ok so i havent had it yet...but ik its going to happen soon b/c i just got a b/f. what do i do? i mean where does his hands go where do mine? eye closed or open? and then im sopose dto turn my neck in the process??....who ever invented kissing should have come up with a guild!...what if we like knock our faces together...thatll be way! embarassing...is it normal to be this worried?...i mean most girls by my age r already haveing sex...they probable started haveing sex last year when they were freshman....but b/c i was dumb and wanted to wait now im nervous....so what do i do?
2006-12-31 02:33:41 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok, first off, you weren't dumb to wait to have sex. You have plenty of time to be having sex...keep waiting. It's worth it. Second, relax, there isn't a guide because you won't need one. It will happen naturally. Slight head tilt, eyes closed (open eyes freaks me out), and knocking heads babe? Are you planning on charging at him like a bull? Just be gentle and breathe, relax, and don't forget to swallow your spit! ;o) Good luck!!
2006-12-31 02:37:04 · answer #1 · answered by Melanie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not dumb by any means and what your feeling is part of the whole first kiss excitement. If you bump heads then you'll laugh together. Chew gum or breath mints though, just a little thought. Let it happen naturally. That's the way it's supposed to be. The reason there's no guide is because it's different for everyone. Don't try to plan it. Just have fun and enjoy the experience. Don't worry about where the hands should go. Worry about where they shouldn't go. lol! that's all personal choice and how you feel about space. Lucky you. This is a once in a lifetime experince. You only get a first kiss once. Allow it to be special. Happy New Year! '-)
2006-12-31 10:40:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st off, not all girls you age are having sex, and dont worry about comparing your sexual activity to others. Do what you are comfortable with. It is not dumb to wait, it is so much more special than just doing it to "see what it is like"
Second, yes it is completely normal to be worried. Everyone is on thier first kiss. Even after you kiss a bunch of guys, and you start dating someone new, the first kiss with them will still put butterflys in your stomach. As far as technique? Dont worry about where his hands will go, wherever they are will feel great :). As far as your hands, i like to put one around them (like around thier chest/waits and hand on the back) and the other behind is neck. This pulls him in and lets him know its ok to move forward. Most ppl turn thier head to the right. This is proven. So go for that, chances are he will too. Close your eyes and just enjoy. Dont stick your down down his throat. For a good example, watch cruel intentions (the first one with ryan phillipe) and watch the girls do it :)
Hope that helps. In any case dont worry, if something embarrassing happens, laugh it off, and go in again. You'll get better with practice :)
2006-12-31 10:45:31 · answer #3 · answered by kt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you are dumb for waiting, Just do what comes natural during the kiss. It may be a little awkward at first but just keep doing it until it goes away.There is also the chance that he will know what he is doing and can make it go more smoothly.
2006-12-31 10:37:15 · answer #4 · answered by wbyrdie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
everything will just fall into place by itself, just dont think about it... however eyes definately closed. And dont worry about not having sex yet, u may just want to get it over and done with but trust me it wil stay with u for the rest of ur life, find someone special first
2006-12-31 10:37:10 · answer #5 · answered by rick JAMES 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not dumb for waiting to have sex. I will say that my eyes were closed, it kinda seems natural to do that. I was a little nervous myself for the first time, but it was fun!
I will say that french kissing was the best one for me.
2006-12-31 10:46:11 · answer #6 · answered by imag4dream 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't treat it like a space shuttle launch and have a precise plan. Go with the flow and you'll be fine. Just make sure his hands go anywhere inappropriate.
2006-12-31 10:52:50 · answer #7 · answered by DLG 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just relax and let it happen naturally. And you are not dumb for waiting.
2006-12-31 10:37:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry sweetie! When it happens-it will happen unlike you think--just don't think about it okay?
2006-12-31 10:36:14 · answer #9 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No no, just go with the flow.
2006-12-31 10:35:35 · answer #10 · answered by Webballs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋