i thought it was quite common. im really unsure. can anyone help?
2006-12-31 01:21:07 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
andie- well dont worry. im sure you'll be next to me gettin the same treatment... ouch.
2006-12-31 01:28:19 · update #1
Yes it is wrong because it leads you to wrong deeds! Plus later on you will lose your desire to please your wife/husband! It can ruin a person and lead him/her to wrong (pornography, viewing bad videos, wrong desires, etc.) And yes it's a sin because you disobey God (Allah)'s Order by indulging in wrongdoing! Allah wants you to share these feelings with your spouse and not indulge in sins because when you are lonely, satan is near you who whispers evil into your head! Hope this helps!
2006-12-31 01:29:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 8⤋
It is very common. You body produces sperm every single day. If you don't have sex or mastibate you will still produce the sperm. So what happens to all that sperm that's not got rid off. Wet dreams that's what, or worse erections at embarrassing times when least expected. Masterbation gives you a chance of getting rid of yesterdays production in safety without risking using another person to satisfiy your lust, and also risk getting into relationships for the wrong reason.
Most men need to masterbate and so do many women. It's not wrong, it's natural. When a male is 17 they are at their peak of sexual needs and can often do it as many as 10 times a day. It's not that everyone does it that much but it's not that unusual.
Even married men do it. After what kind of husband would make his wife comply to sex when ever he needed to get 'his rocks off' whether she was in the mood or not. If he does that, then he is making her into nothing but a slave. So a man married to most women would have sex maybe 4 or more times a week with her and masterbate in between times, so as not to bother her. Many women get upset about it when they find out. They should only get upset if the husband isnt giving her enough sex, otherwise he's trying to be courtious.
Religion often uses a persons need for sex to controll them and control their fertility. It's hogwash! If God had meant you not too, s/he would never have made you the way you are.
2006-12-31 01:54:54 · answer #2 · answered by selchiequeen 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Back when the Bible & the Koran were written, society was very different. Communities were small, there was no insurance, no homes for the elderly, people needed traditional families -man, woman, several children- to keep the community going and to prevent those who got sick or old to either die outright or end up as a burden to the community. So anything that would not lead to procreation was discouraged -masturbation, homosexual relationships, or incest relationships (people didn't know about genetics but people may well have noticed there were often weaker children from such a relationship, whether in people or animals, just by observation).
Now religion if you ask me is a trick from those in power to get & keep their power; people are much more likely to listen when you say 'you must do this or burn in hell for eternity' than when you say 'you must do this because it's better for us all' or 'you must do this because I say so'. Thus, some quite smart people in charge made up all these 'sins' from 'God' and wrote them down... and we ended up with a lot of rules that made sense at the time but nowadays aren't quite as necessary anymore. Don't worry about it!
2006-12-31 01:34:22 · answer #3 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It is a matter of personal choice. You decide if it is right or wrong. And, dont worry about what others are doing. Each day you will commit sins, and if you want to do it, you can. It is all a matter of perception. Some say that any sexual thought is bad, some say that masturbation is bad, and some thing that just intercourse is bad. It is up to you. You are the only one that will have to face YOUR god one day. Not them!! They wont be there to judge you, or tattle tale on you. It is your choice. No one elses.
2006-12-31 01:24:20 · answer #4 · answered by thelaundryfairy 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, it is not wrong, and judging from some of the responses above, there are a lot of screwed-up minds in this world, trying to sow their seeds of fear and guilt.
Speaking as an adult, it is perfectly normal for you to pleasure yourself, and I can also tell you that it is perfectly normal for a person to actually be quite spiritual (I prefer that term over "religious") and still give themselves love.
It is doubtful that your "religious" friends will listen to reason, but if I were in your shoes, I would ask them to explain why a woman has a sexual organ that is for one purpose only - physical pleasure.
The clitoris serves no birthing function; it's only function is pleasure, in spite of the fact that the vagina is also filled with nerves.
I would assume that they would tell you something like,"well, the clitoris is to be stimulated ONLY by the woman's husband" or some such thing.
You know, not ALL men and women choose to take partners, get married and spawn children. Some folks exercise their freedom of choice to remain single ~ for any number of perfectly legitimate, defensible reasons.
And what about those who have lost a partner in life?
Are single people, widows and widowers just NOT ever to touch themselves again?
These "religious" people are messed up, believe me.
They're not evil ~ just confused, and they try to spread their confusion to others.
2006-12-31 02:06:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
The only advice I can give you is that what is 'sin' for one person may not be 'sin' for others. The Ten Commandments say that murder is wrong - but God helped the Israelites defeat their enemies in bloody battles. Certainly God created our sexual drive and our bodies, but the responsibility to use those things in a right ways lies with us. What is right for you may not be right for others. People can take scripture out of context to support just about any point of view, like your 'friends' seem to be doing. Paul writes that he wished everyone was single. That doesn't mean it's a sin to get married. In fact, he says that some people should get married, because their thoughts are always taken up by it. In a similar way, if you find yourself constantly thinking about masturbation, maybe it would be better for you to do it and get it over with, rather than spending all your time thinking about it. Ultimately it's up to you - why don't you pray about it? Let God convict you of the truth.
I would write more, but it's really hard typing with one hand ; )
2006-12-31 02:48:32 · answer #6 · answered by perthboy 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
By your friends' religion, you cannot do right! There is always a sin lurking somewhere. As a christian you start with a debt, as they assume all humans are sinners. It doesn't lead to impotency or premature ejaculation, in fact you should use masturbation as a tool to learn to make your pleasure last longer.
If you weren't meant to use your penis, you wouldn't have it! Masturbation is a great way of discovering oneself (and everyone does it, at least once, even those who say they don't) and what you like and don't like, and it means that when you are with a partner you are more able to guide them for both of you to reach great pleasures and delights. Masturbation is about loving oneself! Leave the frustration to the frustrated and feel free to discover yourself.
2006-12-31 01:54:08 · answer #7 · answered by Stef 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It is more common than many will admit to. It happens spontaneously in our sleep, so I feel it is a natural process.
The Bible (Old Testament) notes that 'Onanism' is a sin, but that is defined as the wasting of seed; this is why some religions are anti-gay.
The '[issue' however is a matter of choice, whilst you do it don't do anything that will hurt yourself and try to be private about it.
2006-12-31 01:36:30 · answer #8 · answered by stephen t 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's not that simple. The act itself is not mentioned anywhere in the bible as being a sin, but it's the condition of the mind when you're doing it that are the sin. I'm sure that while you're masturbating, you're not thinking wholesome thoughts. You probably have to view some sort of pornography to stimulate you. That is the sin. Lusting after a women (or man) is the sin.
I would council you to stop the practice and I think you'll find it very difficult. Most men, once they begin, would have a hard time stopping.
Later, when you enter into a marriage relationship, then sexual gratification is a gift from God that you will share freely with your wife. Your thoughts can remain pure and God instructs us to be fruitful.
I hope you find this helpful. This question is undoubtedly going to result in a lot of mocking answers or just plain wrong answers.
2006-12-31 01:28:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 5⤋
It is almost as common as walking. It is perfectly natural and a way to release sexual tension safely. Your friends are hyperdiligent, trying to find ways for you to feel guilty and in need of "salvation" for doing something that harms no one. In this way they are promoting a mind set that will make you think you need religion.
Find some new friends, or alternatively, read Sam Harris' "Letter to a Christian Nation."
2006-12-31 01:26:20 · answer #10 · answered by NHBaritone 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
A friend of mine said that he saw in Discovery channel that (if you are a guy) d0 not do "you know what" - you will get pain in your balls ^^. So you have to do it, now and then. I think it has helped because he said he had pain and that it were gone after he.... did it. He mentioned that if you didn't do it the sperm will stay in the balls, become old and that's what causes the pain, sonetimes it gets out by itself while you're asleep but sometimes not.
2006-12-31 01:31:11 · answer #11 · answered by anonymous.thinker 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋