i have a boyfriend who seems to be proud that he loves other girl's u kow what. I heard this last night, while he was having a drink with his pal in the livingroom (we have been together for 4 years).So i basically over heard him, but he was pretty drunk and hi. In this case he has made it obvious that he cheats on you, everytime he goes out and is not spending time with you for new years eve. But i can not break up with him, how do i do this? i know it isnt right. i can not break up with him, i love him what to do...
2006-12-31 02:57:17 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No one can make this decision for you so no advise would be any good if you won't follow it ,,,,, He's making a fool out of you and probably everyone but you sees it ,,,, You don't need this crap and you deserve better ,,,, Drop this guy like a hot rock and don't let him talk you out of it ,,,,, Stick to your guns no matter what he does or says ,,,, Guys are good actors too you know up and including tears ,,,, So don't let him fool you ,,,, If he's cheating on you now then he will always cheat on you ,,,, There are practical things to consider here too ,,,,, Such as STD's ,,,, They have diseases they don't even have names for yet let alone cures ,,,, Want to risk your health too ,,,,, There are allot of fish in the pond ,,,, What you have now is not a relationship at all ,,,, A relationship should be fun and exciting ,,,,, not what you have with this jerk ,,,, See him for what he is ,,,, Go fishing ,,,,, There are allot of guys out there that would come trouble and problem free and treat you the way you should be treated ,,,, Who knows stickng with him could cause you to miss meeting Mr Right ,,,,People could talk to you about this until they are blue in the face but no amount of talking will do you any good until you come to your senses and realize that it's you that has to make the decision ,,,, No one else can do it for you or change him to your liking ,,,,Nor can they live your life for you ,,,,, Nothing is going to change him ,,,, He doesn't love you or he wouldn't be doing this ,,,, You are going to have to be the one that changes ,,,, He's forcing this on you ,,,, Not the other way around ,,,, He's got your back against the wall so to speak ,,,,, So all you have to do is figure out what you want ,,,,Cut your losses and get rid of him and get a life or stay with him and have no life at all and slowely die inside ,,,,, Yoda told you this ,,,,,
2006-12-31 04:31:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby doll, you have to go through the pain. It won't be the last time. Love never goes away, cause it doesn't come from him... it comes from within you. I know you can love someone else, cause when you feel love, it is because you are giving love. Not cause you are receiving it so much. It sounds like you have a lot of love to give, so make sure that it is to someone who deserves it. Not some drunk cheater. Find a real man that will appreciate it and has it in him to give back.
2006-12-31 03:01:45 · answer #2 · answered by Xxar 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. Go in your room and pack a suitcase/backpack. Take a couple of days to slowly move out your prised possessions if necessary.
2. Find a place to go. Friends, family, shelter.
3. Walk in with your bag in hand and say "I'm leaving. You're wasting my life and I'm moving on".
4. Walk out the open door close it behind you and don't look back as you walk down the driveway.
5. Go to your cell phone company the next day (or later that day if the time is right) and ask to have your phone number changed.
6. Don't accept his calls, don't accept his gifts. In his eyes disappear.
Good Luck
2006-12-31 03:07:00 · answer #3 · answered by Honesty given here! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to talk to him when he isn't drunk orr high to start! If that doesn't help then move on. I know you love him but if you end up getting married one day do you really think you will be happy? From what you said it sounds like him is drink or high a lot! that isn't a good thing, that could get yoyu into problems in the future, i dont think you want that! you dont have to break up with him, you just need to sort thtings out and get your life with him pointing in the rite direction! Good luck!
2006-12-31 02:58:53 · answer #4 · answered by Lindsey 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Develop this mindset - He needs me more than I need him. Once you believe that, it will be easy to kick him to the curb. If you KNOW he screws around what are you waiting for? A good dose of herpes or something?
Another thing you need to do is make a list of things you won't negotiate in any relationship. One of those things should be cheating. Another should be lying to you about anything. I don't know why women put up with this kind of stuff for a very long time. You make it hard for other women to have any respect from men.
2006-12-31 03:07:37 · answer #5 · answered by A B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like an outstanding chance for a sparkling, sparkling commence. close down your facebook web page for awhile, shrink off all contact with mom and previous BF, stay with pal till you may locate the money for low-cost unmarried position of abode, or perhaps motel room, and bypass from there. in no way look lower back. you'd be wonderful. you've a job and a vehicle, and friends. you do not desire poisonous human beings on your existence. strong success!
2016-12-01 09:00:21 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
until you realize you deserve to be treated better you cant. As long as you stay you are sending the message that he can disrespect you and you will be there for him. You CAN leave your bf.IT IS HARD to start over and it is scary. You have to take the first step though and do it..if it means searching the ads to become a roomate somewhere, getting a job or a second job whatever...This is your life until you change it, YOU CANNOT change other people.
2006-12-31 03:02:11 · answer #7 · answered by Tammy G 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You make your own choices. If what you say is true, then you either accept you are with someone who cares nothing for you (you don't love him, you just fear being alone) or you get a spine and some self resepect and you move on.
Your choice...you CAN leave, you simply choose not to...since you choose not to, you've got no reason or right to complain about his behavior...you are choosing to stay with him knowing the kind of person he is.
2006-12-31 03:04:44 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie- how can you love a man that does this to you.
You think you can't leave him but you can- all you have to do is walk out. Just WALK OUT!
In the end this will be the best decision you could have made for yourself- you will find some one who respects you, appreciates you, and actually CARES for you.
The hardest part will be WALKING OUT this will get easier from there.
2006-12-31 02:59:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand that its hard to let go because you two have been together for so long, but you deserve to be with someone better. This guy sounds like a real jerk, as well as a druggie. You deserve to be with someone who really wants to be with you, as much as you want to be with them. There are plenty of great guys out there who know how to treat women, are loyal (aka don't cheat), and don't smoke pot and drink. Dump him, and don't talk to him again. It'll be easier to just cut him out of your life.
2006-12-31 03:19:28 · answer #10 · answered by Flagstones925 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋