How do you overcome death depression?

Question

Lost 5 Family Members in 5 years. One Son,Mom,Dad,Mother and Father-In-Law!

Answer 1

go to a shrink like i did

Answer 2

Grief Work. There is a simple acronym for it: TEAR

To accept the reality of the loss.
Experience the pain of the loss.
Adjust to the new environment without your loved ones.
Reinvest in the new reality.

Grieving is a complicated process and different for everyone but there are some commonalities: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance .. there may be more or less for you.

Here are some suggestions I've used in grief counseling...hope they help you.

Allow yourself to feel the pain of the loss. This 'being strong' nonsense will stifle your healing process. One way to work through this is to grab a couple tablets of paper ... write down all the joys and sorrows experienced with the lives now separated from yours. You will cry, yes...but you will laugh, too. You will realize how each one has added to and shaped YOUR life and the blessings their lives bestowed on yours. Then, wander out to the nearest park .. outdoors, with the serenity of nature all around you. Find a barbeque pit and light a fire in it. Then, tear the pages out of the tablets and drop them in the fire ... blessing each as they are lifted skyward in a new form.

At the end of the process .. you will feel remarkably free, and likely come to an understanding that we all pass through this life for a reason .. with lessons to be learned and then shared.

I lost three family members within a couple months of each other .. one more a year later. It was not easy, but not as hard as with the loss of my daughter in '72. I still have no memory of the first year after her death...and mourned her loss for two decades. I knew nothing of grief work...but someone finally shared this method for healing ... and now I'm passing it on to you.

After the cleansing event, reinvest in your new reality. Learn something new every day. Make a list of 10 things you want to do in your life .. put it in your wallet ... refer to it often ...and do something toward those goals every day.

Answer 3

No death is ever easy as you probably know. You have had a lot of trauma in a short period of time. There is a technique called EFT which is short for emotional freedom technique. It is a series of tapping on certain accupressure points which can be helpful in releasing the severe feelings of depression. You can just type EFT into your browser and on the website get free help and downloads. There are also programs you can buy if you would like to go further. Everone should know this stuff. I hope this was helpful.

Answer 4

You have suffered incredible losses. Please accept my sincere condolences. As you are aware, Depression is a biological disease that tends to run in families and can result in death if not treated. I say this with the utmost respect for what you have endured and for all people who suffer from what feels like falling into a big dark hole and not knowing how or maybe not caring how to climb out of it. Depression is treatable, but, it takes alot of work to find 1) the right psychiatrist for possible medication (yes! there are miracle meds available, but takes time to find the right med or combination/dose, etc) monitoring. 2) the right therapist or mental health counselor (talking and developing trust with another human being is crucial in the long term) This is just as important as finding the right medication to help strike that fine balance of brain neurotransmitters. 3) the next step is avoiding the self-perpetuating isolation that many depression sufferers face. This means when you have accomplished #1,#2, find a purpose (other than work). This means learning to engage in life on a deeper level. Volunteering (even if its 1-2x month) can help find meaning to life. Its those little things that "just happen" every day that will all of a sudden highlight the day instead of waiting for some profound act. This is an exercise in letting go of self-centeredness (something we as humans all endure) and finally 4) learning from all of these things to trust in something much greatger than ourselves (whether its God or the Universe or the color blue). You have suffered great pain. Please use all of this to build on helping yourself, which in turn may help someone else one day.

Answer 5

Oh Donna, how terrible for you...I can't even fathom losing that many family members...and in so close a time...but the only comfort I can truly offer you, is to mourn, and keep saying your prayers to our Father, through His Son, Jesus,....with the hope that you will see your family members again ....they are sleeping, for remember our dearly departed know nothing, ...It doesn't ease our pain I know, and time is a great healer,...although losing so many close to you seems like a huge mountain of grief to conquer...Donna,...maybe you can try to go to the hospital or join a group out there that could share their experiences with you, and help you make it through each day...and pray to the Lord, to help ease your mind,...my thoughts and prayers are with you...what else can I really say...

Answer 6

Well first you should think o what you did for them think positive. But if that just makes you sadder try to get if off your mind for a while. Maybe try to tlk with your friends or a concler it wil definitely help. Also if its really bad ask your doctor about taking depression pills. Well i hope this advice works.

Answer 7

My dad had depression, and he was admitted to the hospital. You have to remind them that there is a lot of things worth living for, like you. They should take their medications as prescribed. They should also think about seeing a psychaitrist.

Answer 8

you have taken the first step and realizing you need help as well. talk to a doctor or physiologist.but please talk to someone. talk to your spouse let them know how you are feeling. there is nothing worse then to loose a loved one. and it takes time to get over that lose and if you loose another before you have dealt with the lose of the first one is just piles up on you and gets very over whelming. please talk to someone that you trust and you can tell everything to. my step dad almost killed himself recently and instead at the last min. told my mom how he was feeling and went to the doctors office and went to get help and now he is back at work and on track. thank god we love him very much just had no idea that life was so hard on him lately. for the rest of your family and the ones you love you truly get help. talk, talk, talk. god bless you and my prayers are with you.

Answer 9

My wife ended in a mental ward, with lots of treatment, she is better now, but still seeing a shrink,

Answer 10

I'm so sorry! You could go to a shrink and talk. But I think lots of time really is what you need.

Answer 11

Seriously, get some professional counseling and consider anti-depressants.