There is this guy, called rob, and i met him three days ago and we really hit it off. we were texting non stop and he told me that he really liked me and when we hung out he was very flirty and fun. Then this morning he rang me telling me that a girl he had liked for about a year likes him now too, and that he really does like me, but he likes this other girl too. He says he has no idea what to do, and neither do i. please help, alice x x x
2006-12-31 01:23:49 · 25 answers · asked by Alice H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
when he rang me he was crying, and he did tell me he likes me so so much. And i really do like him. hes spontaneous and funny and .... sigh
2006-12-31 01:43:27 · update #1
Only time can tell. Back off and don't pursue him. As the saying goes if you let something go and it comes back then its meant to be and if it doesn't then its a lesson well learned. Consider this would you be more proned to date someone you've known for three days or 365 days. To spare your feelings move on and find a man that may like you and another girl, but he's going to like you more than the other girl. Good luck to you in the New Year.
2006-12-31 01:27:59 · answer #1 · answered by TILAC 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You can tell him that you've really enjoyed coming to know him so far. There's no reason why he can't casually date you both if that's what he wants to do and you don't mind, but there may come a time down the road when you'll have to make a decision that you will not compete. At this point, he is not seriously involved with you or the other girl so anything goes. I wouldn't have casual sex with him though if it was me. That would be a definite set up for a potential let down.
2006-12-31 09:31:20 · answer #2 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a really easy question to answer. Never play seconds to another female. If he truly cares for you he'll be with you and only you. I highly recommend you give him the cold shoulder for about a week. Tell him that your busy but don't seem upset. If after a week he still tries to pursue you then continue to talk to him. However study him demeanor and see if he's still making contact with the other girl. If so let him go and find another guy if he's not then you have you man.
2006-12-31 09:40:44 · answer #3 · answered by demlimbas 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow what a tough situation, I think he talked to you because he might like this other girl more, think about it, if you did the same to him wouldn't you think that he might not want to be with you after such news? This is really wierd because it is an odd situation, is he dating both of you at the same time? There is no way this other girl just all of sudden liked him, he most be talking and flirting with her as well. What must be done is for you to tell him to choose, and even then this is an odd way to start a relationship, I would honestly give him some time to think it out but tell him that you care for him but that you shouldn't be competing for his heart. I hope I was of some help, good luck
2006-12-31 09:32:41 · answer #4 · answered by nottoobad 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me like you both are enjoying the ride while the fun is still there...he is obviously not serious about you but just wants to have fun and enjoys your company. Do you feel the same way too? If so then there is nothing wrong with keeping that friendship going.....and may the best girl win.....!! As long as it is ok with you to let that friendship stay where it is, then everyone will be happy...good luck!
2006-12-31 09:31:41 · answer #5 · answered by singirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is not real, you do not have enough history or chemistry in common yet. Get to know each other better first, before the biology happens. And be tough you are worth too much for a loser, make sure he is great for you, before you settle for him, after all there is a whole bunch more where he came from.
2006-12-31 09:26:54 · answer #6 · answered by vincent 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's trying to play both of you, so you'll try harder for him and be nicer. Don't fall for it. No guy who respected you would tell you this. He would only tell you about another girl if he was planning to break up with you and had already made the choice. Your self respect is more important than your temporary infatuation with this guy. Move on, girl.
2006-12-31 09:29:29 · answer #7 · answered by Zelda Hunter 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him to make a list. Put the good and bad qualitys of each girl on it. Compare the lists and see who is the best. make sure that if you like him that he knows that. But dont worry to much, if he likes both of you he could end up being a playa, best of luck, C0le
2006-12-31 09:26:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just a trial, show him how much u like been with him and you will never hear of an old friend matter again. good luck.
2006-12-31 09:30:40 · answer #9 · answered by kingteka 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't bother with Rob - he sounds like a loser - find someone who is sure about you and only you ... it's new years tonight - you're bound to pull!
2006-12-31 09:27:15 · answer #10 · answered by iou 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋