are.
I know it hurts but realize that all the good things about her mean that someone else with those good qualities will like you too. Only next time as you grow the new girlfriend will have even more good qualities.
You deserve better than what she was giving you and you will find it.
2006-12-31 03:20:33 · answer #2 · answered by M in Madison 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, she cheated on you and she used you. You will have to accept that. You loved her, but it is possible that she just didn't love you as much, or at all.
I know right now it hurts, but I can almost guarentee that in 6 months you will look back on it and thank god that you didn't waste another second of your life and love on some one who didn't respect you.
And think about this, if she still loved you, and really did, she would be with you and not this new guy. I hate to say this, but she may have said she loved you out of her old relationship patterns or just to make you feel better. I can definately say she wouldn't have been the first one.
This is the first day of the rest of your life! Find someone who loves, respects and deserves you and your love!
2006-12-31 03:38:35 · answer #3 · answered by bpbjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be mean, but I think the best thing for you would be to just let her go and move on with your life. Yeah, it's going to be hard, but try and keep yourself busy. It does help, believe me.
You are young, and someday you will find someone who will be faithful, and love and appreciate you the way you deserve.
Good luck. :)
2006-12-31 03:15:58 · answer #4 · answered by honestly sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want her back you have to just let it go. Basically you have to ignore her in everyway. Honestly I would just start being alittle short with her and not very nice. She basically told you that you were too needy so just pretend like you don't need her. If she ever calls or ever wants to talk to you tell her your busy and you will call her back. Then call her back a wk later.
2006-12-31 03:15:16 · answer #5 · answered by detfan12_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you won't be able to "get" her to open as much as you. she will open up if she feels mushy - yet sounds to me such as you adult men have some themes that are complicating your courting. the advice i could supply is - don't be a million) too desperate, or 2) too pushy. in simple terms be your self, celebrate together with her - yet don't be throughout her in any way. ok, she has this loopy concept which you in basic terms choose for her for intercourse; properly, do no longer enhance intercourse in any respect, shop your hands to your self, and luxuriate in the communication. i'm no longer extremely optimistic what her issue is - i are not getting it how can a woman be with somebody for 2 years, and be confident that this individual is barely together with her with the aid of fact of intercourse; this is in simple terms stupid. It sounds to me like she, herself, does not be attentive to what she needs - and this is style of a adverse undertaking for you, as you ought to get your coronary heart broken very unquestionably. in simple terms be careful, ok. good success.
2016-10-06 06:20:46 · answer #6 · answered by shimp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will heal all wounds.
Learn from your mistakes- you never let some one become your world because god forbid something happens to them your world comes crashing down.
You will find some one who truly loves you, respects you, and appreciates you. Forget your ex-- she isnt the one for you.
2006-12-31 03:13:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't u get it??? she doesn't love u anymore!!! she has fallen for another guy so let her go!!! you tried ur best, might have even embarrassed ur self a little, but let her go now, she has to move on and so do you. get a new girl, get a new car, get sumthin that will keep ur mind off of her.
best of luck
2006-12-31 03:17:06 · answer #8 · answered by Guitar.Soul.101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't want to hear this, but it sounds like it is time to move on. Given time, you will get over her. Don't debase yourself by chasing after someone who has said she doesn't want to be with you.
2006-12-31 03:13:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let it go bro
she was planning to leave you
she's not happy with you
2006-12-31 03:12:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋