What do I say??

Question

I hooked up with my best friend's girl. We were both drunk and she doesn't want to tell him. Do I tell him and take the hit??
Or wait til she tells or he finds out??
I don't want to lose a friend. It does go bros b4 ho's right?? Then he should be on my side, right??
*I don't mean that I think she is a whore(although many think she is)
Is it better for me to tell him soon here and deal with the fact that our friendship will be a little weaker(not destroyed tho)
OR
Not say anything until she has been with all our friends??
Would you rather hear it from your friend or g/f??
What would she be able to blame on me??
Should I makea deal with her so we take it to the grave?? She has slept with some of our other friends too.
Should I tell my g/f?
Who's gonna hate me more: my friend or g/f??
Should I tell him how almost everyone thinks she is an easy ****??

I really don't like his girl.
Was it really cheating??

Was I wrong past forgiviness?? Will my g/f understand??

Answer 1

First off, let me say that being drunk is not an excuse for infidelity. Secondly, I think that you should own up to your mistake. You betrayed your best friend and girlfriend and she betrayed her boyfriend. Being honest with your friend will show him that you still respect your friendship, hopefully this will ease the hurt and bring forth the forgiveness. NEVER make a "deal" with the girl you cheat with. She will not keep that deal and tell just to make her look good. I wouldn't tell him that others think she is easy, especially after sleeping with her...again, an excuse. If it is true, let that come from someone else. Maybe another friend who slept with her in the past that he may not know of. Good Luck

Answer 2

Well you can say ton's of bad things about her but it would make you look shallow cause you slept with her and you also have a gf. You mentioned that you were both drunk. My friend slept with someone I was dating and I was never able to forgive my friend. I never trusted my friend again. I say if you really care about your gf and your friend and there's any way you both can zip it and not say anything then don't. Saying something is going to hurt everyone around you. Don't do it again. If you think she's going to tell him then maybe you should beat her to the punch. I don't believe though that pointing out to him that's she's easy adn such will make him feel any better. That's still his girl. Bro's before ho's is what you should of thought before doing what you did. lol! '-)

Answer 3

I don't think there is anything to gain by hurting two people unnecessarily..your friend and her boyfriend ....the relationships are already weak between all parties or you would never have betrayed a good friend like that nor would she have cheated on a man she really loved..so let it be. Say nothing. As a man I would not want to hear from my best friend that he slept with a woman I loved, who he knew was special to me. That would hurt badly and I would rather discover both yours and her worthlessness, slowly, later on my own, at different times rather than both together. I doubt your triangular problem will be a chasm of death for your happiness though, as all parties seem fairly loose with their loyalties. The women who are loved by my friends are also special to me and I would not entertain their infidelity with me, but if they tried I would keep silent and not hurt my friend. He may already have a hurt down the road coming from her, but she might still stay with him and make him happy. In the end it is for they themselves to break off from one another. Silence is best. Remember... alcohol and lust for a woman, makes fools out of men.

Answer 4

You should tell him. Your friend needs to know that hes girlfriend is sleeping around. Be prepared for her to turn around and start spinning alot of lies on you though, as she sounds like the kind of person that would do anything to cover her back.
Your friend will of course be angry and upset with you at first but hopefully in the long run he will forgive you and appreciate the fact that you confessed to him and told him the truth. Which is certainly more than she will do!.
You should also defiantly tell your gf, you made a mistake but if you are truly sorry for this you need to be absolutely honest to all involved in this sticky situation.

Answer 5

If your friend is important to you, you should tell him. He's going to be pissed, but eventually if he's smart he'll realize that you did him a favor by telling him what she's really like instead of waiting for them to get married and the divorce will cost him half of what he has.
Don't tell him that everyone thinks she's easy. That just means you knew before you did it and you can't just claim drunken stupidity. He might choose to forgive you both but if you're nasty about it you might just lose out.
As far as blame...you're both at fault, but you're better off telling him before she does or before he finds out on his own.
And yes...you should tell your g/f. She has a right to know as much as your friend does. Depending on how strong your relationship is you may lose her, but again, if she finds out any other way (like your friend's girl) you'll definitely lose her.

Answer 6

The honorable thing to do would be to tell him. Take your share of the blame. You are responsible for your own behavior. Don't mention the rumors about the other guys. That would be needlessly adding more insult to injury and will not soften the blow for you in any way. Don't worry about how he handles the relationship with his GF. That's his business. You should also consider cutting your own GF loose since you obviously respect her so little that it is that easy for you to deceive her. Being drunk is no excuse to "forget" one's morals. We are each responsible for our own behavior, including how much we choose to drink and how we choose to act when under the influence. It's not so difficult to "just say no" to one more drink when one already is feeling the effects of alcohol.

Answer 7

You owe it to your friend to tell him what happened. He deserves to know and you should be the one to tell him. Your girlfriend also deserves to know what happened. Tell her as well, but don't expect her to want to hear an explanation. You messed up, but the worst thing you can do is to lie about it and try to cover it up. It would be far worse in the long run if they found out later instead of you telling them now.

Answer 8

He obviously isn't a friend cos you wouldn't have done that to him if he was. It doesn't matter what she has done and with who you cheated on your g/f and betrayed your mate. You should tell them both so that they can decide for themselves. You have already been dishonest with them so do the right thing and be a man

Answer 9

tell your firend. he has the right to know what an **** you really are and to make a decision regarding his future friendship with you.
you should also tell your gf because she also needs to know the truth.
finally, you are all those things you have labelled your friend's gf to be, and more, as you have just behaved the same way.

Answer 10

i think you should come clean with both your gf and your friend, and throw yourself at their mercy as to whether they want to continue their relationship/friendship with you.

after all, if you know she has slept with some of your joint friends, then it figures that they would know that you have slept with her, right?

better that the news comes from (a remorseful) you than from gossip. then you look like a philanderer as well as someone who is trying to hide it.

good luck!