like a month- three months I just stop having feelings for them one day. The day before I will think how lucky I am to have them and how much I like them and then the next morning I will wake up and have no feelings for them at all. It happens to me all the time.
2006-12-31 01:30:58 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have a wild spirit within.
And you are just not ready for a serious relationship yet.
2006-12-31 01:32:21 · answer #1 · answered by Dave Yours Truly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have a problem with commitment. If this pattern is repeated so often then you might be getting nervous when things get too serious. Slow down and just enjoy the relationship for what it is. Don't put so much pressure on yourself to fall in love too quickly and let it develop over time. If it's meant to be then it will happen when the right person comes along. Until then, don't put all your emotions on the table until you are sure that you can truly love him and he loves you.
2006-12-31 01:37:43 · answer #2 · answered by Suzi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend has the same problem, the way I helped him become better and stop doing that was to explain that maybe he was expecting too much from the other person, maybe he wanted something more and it wasn't coming, or that he was feeling as though it should feel another way and he should wait for that person. Maybe that person is not giving you what you need and there is a major lack of communication, talk with her and tell her how you feel, communication is key!
2006-12-31 01:37:36 · answer #3 · answered by nottoobad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably more to do with your feelings about yourself than the other people. If you're not happy with your life, it's hard to enjoy a relationship with anyone else. You need to find a way to make yourself happy and not expecting other people to do it.
It's not a bad thing that you lose interest in other people after awhile. Nothing (I don't believe) is wrong with you for doing that. Lots of people decide after getting to know a person that they really don't like what they finally learn. It's normal.
2006-12-31 01:35:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a month to three months is within the "infatuation" part of a new relationship. perhaps you got over the infatuation and realised there was no true love.
if this is a common occurence for you, then to avoid hurting people in future, you should try to get to know them better as friends before committing to a relationship.
2006-12-31 01:46:08 · answer #5 · answered by owara l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in love with the idea of being in love, not having an actual relationship. The newness and excitement of any relationship wears off at about 3 months and you have to start dealing with the actual person in the actual relationship, not just the idealistic fantasy of "You and me together, forever, just the two of us" and begin to start functioning as couple and have to deal with and interact with each others friends, families and business associates; that glamour and the majic are gone and you are facing the elegant coach that turned into a pumpkin at midnight.
2006-12-31 01:42:36 · answer #6 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps you are shallow - no offence but some people like the packaging but do not like the person underneath. As soon as their personality starts to show you run. You may even be scared of falling for them and this is how you behave to stop yourself getting hurt
2006-12-31 01:34:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably goes quite deep. if this really is a pattern you can see reoccuring through your life in other relationships, then you need to start asking where it first originated.
are you affraid of what it might mean to be in a happy relationship? are you affraid of rejection, closeness, etc. or do you not feel you deserve happiness or that you could be loved?
or maybe, you just haven't found someone who is right.
all the best.
2006-12-31 01:37:21 · answer #8 · answered by noodle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
familiarity breeds contempt is one saying. I guess you take that long for the sexual hormones to stop coursing, and realize that the person you are with really isnt what you are looking for. Or you could have some kind of mental problem that makes you afraid of commmitment you have learned to leave them before they get a chance to leave you.
2006-12-31 01:34:32 · answer #9 · answered by tomhale138 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's because you are able to see beyond the rose-colored glasses. Much of the the assumptions and/or expectations you have proven to be inaccurate. Bottom, line you have become realize that the two of you really do not have a lot in common - or simply no chemistry.
2006-12-31 01:48:29 · answer #10 · answered by curiousJ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds a little wierd...but not exactly because some people are just not relationship type people....maybe you are supposed to be single and just date people rather than forming a relationship...b/c you are going to hurt these peoples feelings by leading them on then telling them you dont care for them at all....good luck! there is nothing wrong with being single
2006-12-31 01:34:50 · answer #11 · answered by Life....it blows! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋