His Aunt and Unlce were married the same day 40 years ago... Do you think they would like to renew there vowels at our wedding? How should I ask them? Should we ask them? it came across my mind the other day, and since then I dont want to be rude by not offering or rude by offering... im so confused. thanks for all your help in advance.. and Have a Happy New Year!
2006-12-31 02:59:20 · 16 answers · asked by michaellandonsmommy 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
im not looking for expenses to be paid, as we are doing so ourselves... i just thought it might be nice.... we arent like extremely close at all either
2006-12-31 03:06:50 · update #1
I wouldn't necessarily ask them to renew their vows during my ceremony. I am getting married Sept 1, 2007 and just want that special time for myself. What you could do though is honor them at the reception by finding out what their first dance song was too and dedicate the song and dance for them by to dance by themselves. i bet that would make them feel just as special!
2006-12-31 04:00:12 · answer #1 · answered by TGG 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rather than single them out, sometimes couples ask ALL the married people to renew their vows. I really don't think that's a good idea, especially if a couple is having marital problems. Not something you want made public when you choose not to participate.
Personally, I'd go ahead with my own wedding, my way. If Auntie & Uncle want to renew their vows, they'll make the arrangements. It's your choice.
2006-12-31 11:39:47 · answer #2 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think is is really sweet that you even would think of offering to share your special day with his Aunt and Uncle and don't see how they could be possibly offended by asking them if (as long it is ok with your fiancee) to tell them that you admire their relationship and want your relationship to be just as wonderful and strong as theirs has been for the past 40 years and would be honored and it would mean a lot to them it they would renew their vows on the same day that you and your hubby-to be exchange your vows.
2006-12-31 11:04:11 · answer #3 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If thats what you really want to do then go ahead and ask.
Just tell them that the two of you had decided your wedding day is going to be 09/29/07- and you know that is their anniv- would they like to renew their vows at the wedding?
2006-12-31 11:02:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is such a generous act for you to be willing to share your special day with his aunt and uncle. It wouldn't at all be rude for you to ask, and I am sure they would be very touched by your offer even if they should decide not to take you up on it. So, go ahead and ask.
2006-12-31 11:04:55 · answer #5 · answered by ceegt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is so kind of you to be thinking of that, if you really want that go to your aunt and uncle and ask them, just say since we are getting married on your date, that you were wondering if you two would like to be up there too. renewing your vowels. and that it would be very special for you and your husband to be , to have them right besides you. congradulations.
2006-12-31 11:04:00 · answer #6 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are yall very close to his aunt and uncle. if so then by all means offer it. is it something they have told yall that they want to do. or are you looking for someone to share your expenses with for the wedding. sorry to be rude but that might be what others might think if you are not real close to the aunt and uncle. good luck and best wishes to yall
2006-12-31 11:05:15 · answer #7 · answered by instig8tor682000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
iv just got married and it was out of this world its your day and they wont want to take that away from you. find out what song was played at there wedding for there first dance and make a big thing out of that that will bring it all back for them. you day is very special and should Be just for the two of you.
2006-12-31 11:10:55 · answer #8 · answered by Donna R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask them. maybe they would, maybe the wouldnt. no harm in asking them. thye might be waiting until their 50th or something, but heck, I would love to renew my vows with my husband and we only got married like 2 years ago. thats very nice of you to think of them by the way.
2006-12-31 11:14:39 · answer #9 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't offer or even want them to renew their vows at my wedding. It's your day to shine. They had their wedding day already and it was their day alone. If they want to renew their vows, they will do it their way and I'm sure they wouldn't want to renew their vows at your wedding. They would want their own thing. Plus, some people don't even want to renew their vows.
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!
2006-12-31 11:04:28 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋