Okay, I was at the computer today, my mum wanted me to do a favour for her and then she started being really paranoid, saying: But what if a new wallpaper slows down the computer!?!? and then i sighed and told her truthfully, but then she started lecturing me about being snappy and stuff like that then my little brother came in annoying me and i told him to shut up, and then my mum said leave her. and then she talked about me and what i 'did' to my little brother! She always does this when I get into trouble, and it makes me feel embarrassed and even more so, annoyed about it.
How do i stop her from bitching about me and tell her it's really starting to annoy me a lot?
2006-12-31 02:40:59 · 15 answers · asked by xxsleepy_starxx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You didn't say who she talks about you to. I say if your Mum doesn't want a new wallpaper on the computer then compromise. If she's not complaining that your on it then leave the wallpaper off. As for your little brother it's natural that you guys snap at each other. Try asking her (not telling her) not to talk about you to others. If she feels your being crabby lately then maybe you are. Remember that she is not your enemy. She is your Mother and she loves you. '-)
2006-12-31 02:45:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok...u have the same problem of every other teenager in the world...so heres how u get threw....first...tune her out....if ur not listening u cant get annoyed....just nod every now and then...listen to a few words and make a small comment that is totaly nutral so she cant yell about it....then tune her out again....if that doesnt work...then at night...right as shes going to bed....go into her room and tell her u need to talk...itll just be u and her and ur lil brother will probable already be asleep...so then tell her everything that uve just told us...or better yet show her...show her what u typed....it might hit home hard for her to see that her lectures annoy u so much...but better she finds out now then later when she really makes u mad and u flip out....so either tune her out....write her a letter....or show her what u just told all of us....and then she should get it...and if she doesnt....then flip out on her when she lectures u about something that doesnt even make sence b/c u didnt do anything to even make that come up....but do keep in mind that she is just trying to help...thats how moms do things...as annoying as that maybe....
2006-12-31 10:47:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sound like my 11 year old,lol. i can do no right,,she snaps at me when i tell her ANYTHING,but i also know it is her age and it is meant to be this way,you dont have to apologize all the time but do occasionally acknowledge it is you with the hormones and it is your mum that has to deal with these strops AND your brother tormenting you,,and listening to children bicker about things that are so unimportant can make us snappy too and to tell the truth it gets tiresome.the occasional apology wont kill you to keep the peace,will it? as for the computer,,so she doesnt really 'get it' but that is no reason to be rude is it,who pays for the service? your parents,a bit of respect even if through gritted teeth will get you far,,grind away and go ask her if she wants a cup of tea!!!
2006-12-31 10:51:10 · answer #3 · answered by lex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was in the same situation. so i have the perfect plan. everytime ur mom does this, tell her that she's right and apologize, i like to keep my fingers crossed. then, when she's gone, change the wallpaper. later tell her about it and she'll like it. parents do this to their child bcuz they think they're the boss. so don't let that happen. then, get her annoyed like, going out of the house and locking the door. when u come bak, u tell her that she had the key, when it is right hidden in ur shoe, or somewhere where ur mom won't look. and then, when u finally 'find' the key, tell her sorry that u didn't look enough. then go from there. and everytime ur mom blames u for sumthin u didn't do, tell her that she's right and also tell her that ur 'so stupid and dumb that u can't do anything, then, start to fake cry.' and then, run away from ur mom and go to ur bro. when ur mom finds u, tell her that u enjoy times with family like this. it'll really confuse her. lol.
best of luck!!!!
2006-12-31 11:03:42 · answer #4 · answered by Guitar.Soul.101 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off, Moms want the best for their children. We expect the best and want the best. We always harp on our children to get them to be better people.
I think a little maturity on your part would come into play. Talk to your mother like a grown up. Sit down with her and calmly tell her that you don't like her talking behind your back. Talk to her straight on. Don't beat around the bush.
2006-12-31 10:47:00 · answer #5 · answered by supersweetfungal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG!!! My mom use to treat me that way too. I couldn't stand that! When I was a kid, I was almost afrad to say anything out of fear that she would tell everybody !!!! Unfortunately, the only thing that stopped her was when I grew up.
I can't give you any advice because I tried talking to mom about her uncomfortable it made me ... but it didn't work. So, you have my sympathy, I really understand how you feel.
2006-12-31 11:11:59 · answer #6 · answered by rosie768 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is doing her job, and helping you to see that there are consquences to your actions. How would you like it if she just yelled at you, left the room, and you never knew what you did wrong? You probably wouldn't and you would stay confused. Just think one day you will catch yourself doing the exact same thing to your children. Oh, yes you will, I promise. It is just part of the life cycle......Good Luck!
2006-12-31 10:59:57 · answer #7 · answered by stacey h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there is some attitude coming from you there. You may just want to be appreciative that she has not slippered your bum as many would already have!
2006-12-31 11:24:04 · answer #8 · answered by O'Shea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it and tell her that you feel like when does this that you're being talked all over about it again.
2006-12-31 10:44:18 · answer #9 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mum. She wont know how you feel until you do. Mum's are human too you know LOL
2006-12-31 11:04:19 · answer #10 · answered by shamoolax 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋