i had a breakup with my ex several years ago because he use to take me 4 granted and tried to cheat on me so i knida broke up with him,since then hez been trying really hard to get me back,ofen i get to know from people that he says really nice things about me but im really confused i cant really figure out wether i still like him or not im actually really confused i dont know what should be my future course of action..plz tell me should i trust him..does he really desrves a second chance or should i move on ?
2006-12-31 00:41:48 · 9 answers · asked by tina h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would really evaluate - Do you really like him, or did you really like what you wanted him to be. My ex did the same thing, and wanted to get together because he needed to talk about things while he had another girlfriend, "just talk". Well, he wanted to come over after we ate and me "give him a back rub", Of course I didn't allow him. If he had a girlfriend and wanted to come back over and cheat on her, then he obviously had it in his blood and would do it all over again on me. He will still call, especially when he breaks up with someone. I have thought about it, but I also thought about his jelousy and posessiveness and have turned him down everytime. I am sure he has made improvements in his life, but our life together is over and we both have changed. He told me good things when he calls about out lives together. I don't want to have any more bad things to add to those memories. I an no longer that person that we were when we dated. Yes, we had good moments too. You have to evaluate that part of you. Do you want to wonder if he is out and do you think you would have that trust that he lost in you. Is it worth it? I no longer gave second chances because, then it wound up being 3rd, and 4th. It wasn't worth my broken heart. There was more to it than the cheating for me. I now have a good quality boyfriend who has good morals and standards that I have and wouldn't hurt me with a fly. I am so glad I never went back with my ex. I wish the best for you in whatever decision you make. Think long and hard before you make that decision. Make a list.
If you do decide, make sure you just meet as friends and get to know each other again. If you get any warning signs, don't continue it any further than friends. You will know the warning signs.
2006-12-31 00:54:50 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody deserves a second chance. If you still care for him and want him back in your life---then call him over, talk about why you broke up, ask if he also has any points that hurt him or made him want to cheat. Discuss how both of you can work on these shortcomings so that the siyuation does not repeat itself. If you get a good feeling about the mutual effort, then give the relationship another shot. Anything worth it, has to worked at.
2006-12-31 08:48:17 · answer #2 · answered by itsmehuh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People say that leopards never change their spots - but I do not believe that. Some people do learn from their mistakes. It will take time to trust him again but if there are feelings there then give it another go. Only you can decide if that is what you want. If you do take him back set the ground rules from day one
2006-12-31 08:46:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is to try to find him, and to have a little good and polite chat with him and ask him what's going on? Does he love you anymore or not?
After you talk with him, you'll gonna make yourself an idea about his feelings!
Good luck and have a happy new year, darlin!
2006-12-31 08:48:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter had this same exact problem, she finally decided that she should move on with her life. She has and now cannot understand what she ever saw in her ex bf.
I think you should move on and find a new love.
2006-12-31 08:45:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give him a second chance but be weary since he tried to cheat on you, he may try it again. He will have to work very hard at regaining your trust.
2006-12-31 08:45:32 · answer #6 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Make up your own mind. If you're not smart (mature) enough to know what to do, you're obviously not ready to be in a relationship with a guy. If you re-hook up with this guy and he mistreats you again, are you gonna blame us? You don't HAVE TO have a boyfriend, ya know? Grow up and get real.
2006-12-31 08:44:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't understand why he would want to get back with a female with grammar as good as my 3 year old brother....just saying...
lol
2006-12-31 08:45:33 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Right 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you broke up several years ago, it sounds like you have moved on....if you want to give it another try...go for it..with caution...good luck
2006-12-31 08:45:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋