My ex-boyfriend is going out with my best friend. She loves him with all of her heart. He does not love her. One thing he does know is he loves me. I love him back and i think he is the one for me. He thinks the same. What am i supposed to do? How do i break it to her that he loves me not her? (if i say mean stuff to her she will break down and die)
2006-12-31 03:07:48 · 16 answers · asked by fundamental_mima 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's up to him to let her know of that's how he feels. the fact that he's with her and tells you he feels nothing for her makes me wonder why you would want a man that would do that to someone. Sounds kinda shallow don't you think? Saying mean things to her would evil on your part. Maybe you and he are meant for each other. Sorry I can't seem to believe the meanness in your question. This poor other girl. ;-(
2006-12-31 03:10:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got stuck in a sticky situation! First of all, if YOU tell your best friend that he loves you and not her, you two will never be able to be friends again. Think of it from her point of view. She will just see you as a jealous, angry person and will not understand. It will put a huge strain on your relationship.
As for the guy in this scenario: if he TRULY loved you and wanted to be with you, he would not stay wiht your BFF regardless of how the BFF sees him, etc. Think of it this way, if you were dating a guy who you didn't really like, and your ex was begging you to come back because he loved you-- if you loved him, no matter how hurt the guy would be, you would go back to your ex. I tell you now that your ex is playing both of you for all that you are worth. He likes feeling important with two girls fighting over him. And on top of that, who is to say that the same thing won't happen, in reverse, if you two get together?
It seems that this guy needs a break from the TWO of you to think about what he really wants. And from experiance I can say that the best way out of this situation is for both of you to dump the guy and find two other guys who respect and love you (and only you), to double date with!
2006-12-31 11:44:27 · answer #2 · answered by bpbjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone and run like hell!
Seriously, he is swimming in the family pool. If he really loved you as you say, he never would have dated your friend at all. That is not okay. Major no no. *You do not date anyone related to or friends with you ex-anything. Also, no dating friends brothers etc. There are so many more fish in the sea.
Leave this mess alone.
This is trouble. You're either going to loose your best friend, your ex-boyfriend or both. No one wins in a situation like this. Get over him and move on.
You and everyone else, deserve to be treated honestly and with respect. Your ex and your best friend dating....exhibits none of those valued traits we all deserve.
You deserve better.
2006-12-31 11:16:12 · answer #3 · answered by Meg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all this guy cant possibly love u for two reasons. Reason number 1 is because he is dating your bestfriend, i mean out of all the girls he could have dated why do he choose your best friend and Reason number 2 is if he loved you so much he should wait on you and not go out dating other girls. I mean are u dating other men? This guy is a player just move on. And get a new bestfriend because they just playing u.
2006-12-31 11:21:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is going out with your friend. He is going out with her for a reason. Men will tell you anything!!Remember that!! It's all about the chase!! If he can get a piece of pie off her and come and get some pie from you too. Why not?? Action speaks louder than words. He is where he wants to be. Shame on you for knowing your friend loves him and you feel the way you do behind her back. Would you want a friend like that???
2006-12-31 11:11:46 · answer #5 · answered by supersweetfungal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he loves you then why is he going out with your best friend? Obviously he loves to be wanted by women and not for love, you need to get away from this guy and let him and your friend find out the hard way. Find someone that really loves you!
2006-12-31 11:16:23 · answer #6 · answered by bentherdonthat2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why aren't you wondering why he is going out with HER? If he truly loves you, he wouldn't do that. If you two are the ones for each other, you'd be with each other, but you're not. He's playing you big time. It's not your job to let her know that he doesn't love her, it's his. Is he man enough? Or is he just a big liar, leading you both on?
2006-12-31 11:12:57 · answer #7 · answered by Cindy K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah this is a tough one!i dont think you should break it to your friend especially if you feel like she may do something stupid like top herself!If you are a strong enough person to get over this man who is the problem in the whole situation then leave your friend to him and eventually she will realise by herself that this guy isnt for her!go out and enjoy being single for a while and when you least expect it someone right for you will come along!Its not worth losing your best friend over in my opinion!Happy New Year!!xxxxxxxx
2006-12-31 11:15:03 · answer #8 · answered by lil Miss Irish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you as you say, why isn't he with you? If you tell your friend he loves you, you'll just end up as a sad cliche--two dumb chicks fighting over some smug guy who probably isn't good enough for either of you. If this guy doesn't love your friend, let HIM break it off, not you.
2006-12-31 11:12:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU should not tell her anything - HE should break up with her, if that is what he wants to do. Sounds like he is playing both sides of the fence (you and her)
2006-12-31 11:09:52 · answer #10 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋