Right i met this guy through work (same council, different dept) over a month ago. We have met up a few times and i think he is great, gorgeous, sexy, pure muscle, just lovely. He was straight with me from the start, has a 3 yr old daughter, who is said he spends most of his free time with. I thought i was ok with that. But since we have had a break from work over xmas, he hasnt phoned once. I called a 2x over xmas day and just got his voice mail. The on the 27th he txted and said sorry, his ex had hiden his phone, read his messages and he had only just got them. The plot thickens. I had previously asked what he was up to on NYE, and he said he was going to a private party (not inviting me), then on the 29th he txted and sai it was time to be honest, and he is working 2 jobs, he didnt describe what the other was but now says he's working NYE in a club.
What do i do? It is all just lies and he's still with his ex?
I reALly want him not to be lieing, cos hes great...
2006-12-31 02:40:07 · 19 answers · asked by Jessbess 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
doesn't it concern you that he "has an alibi for EVERYTHING" but still has to explain? Don't be a fool ! Do you want to be "the other woman"?
RUN TO THE NEAREST EXIT ! Find a nice guy!
2006-12-31 02:45:35 · answer #1 · answered by hiding1959 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he's a stripper, with his ex or perhaps he's just not that into you? He's not inviting you into his life......and he's not being straight with you from the start, as you said,...but its only been a month. How about no sex until you get to know him a lot better? He'll either get bored waiting or things will improve. Ask for his HOME phone number and see what happens.
2006-12-31 02:50:40 · answer #2 · answered by Scully 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had me until you started talking about him not being in constant contact with you. Does the guy have to give you his entire life now that "you're interested in him? He does have a life outside of you, ya know? If you want complete control, get a dog or a cat or something that doesn't mind your constant nagging and hounding.
2006-12-31 02:48:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are first dating a guy you need to pay close attention and follow alllllll the red flags you see and these are definately red flags. The sooner you stop seeing him, the easier and faster you will get over him.
2006-12-31 02:49:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't look good but I'd withhold judgement until you have a chance to speak with him face to face...just be prepared for the worst so you're not terribly let down if "mr. cute" turns out to be "mr. jerk".
I hope all is well but why would he feel the need to hide having a 2nd job? That seems odd...something's not kosher here...
2006-12-31 02:44:19 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my opinion leave him alone and say u have gone off him then just tell him u have found some 1 else i have a problem like that 1nce thats how i delt with it then he feels sorry and may come back to u hes not has great has he looks then x beck
2006-12-31 03:00:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a bit sus to me sweetie....I'd do some serious detective work on someone like that.
Why don't you just confront him and ask for the truth of the matter.
2006-12-31 02:48:40 · answer #7 · answered by wombat2u2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol...im wonderin if its my ex man!!
he works at a club.we have a baby n he was wit me xmas.
besides its only been a month why r u bein so possessive,if he wants 2 spend time wit his kid or celebrate new yr without u then so b it.ur not married n its early days yet jus chill.
2006-12-31 02:56:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he cant be that great if he's lying to you, if he's not with his ex he's probably with someone else, meeting up a few times doesn't mean you are dating so he is basically free to do what he wants. going to a private party with someone else is why you're not invited. move on find someone different he's not worth all this.
2006-12-31 02:47:32 · answer #9 · answered by livewire_usa 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I really cant say for sure that he isn't ,but If they broke up ,it's not very likely to spend his new year eve with her unless he still loves her!
2006-12-31 02:44:13 · answer #10 · answered by Mysterious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋