So you've upset a loved one...you feel so very guilty...yet you can't simply say sorry.....why?.....what is so hard about saying this 5 letter word and why do people struggle with beliveing me when I say it?
2006-12-31 01:08:24 · 47 answers · asked by JackLove 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It takes time to build bridges. Well done on taking that first step. Keep trying - find some common ground and work from there.
Or leave it to ya missus to solve the problem, she'll probably want to stick her oar in!
2006-12-31 07:15:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
it needds to be said fom the heart with out this there is no point you trying to say it ,your body language and eye movement gives it away,,if people dont believe you when you say it ,,,ask yourself ,,did you truely mean it ,and i bet the truthfull answer will be no ,for some little reason you didnt ,not totaly ,and this is what people pick up on ,,some people will think ,ok wel at least he tried to say sorry ,and leave it at that ,,others have been so hurt they want a sorry from the heart or not at all,,,,look at the reason you need to say sorry for and was this really worth it and were you really in the wrong if so you can make youeself a better person to think about these reasons ,and be truthful with yourself and decied ,,,,,should you really feel sorry for what you did or said ,,if the answer to this is yes ,,,then feel this guilt ,and only then will you truely be able to say srry from the heart and mean it ,,,,,and do you know what ,,to say it from the heart makes you feel good as well as the other person ,,,not to mention it brings you closer together,,,it brings a trusting bond between you ,,,llike an unspoken word,,its a loverly feeling ,and it makes you more of an adult,....its only denial to ones self that prevents a person from saying sorry,,,,,like admitting you could have been wrong ,,,there is nothing wrong in being wrong if you are adult enough to admit it ,,,,,,,i hope this helps you,,,
2006-12-31 01:27:20 · answer #2 · answered by whitecloud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is such a pride thing. I guess you have to look at the situation from a different point of view. Telling someone your sorry makes them feel good. What is more valuable saying I am so sorry Honey or building resentment from the other person. It's just words. Say it and learn to use it a lot. It is so hard to argue with someone who says I am sorry. In actuality you are controlling the situation because if you say your sorry then the power of your relationship is IN your hands. Your the good guy or gal. I find women say it to often. Even when it is not their fault. Practice saying it with sincerity and believe it when you say it. The tone you use in your voice and eye contact makes a difference.
Kourtnie Donihoo
The E.D.A. Group
2006-12-31 01:24:09 · answer #3 · answered by Kourtnie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have said you are sorry, then that is good enough. If the other person/people want to go back over this then they need to think about why. Are they trying to resurrect an old argument? Do they want you to feel guilty? Is there something else 'underneath' that needs to be resolved. Guilt is destructive, honesty builds bridges, sounds like you are the honest person, don't go over old coals, move on, if you love them they will come along too. Do something different today, surprise them, not with gifts, but with confidence. You can do this , good luck.
2006-12-31 01:17:11 · answer #4 · answered by silentium aqualis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think you should have the courage to say sorry if you are feeling guilty about that happened. it is hard but also at the same time necessary to keep your relation going. I advice you to admit your mistake and simply say sorry.
2006-12-31 01:17:24 · answer #5 · answered by Abazer Siraj Biviji 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's to do with ceding power to someone else. If you are in a relationship where you are both trying, unconsciously, to be boss, then to say "sorry" gives power to the other person.
You probablly find it easy to say "sorry" to a stranger, e.g. you bump into someone, give someone the wrong change in a shop, etc., so it is not the word, it is the person. So examine the issues you have with this/these person(s) first.
2006-12-31 01:18:47 · answer #6 · answered by gorgeousfluffpot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love that person it will not be hard to say. Perhaps you have said it too many times and that is why people struggle to believe you or perhaps you keep making the same mistake!!
2006-12-31 01:12:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The 2 hardest things in life are to say your sorry and to ask for help. This was told to me by a very wise person!
2006-12-31 01:10:35 · answer #8 · answered by oracle1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NOBODY likes to admit they were wrong, but doing so and saying sorry is the best step to resolving the upset and starting communications again.
With that viewpoint, I no longer find it difficult to say sorry as I know it is for the best.
2006-12-31 01:21:02 · answer #9 · answered by Great Eskape 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not hard to say it when you really mean it. Maybe people dont trust you because of a stereotype they associate with men or they may have had past instances where the person lied to them.
2006-12-31 01:10:24 · answer #10 · answered by o0p2k0o 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋